Disturbing things that I heard Dr.s say in the Labor room

[mamagui]

Shortly after a mama gave birth, "You behaved exactly how I wanted"

While giving an epidural, "Epidurals are actually better for baby"

Care to add to the list?

[alaskansunbeam]

Its a good thing there are so many other good professionals working in ob/gyn!

[AspiringNurseMW]

Ha all these comments about first time mamas from doctors. I just had my first baby 9 days ago with no epidural. When I went in after my water broke the doc who was not my ob/gyn wanted to start pit because I was only 3/90% and I had until 5 am the next day before they recommended I do it well lo and behold that doc who was on call barely had time to gown up and do an episotomy before my baby came out in 2 pushes. After 7 and 1/2 hours of labor my baby boy was born at 0504 :)

If baby was coming out that fast why did you even need an episiotomy?!?

[Spidey's mom, ADN, BSN, RN]

Two pushes? And..........they cut you why?

I was getting ready to tear up towards urethra instead of down

If baby was coming out that fast why did you even need an episiotomy?!?

The answer was a few comments above yours AspiringNurseMW.

[Glycerine82, LPN]

These quotes make me not want to be a labor and delivery nurse.

After doing 4 weeks in L/D rotation I can tell you with all certainty no part of me wants anything to do with L/D nursing. It's been real, I've learned a lot but see ya never! ;-)

Everyone has their department that gives them the warm fuzzies, I tip my hat to whomever gets warm fuzzies in L/D!

[BRing914]

These quotes are actually the reason I want to go into L&D and eventually Midwifery (if my stupid state could get their act together, and stop making it so awful here). Women deserve someone to be there to advocate for them.

Also to the comment about men shouldn't be in women's health, I'm not sure I agree. Where I live we have plenty of awful female drs. I know a doula that had a client decline AROM and the OB threw the hook at her and said "I don't know why you're here if you wont let me do my job." Funny story, she is a dr in my OB's practice, and that only dr I didn't want to end up at my birth. Of course she was the on call when I went into labor. Thank God my daughter came to quickly for her to even be in the room for delivery, but I digress. Anyway, there is a male OB that lives two hours away from where I am, and tons of women make the drive because he is so willing to go above and beyond to ensure mom gets the delivery she wants. He does VBAC2C's, As minimal intervention as possible, he went out on his own time and got certified as a lactation consultant because he was so dissatisfied with the fact that his schooling didn't offer that as part of his OB training, he also gives all of his patients a moby wrap to help encourage bonding between mom and baby.

[BRing914]

Oh goodness. I started a thread like this in a VBAC support group I'm in."

Is this am ICAN group!?!?!

[LaborLoveRN]

I made an early post on this thread and found out after that I got accepted into a CNM program! Yay! I agree with everything you said BRing914!! It's why I chose L&D and then to pursue midwifery! I too have seen plenty of horrible female ob's and plenty wonderful male ones. A male delivered my first and he was wonderful!

[AspiringNurseMW]

Is this am ICAN group!?!?!

No, but I am an ICAN chapter leader. It's literally called VBAC Support Group (with half a dozen other acronyms thrown in there)

[AspiringNurseMW]

These quotes are actually the reason I want to go into L&D and eventually Midwifery (if my stupid state could get their act together, and stop making it so awful here). Women deserve someone to be there to advocate for them.

Also to the comment about men shouldn't be in women's health, I'm not sure I agree. Where I live we have plenty of awful female drs. I know a doula that had a client decline AROM and the OB threw the hook at her and said "I don't know why you're here if you wont let me do my job." Funny story, she is a dr in my OB's practice, and that only dr I didn't want to end up at my birth. Of course she was the on call when I went into labor. Thank God my daughter came to quickly for her to even be in the room for delivery, but I digress. Anyway, there is a male OB that lives two hours away from where I am, and tons of women make the drive because he is so willing to go above and beyond to ensure mom gets the delivery she wants. He does VBAC2C's, As minimal intervention as possible, he went out on his own time and got certified as a lactation consultant because he was so dissatisfied with the fact that his schooling didn't offer that as part of his OB training, he also gives all of his patients a moby wrap to help encourage bonding between mom and baby.

Ditto! I am also part of l&d Facebook group, and it really saddens me when some nurses or doulas post something ridiculous a doctor told a patient (secondhand, not witness) and their first reaction is to doubt the veracity of what was told. That they probably misheard something or their interpretation is incorrect. Like birth trauma/abuse doesn't exist.

Like that Improving Birth series where women write their experiences on cards, to see so many people brush them off!

I am working towards being an L&D nurse and eventually a midwife to help hold that space. To help make sure informed consent isn't a joke or coerced.

I have to say, I can talk the talk now, but I always wonder if I can walk the walk when the time comes. Standing up to doctors, advocating for my patients even if what they want is uncommon or not hospital policy.

[Monkey Nurse, ASN, RN]

"This is the pain of your baby being born"

"Okay, so I'm going to need you to shut up and calm down. You're not helping anyone right now by doing all this screaming."

[rac1, ASN, BSN, RN]

Holy cow! This sounds like assault!

Right?! Personally, I'd like to know the response to the doc that said "Pit the crap out of her until she agrees to get an epidural..."

[OB-nurse2013, BSN, RN]

So agree. I've been debating about cnm school