Did your dating life improve when becoming a male nurse?

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Seeing Myself Out

Seeing Myself Out

Has 6 years experience. 87 Posts

Sucked before, during, and after my nursing career (still working PRN). Then I eventually realized I am not inherently attracted to women or any gender at all so it's all good.

Seeing Myself Out

Seeing Myself Out

Has 6 years experience. 87 Posts

Women want a sugar daddy, now if they'll admit it is another thing.

My dating life was crap before becoming a nurse and it still is.

I dont work full time as nurse, so I got 99 problems but sugar babies ain't one.

Possum_RN

Possum_RN

113 Posts

Honestly, if a guy dropped an "MD bomb" on me during a flirty conversation, I might stick around if he seemed really nice prior to that...... but as someone whose seen Dr. attitudes when **** hits the fan, he might as well drop a stink bomb, for how it would affect my attraction.

But I'm not looking for a sugar-daddy. I lived perfectly well (if frugally) on my CNA paycheck. I've taken steps to live well on an RN paycheck. Any outside contributions to my income will be greatly appreciated, but not necessary in the least. I just ended a long-term relationship with a guy because he could never keep a job, and was working in a grocery store - his philosophy seemed to be to find a sugar-momma and ride the gravy train. Not attractive for long-term relationships, particularly when you are working full time and in nursing school and he's talking about never having found his "calling" - you're approaching middle age, the call is to save for retirement and stay off food stamps!

Whew, sorry if that came off cold, I'm still working though the emotional fallout :lol2:

In any case.... there are people who will gladly help you spend a fat paycheck, of every gender. If that's what you are looking for, your pickup game will be successful. But there are people of every gender as well who care about finding someone who is like-minded about life goals and ambitions.

Personally? I'd love to date a fellow RN: I know how hard you worked for that title, and how hard you work for your paycheck. We'll set a timer - 10 min for each of us to gripe about our jobs each day, and the other must only sympathetically nod.

Corlionie

Corlionie

13 Posts

hahahahahaha

TP801

TP801

17 Posts

Being able to be successful in nursing requires a degree of maturity that many younger guys just don't have (think bar after work/school kind of thing-sorry, I live in an area where beach bars are a plenty). I started my nursing career just after my 20th birthday. I was the friend/girlfriend that had to get home by 10/11pm so that I could get enough sleep for a 12 hour day waking up at 5am the next morning. I owed it to my patients to have an awake, alert, not hung over nurse in the morning.

So, will becoming a nurse make you a more desirable dating prospect? Probably not. Will having a career and priorities in life when looking for a long term relationship with someone else who also has life goals and ambitions? Yeah, probably. What 20-30 year old woman wants someone with a crappy job (I'm talking the kind that will hire a 16 year old for an after school job. Money was not an issue when I married my husband. He made less than half I made but he had a decent job supporting himself and more importantly, goals.) or no job with no desire to improve their life and move out of their parents house? That person could look great and may get plenty of attention at a bar and dates but will likely also get the girl with an equal situation in their life for anything long term.

So basically you're saying that women above the age of 20 is a gold digger, and has ulterior motives with regards to why they actually like a guy?

Wiggly Litchi

476 Posts

So basically you're saying that women above the age of 20 is a gold digger, and has ulterior motives with regards to why they actually like a guy?

There's a difference between being a gold-digger and wanting a guy that's self-sufficient/responsible. Speedy even stated in her post that her husband made less than half of what she did, yet he was able to support himself and had goals.

Ambition is incredibly attractive - working 5hr shifts at McDonald's because it's easy and leaves tons of time for couch surfing is not.

Does this make more sense?

The guy could be broke, but if he was making a sincere effort to get out of the hole, that's awesome - life's hard sometimes.

We're not after the guy's paycheck, but we want to know that the guy is capable of taking care of himself. Not signing up to babysit.

Catchfriday010

Catchfriday010

5 Posts

When I became a male nurse student in 1979 I was in a nursing home with 52 female nurses, and settled for a Chinese Nurse and that took 6 years out of my life, till that nurse had a baby with a doctor. The next nurse I met I was with 11 years until she died of breast cancer, and now my present partner is a nurse.

I have never used dating apps like Tinder and wouldn't. I understand that men use them for having sex when they want - likelihood of STDs.

I met my present partner online on a particular site - I was drawn to her by her faith.

Farawyn

Has 25 years experience. 12,646 Posts

There's a difference between being a gold-digger and wanting a guy that's self-sufficient/responsible. Speedy even stated in her post that her husband made less than half of what she did, yet he was able to support himself and had goals.

Ambition is incredibly attractive - working 5hr shifts at McDonald's because it's easy and leaves tons of time for couch surfing is not.

Does this make more sense?

The guy could be broke, but if he was making a sincere effort to get out of the hole, that's awesome - life's hard sometimes.

We're not after the guy's paycheck, but we want to know that the guy is capable of taking care of himself. Not signing up to babysit.

THIS!!!

WalterWho

WalterWho

Specializes in Intensive Care and Perianesthesia Care. Has 5 years experience. 1 Article; 57 Posts

Funny, I was just talking about this the other day. I'm married now, but back in the good ol days I actually found that being a male nurse did help in the dating game, but maybe not in the way some might think. I don't think there were any girls that felt an immediate attraction to me after learning I was a nurse, rather I think being a nurse enabled me to be more socially comfortable, have more open and honest discussion, and to remain cool in intimate situations, which in turn may have had a role in all the things that happened and those that didn't, but who knows for sure. For example; I was having a drink at a local bar with my brother who was on leave from the army. The bartender was this cute young girl, sweet too, and we chatted quite a bit, innocent friendly things, but afterwards my brother whispers to me "how do you do that?" "do what?" "talk so easy to girls." I laughed out loud "i'm a nurse, bro!" and he just nodded like oh, that makes sense​

Persephone Paige, ADN

Has 15 years experience. 1 Article; 696 Posts

I definitely got more action.

Ben_Dover

Ben_Dover

254 Posts

Ratio at that time when I was in school was 35:5, Ladies Versus Gentlemen.

I wasn't dating when I was in nursing school. But I had some memorable memories with some of my female study-buddies.

Fun times!

GBC_Student, BSN, RN

Has 8 years experience. 149 Posts

I met my current girlfriend online when I was training to be an LPN. Now I'm back in school getting my bscn. She told me that she initially became attracted to because of how my profile was written. She said the nursing thing was just a bonus.