Deciding to have a baby after ADN

meanmaryjean, DNP, RN · Sep 26, 2018

First, you don't get to decide how people respond when you post online.

Second, conception on demand is not a given. Not is a healthy, full-term newborn. Something to consider.

mtmkjr, BSN · Sep 26, 2018

I admire you for having high aspirations, and for wanting a family, but if you were my daughter...

If you want 4 kids while working full time and going to school, something is going to suffer...you, your kids, your husband, your job, or your studies. That's burning the candle at both ends and melting in the middle.

If you want to enjoy your family and your work, I'd advise to slow down a bit. You have so much ahead of you! Don't think you have to reach all your goals in as short of a time as possible.

ARODtheCRNA2b · Sep 27, 2018

First, you don't get to decide how people respond when you post online.
Second, conception on demand is not a given. Not is a healthy, full-term newborn. Something to consider.

Well looks like your username is correct. Mean much? This is exactly the negativity i was hoping to keep away from my post. I didnt say conception on demand. These are all hypotheticals at the moment and im trying to decide the best way to go about my life. But thanks for the input.

ARODtheCRNA2b · Sep 27, 2018

I admire you for having high aspirations, and for wanting a family, but if you were my daughter...
If you want 4 kids while working full time and going to school, something is going to suffer...you, your kids, your husband, your job, or your studies. That's burning the candle at both ends and melting in the middle.
If you want to enjoy your family and your work, I'd advise to slow down a bit. You have so much ahead of you! Don't think you have to reach all your goals in as short of a time as possible.

Hello and thank you much for the advice. I should have elaborated better when i posted this. We want 4 kids, 2 biological and we want to adopt 2( not necessarily new borns). I just wanted to get a sense of what my life would be like if we do decide to take this path.

meanmaryjean, DNP, RN · Sep 27, 2018

Well looks like your username is correct. Mean much? This is exactly the negativity i was hoping to keep away from my post. I didnt say conception on demand. These are all hypotheticals at the moment and im trying to decide the best way to go about my life. But thanks for the input.

I said nothing negative. Only fact.

mtmkjr, BSN · Sep 28, 2018

Hello and thank you much for the advice. I should have elaborated better when i posted this. We want 4 kids, 2 biological and we want to adopt 2( not necessarily new borns). I just wanted to get a sense of what my life would be like if we do decide to take this path.

I think that is awesome! All the more reason to take it a little slower... adoption, which I think it great, especially older adoptions, likely will demand more of your attention.

subee, MSN, CRNA · Sep 28, 2018

If you plan on having 4 kids and going to CRNA school, you are having an intense fantasy. This is a lengthy, expensive and exhaustive process which will require ALL of your attention and financial resources. Life just happens to us despite what our plans are.

Leader25, ASN, BSN, RN · Sep 29, 2018

you are not a RN nor a CRNA yet so please as per policy ... you know ....it has to go.

Not trying to be mean but the way you responded to advice you requested shows you might have a difficult time keeping up with your dreams.

and you did say you wanted to "conceive" during a summer if that isn't on demand I don't know what is.

ARODtheCRNA2b · Sep 29, 2018

Not trying to be mean but the way you responded to advice you requested shows you might have a difficult time keeping up with your dreams.

Not quite sure what you mean by this.... I have my path planned out, just trying to find the best spot to fit a baby in, I wanted to know what other moms did during their similar career path and similar situations. That's your opinion and I respect that but I'm the kind of person that goes after what they want. Everyone said "dont move out, you wont stay afloat by yourself", I've had my own place for two years, i moved out when I was 18. Then I wanted a new car and everyone said it was a bad idea because money and its a big commitment, I got a car of the year and it's halfway paid off and I'm 19. I understand it can be dificult to get advice that will fit your life but I've actually used the advice i got on here and made my "fantasies" work. I refuse to believe that women cant have it all. Regardless, even if it might not seem like I respect you guys' opinions and im "lashing out" maybe, I do respect your opinions and I've actually taken some of you guys' advice.

Emergent, RN · Sep 29, 2018

You have a lot of ambitious plans. Personally, I'd advise cooling your jets and slowing down. Make it through your ADN. Go ahead and have the babies. I think it's great to do that while young. You can also start your BSN at some point.

A lot depends on your support system and your personal strengths and abilities. Personally I loved spending lots of time with my babies. They are such needy, helpless little things!

Getting into CRNA school is no walk in the park. A lot of things have to fall into place. I think you should take everything one step at a time.

ARODtheCRNA2b · Sep 29, 2018

That's what I was thinking as well, getting my ADN and having the baby. Then going to my BSN. It looks like I won't be able to get enrolled in a CRNA program before 2022. So ill have to get my DNP anyways.