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Isabelle49

Specializes in Home Health.

I knew there was something up one day while I was in the spare bedroom doing home health paperwork. My dog always gets on the bed and lays near me. This day she was restless, she kept walking along the edge of the mattress, back and forth and each time she reached the corner of the bead nearest my sons guitar she leaned forward and sniffed - she did this several times, until she walked to the foot of the bed and put her paw up and moved it as if she was pawing at something or giving a hand shake, while looking up. I think my son was in the room. He was killed in an auto accident a little less than 1 year earlier. I believe!

Old.Timer

Has 25ish years experience.

Thanks guys for all the responses so far. I read them all and I'm intrigued. But what I'm looking for is more hospice nurse stories about your patients. If there are any here, describe your dying patients last days and words. Usually the result I've read is the person experiencing pure joy or pure terror at their moment of death. Seeing angels, demons, past families, and friends for days up until that time. Describe situations like this if you can please. Thanks!

Thanks CapeCodMermaid! Your story is exactly what I was looking for! Simply amazing!! And I think she was talking to Jesus!

Ag man,

I'm curious, You just joined today and your first post is requesting info about very specific type situations. Are you gathering these stories to include in some sort of publication or project? It's a good topic, just makes me wonder whether there isn't more to why you are asking, that's all.

Reese2012

Has 3 years experience.

ok this does not relate to hospice or seeing the person (physically) before they passed but its pretty good. I was about 12yrs old and at the time I did not know my grandma on my mom's side had breast cancer. I went to sleep and in my dream my grandma came to me saying "Everything is going to be ok, do not worry." Now of course at that age and since it was a dream I did not think anything of it. When I woke up that moring I went into my mom's room, not sure why, and I saw her on the phone in tears. Appearently my grandma passed away due to a heartattack. I am not sure why my grandma came to me the night before, but it is one of those moments I will never forget.

BTW I never did tell my mom this story only because I thought it would freak her out :/

Once I had an elderly woman (can't really remember what was wrong with her , but I do know we did not expect her to pass away) who kept telling the staff that her mother was at the foot of the bed and she was going to be "taking her away" soon. Everyone just brushed it off and didn't take her seriously. Sure enough she passed away within the next 48 hours after she started seeing her mother.

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma. Has 41 years experience.

Here is another of my....."Over the years" openers. So here it goes.....

I have seen and bore witness to many odd "coincidences" over the years. That patient the has one foot in the grave and another one one the banana peel that hangs on for days......until that one family member gets there. I have had the patients that look over to the corner and speak to someone who isn't there, smile, close their eyes and pass away. I have had patients successfully resuscitated and able to recall conversations in the room during the code......the one supporter of the "dying brain" theory, and talk of lights and tunnels.

But there was one story that has stuck with me. The was a 50 something year old male came into the ED after dropping on the golf course. He was alert with crushing chest pain and went immediately to Cath lab. While in Cath lab, it was noted he had severe disease with a high grade L main occlusion......he coded. He was rushed to the OR with CPR in progress. He returned to the ICU much later that night on a balloon pump in critical condition. He spent several weeks in ICU on the pump and was never able to be weaned. During those weeks he wrote massive amounts about his experience, he knew the colors of the monitors in the OR and in what order they were, he described where everybody stood. He talked of walking around the OR trying to get everyone's attention that he knew what was going on. He stated he wasn't in pain but he knew it was him on the table but he elaborated about one particular subject......the black pump man. He wrote on and on how he wanted to thank the "Black pump man".

His perfusionist, one of the best I have ever worked with.......was a black man. :eek:

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma. Has 41 years experience.

My next story is a personal one......

My Grandma was 90 years old when she feel and broke her neck (odontoid fracture) while cleaning dust bunnies in the corner of her bedroom (yes she lived alone). How she didn't die right then and there I'll never know. After a few weeks in the hospital and a complicated course in the hospital with every complication imaginable......her deterioration was VERY apparent........we decided on no surgery and to bring Grammy home.

Grams had become very confused and fragile in stature, not nature...:uhoh3:. We set up a hospital bed in my Aunt living room and I slept her bedside 24/7 to keep her safe. Please don't think I'm crazy when I say this, but those were probably amongst the BEST times I have ever spent with her. She talked to Aunt's and Uncles, long since gone. She regularlary chewed my Grandfather a new rear end for one thing or another. She thought I was my mother and regularlary called me by her name. In the middle of the night we would have these family reunions as she removed her hard cervical collar and tapped it on the side rail and would ask incessantly....."Shirley? (tap, tap,tap) Shirley....... can I take this off??"

It was like we were replaying her life in fast forward. One night she got me up by rapping her C-Collar....she wanted "2 of them fresh eggs...poached, a ball game and a bottle of beer". Of which I complied. As several nights go by she started talking to my Grandfather more and more (who had been gone for 30 years or so) and they made a date for dinner at the end of the week.

The night before her "date" I woke up to hear her talking to someone on the couch. She was animated and happy but it was creepy because her answers were yes and no and thank you and I will...... When I asked her who she was talking to she scolded me to be quite and to respect my elders. She told "whomever" good bye and went to sleep and for the first time in weeks there was no family reunion at 3 am.

The next night I woke up to my Grammy smiling and reaching out for, I assume, my Pap......she said..."I 'm ready to go home now Dad..." she closed her eyes and passed away......:crying2:

And thsoe last few weeks were the best for me....I got to know relatives long since dead...I really do believe.

TonyaM73, ASN, RN

Specializes in MED/SURG STROKE UNIT, LTC SUPER., IMU. Has 10 years experience.

Wow Esme! Just WOW! What a wonderful story! Gave me goosebumps and made me smile all at the same time.

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma. Has 41 years experience.

Wow Esme! Just WOW! What a wonderful story! Gave me goosebumps and made me smile all at the same time.

Thank you.........And that's what nursing's all about......:yeah:

My next story is a personal one......

My Grandma was 90 years old when she feel and broke her neck (odontoid fracture) while cleaning dust bunnies in the corner of her bedroom (yes she lived alone). How she didn't die right then and there I'll never know. After a few weeks in the hospital and a complicated course in the hospital with every complication imaginable......her deterioration was VERY apparent........we decided on no surgery and to bring Grammy home.

Grams had become very confused and fragile in stature, not nature...:uhoh3:. We set up a hospital bed in my Aunt living room and I slept her bedside 24/7 to keep her safe. Please don't think I'm crazy when I say this, but those were probably amongst the BEST times I have ever spent with her. She talked to Aunt's and Uncles, long since gone. She regularlary chewed my Grandfather a new rear end for one thing or another. She thought I was my mother and regularlary called me by her name. In the middle of the night we would have these family reunions as she removed her hard cervical collar and tapped it on the side rail and would ask incessantly....."Shirley? (tap, tap,tap) Shirley....... can I take this off??"

It was like we were replaying her life in fast forward. One night she got me up by rapping her C-Collar....she wanted "2 of them fresh eggs...poached, a ball game and a bottle of beer". Of which I complied. As several nights go by she started talking to my Grandfather more and more (who had been gone for 30 years or so) and they made a date for dinner at the end of the week.

The night before her "date" I woke up to hear her talking to someone on the couch. She was animated and happy but it was creepy because her answers were yes and no and thank you and I will...... When I asked her who she was talking to she scolded me to be quite and to respect my elders. She told "whomever" good bye and went to sleep and for the first time in weeks there was no family reunion at 3 am.

The next night I woke up to my Grammy smiling and reaching out for, I assume, my Pap......she said..."I 'm ready to go home now Dad..." she closed her eyes and passed away......:crying2:

And thsoe last few weeks were the best for me....I got to know relatives long since dead...I really do believe.

This is so beautiful, worth reading the post for. Thank you so much for sharing...:)

Just recently we had an elderly gentleman who was actively dying and saw an angel and his wife who had passed 20 years ago. :D

Reese 2012

One of my coworkers had suffered a massive MI. Over the course of the next 2 years, she would be in the hospital frequently in our ICU. I worked nights and we would talk about everything. At times we would pray, other times I would just sit with her if we wern't too crazy busy. I was going to be off over the weekend. She told me that she wasn't going to have a funeral or put her obit in the paper and that she was going to pass soon. Thurs. morning I hugged her, told her I loved her and that I would see her on Mon. Sat. night @ 1:30am I had a "dream" that she had come over to tell me good-bye and she would see me later. I found out Monday that it was the exact time she had passed.

I am not a nurse but admire and respect you. I am also new to this site. My best friend of 30 years has been fight lung cancer and was recently told that there was nothing else that could be done for her. I went to see her tonight after work for a long overdue visit. she told me that she had not said anything to anyone else but for the last 2 weeks she has been seeing and sometimes interacting children in her room, their backs are turned and they are watching tv.

One little girl she decribed sounded very much like her as a child. I am wondering if anyone has heard of young children helping the dying to pass over?

I found this site from searching to maybe give her an answer, I read post 1 to the last of 97. Very touching experiences.

My mother passed at home with my brother and myself and i tell friends that are going through it, it's the last place I ever thought I would want to be and the only place i could be. I miss my mom. Thanks for any help in helping me comfort my friend, and partner in crime. God Bless you All for the work and caring you give everyday.

TonyaM73, ASN, RN

Specializes in MED/SURG STROKE UNIT, LTC SUPER., IMU. Has 10 years experience.

It is amazing all of the things we know that we don't know. I think God gives us the comfort that we need at a time when we need it the most. If this vision is comforting to her, then that may be all there is to it. Good luck and God Bless to you and your friend. Just be there for her, talk and hug!

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma. Has 41 years experience.

I am not a nurse but admire and respect you. I am also new to this site. My best friend of 30 years has been fight lung cancer and was recently told that there was nothing else that could be done for her. I went to see her tonight after work for a long overdue visit. she told me that she had not said anything to anyone else but for the last 2 weeks she has been seeing and sometimes interacting children in her room, their backs are turned and they are watching tv.

One little girl she decribed sounded very much like her as a child. I am wondering if anyone has heard of young children helping the dying to pass over?

I found this site from searching to maybe give her an answer, I read post 1 to the last of 97. Very touching experiences.

My mother passed at home with my brother and myself and i tell friends that are going through it, it's the last place I ever thought I would want to be and the only place i could be. I miss my mom. Thanks for any help in helping me comfort my friend, and partner in crime. God Bless you All for the work and caring you give everyday.

I think we all have our own special angles that come to guide us on our next stage of life. I have had many patients speak of children in the weeks leading to their final hours. My Dad also saw children that were not relatives on several occasions and would talk to them occasionaly, although he "knew" they weren't there.....we didn't know it a the time, as we thought it was new meds they put him on, he was hospitalized coded and passed away a few weeks later. I think you just need to acknowledge what she is saying and remember children are the most innocent of souls, let her know everyone willl be OK and that you will love her forever and someday you'll once again be partners in crime. :heartbeat My prayers for you and you friend to find peace...:redbeathe

Hi, the Deathbed Visions thread on this forum also amazed me. I found it when my dad was dying of pancreatic cancer and had a deathbed vision in front of me TWICE the day before he died. One seemed like a good one but one was very horrible. There are many people who, if they haven't been near a dying person, have never heard of this and there are no films that I can find on the topic. Most publicity has been given to Near Death Experiences, which are much different than this. The experience of losing a loved one is the most unbearable of all things in life.

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A couple of weeks before my Mom died she told my Dad that she had seen her Dad and his parents. Three days before she died(that was the last day she was awake) she told me she was going to die and was going to h ell. I told her no, she wasn't going there.

Makes me get sad just thinking about it.

Philly_LPN_Girl, LPN

Has 5 years experience.

A couple of weeks before my Mom died she told my Dad that she had seen her Dad and his parents. Three days before she died(that was the last day she was awake) she told me she was going to die and was going to h ell. I told her no, she wasn't going there.

Makes me get sad just thinking about it.

Oh my, I wonder what happened for your mother to think that?

Philly_LPN_Girl, LPN

Has 5 years experience.

Ive always heard of people seeing lights, God/Jesus, clouds, felt at piece, etc Ive never heard of anyone having a near death experience and seeing dark, feel not at peace, except when I was in Target one time and this guy claimed he went to hell in his near death experience