some of my classmates are bullying me. i feel like i am in high school all over again. what should i do? should i report what they have done to my professor? i feel like my professor is really good friends with one of the bullies, so i don't know how that will go and if my professor will do anything to help me. basically they made fun of my age (they made a statement how nurses should be graduating by 20 or 21 in their home country) and i'm 23.. i feel like they hold a resentment because i am not like them and from their country...and then another one of the students made fun of the fact that i have a tendency to go to the bathroom a lot. it usually comes up in topic of discussion when we are in a group setting, but it really doesn't bother me or make me feel embarassed because doesn't everyone need to go to the bathroom?
what should i do? should i just blow it off or tell my professor? i really don't see this prson that often. i can try to avoid the main bully the whole year and just try to avoid the other bullies or lay low. i have about five months until i graduate but i really don't want to start anything huge because i just want to graduate and leave.
please help? i don't know why they want to start picking fights when we're almost about to graduate. it's kind of annoying.
I was 25 when I was in the last 6 months of nursing school. and there was a 19 yr old bully in my class as well. She never missed a chance to be hateful to me. Normally she never bothered me I did the smile and nod routine and it always infuriated her. One day at lunch I sat down with her and her cronies. and told her I got her lunch for her and I pulled out a complete meal of meat, vegetables, and dessert out of my bag. They were all jars of baby food and then I picked up my tray and walked away. She left me alone after that. that was 35 yrs ago and I still laugh about it.
This much I do know I never ever ran into her after school and I had a very long and happy career in nursing. And in the long run they mean absolutely nothing later on in life as a nurse.
The most effective way to deal with bullies is laughter. When they tease you about going to the bathroom so often, tell them that at your old age, bathrooms are your friend, and when they get to be your age, they will understand. It immediately takes ammunition out of their jabs and also gives you the upper hand because you are at once acknowledging their "digs" and dissipating any thoughts of your being sensitive about it. In nature, the weak member of the pack is always targeted...so don't show weakness. Don't let them know that your feelings are hurt or that you are disturbed in the least by their comments. Laugh about it, and they will leave you alone.
I was going to say the same thing. Sometimes, our actions--even those which are a basic need like urinating frequently--are sort of funny, aren't they? Your sensitivity makes you a target, however wrong that is.
I'm 40, so it's taken me a long time to make fun of myself. But, once you get there, your life will be much, much better. :heartbeat
Don't let that upset you or get in your way to success. I would ignore them as long as they don't interfere with what I need to get done. Sometimes bad attitude ruins your whole day. Just keep your head up. Think that your goal is do well in your field. I told myself on the very first day, I am not here to make friends. If I do end up making friends, great. If not, it's not going to upset me or anything. Just do yourself a favor, focus on what's important to you. I know pleasing others isn't a priority for me at school or work.
Specializes in drug seekers and the incurably insane..
A couple of years ago....there was this "know-it-all type of nurse causing me problems everyday she worked. Would roll her eyes during report, ask a bunch of impertinent questions in order to make herself seem smarter, and was an all-out wretch!! One morning I was sick of listening to her histrionics so....I told her in a deadly calm voice that she and I could settle her "issues" in here in the nurses' station or we could go outside and settle them. Try that approach but be careful: she could, in turn, slap a "I'm so scared of my life around her" kind report to the higher-ups. Good luck.
some of my classmates are bullying me. i feel like i am in high school all over again. what should i do? should i report what they have done to my professor? i feel like my professor is really good friends with one of the bullies, so i don't know how that will go and if my professor will do anything to help me. basically they made fun of my age (they made a statement how nurses should be graduating by 20 or 21 in their home country) and i'm 23.. i feel like they hold a resentment because i am not like them and from their country...and then another one of the students made fun of the fact that i have a tendency to go to the bathroom a lot. it usually comes up in topic of discussion when we are in a group setting, but it really doesn't bother me or make me feel embarassed because doesn't everyone need to go to the bathroom?
what should i do? should i just blow it off or tell my professor? i really don't see this prson that often. i can try to avoid the main bully the whole year and just try to avoid the other bullies or lay low. i have about five months until i graduate but i really don't want to start anything huge because i just want to graduate and leave.
please help? i don't know why they want to start picking fights when we're almost about to graduate. it's kind of annoying.
I was 25 when I was in the last 6 months of nursing school. and there was a 19 yr old bully in my class as well. She never missed a chance to be hateful to me. Normally she never bothered me I did the smile and nod routine and it always infuriated her. One day at lunch I sat down with her and her cronies. and told her I got her lunch for her and I pulled out a complete meal of meat, vegetables, and dessert out of my bag. They were all jars of baby food and then I picked up my tray and walked away. She left me alone after that. that was 35 yrs ago and I still laugh about it.
This much I do know I never ever ran into her after school and I had a very long and happy career in nursing. And in the long run they mean absolutely nothing later on in life as a nurse.
Next time they make rude comments just give them a puzzled look and say "I'm not sure what you mean?'. From my experience I find this really works, especially in front of others because it puts them in a very uncomfortable position.
Dalzac that is pure gold! Love it!
Dalzac, LPN, LVN, RN
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I was 25 when I was in the last 6 months of nursing school. and there was a 19 yr old bully in my class as well. She never missed a chance to be hateful to me. Normally she never bothered me I did the smile and nod routine and it always infuriated her. One day at lunch I sat down with her and her cronies. and told her I got her lunch for her and I pulled out a complete meal of meat, vegetables, and dessert out of my bag. They were all jars of baby food and then I picked up my tray and walked away. She left me alone after that. that was 35 yrs ago and I still laugh about it.
This much I do know I never ever ran into her after school and I had a very long and happy career in nursing. And in the long run they mean absolutely nothing later on in life as a nurse.