Dating former patient

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hi I am in a very difficult situation and need sum advice...I have been asked on a date by a friend of a friend who happened to be a patient for very short time in psychiatric unit after a previous relationship failed for depression. He asked my friend about me after he left. I was never his nurse and not even sure if I wrote in his notes...this was about a year ago. Hes not in the services anymore and I don't remember any confidential info about him only why he was there. Is it wrong for me to accept this date?

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Me personally I wouldn't but that's just me though. I think it would be very awkward and you do know about his hospital admission because you just stated why he was admitted. That's very confidential.

You don't have to write in text language on this forum.

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Never a good idea. But again, that is just me.

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.

No, no, no would be my advice. It sounds kind of spooky that he asked after you.

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Specializes in Rehab/Brain/Stroke/Spine.

No, I would never consider it period. I also find it "spooky" that he asked.

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Specializes in Emergency.

Run, don't walk. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and this one smells a little off.

But not to be flip. The context of your original meeting does not place you on the correct footing to start a relationship with this person, it could be problematic for your job and your license and I for one would be super creeped out if a former patient was asking about me in this context.

Is it really worth it for a date?

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Specializes in Gerontology RN-BC and FNP MSN student.
hi I am in a very difficult situation and need sum advice...I have been asked on a date by a friend of a friend who happened to be a patient for very short time in psychiatric unit after a previous relationship failed for depression. He asked my friend about me after he left. I was never his nurse and not even sure if I wrote in his notes...this was about a year ago. Hes not in the services anymore and I don't remember any confidential info about him only why he was there. Is it wrong for me to accept this date?

After a previous relationship failed he was in the psych unit for depression? Why would you even go there? Plz don't do this to him or yourself.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
hi I am in a very difficult situation and need some advice...I have been asked on a date by a friend of a friend who happened to be a patient for very short time in psychiatric unit after a previous relationship failed for depression. He asked my friend about me after he left. I was never his nurse and not even sure if I wrote in his notes...this was about a year ago. Hes not in the services anymore and I don't remember any confidential info about him only why he was there. Is it wrong for me to accept this date?
He was looking at you while in the hospital for depression from a previous relationship.....

I don't think there is a question....and it has nothing to do with ethics. I think that this maybe an individual that has "issues" and you are probably better off NOT getting involved...AT ALL.

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Specializes in CDI Supervisor; Formerly NICU.

Good old Esme. Can always count on you to cut through the chaff. Ha.

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Specializes in Psych.

You should properly decline to avoid hurting his feelings.

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You have an easy "out" right now. You can simply pass on the message that you're not allowed to date a former pt - leave it at that. You don't have to get into all the minutiae of whether you were actually assigned to him as his nurse. No feelings hurt. I agree with everyone else. There very well may be legal/ethical issues with this. But even if it somehow escapes those issues, this guy and the situation itself sound very risky for you with a very high probability of a negative outcome. You are worth more than that.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Good old Esme. Can always count on you to cut through the chaff. Ha.

Why waste words.....

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