Craziest PDN/PDN Venting Thread

I would've freaked out.

Lol yeah me too. Obviously that nurse no longer works with that patient. Hahah!

Then there was the hoarders home. They would get mad if you moved stuff. And I remember them getting mad when someone (agency, I think) told the family that blocking the front door was a fire hazard. They were mad that someone would tell them how to keep their house. There was a path as wide as one foot to walk and balance. I didn't stay there long for lots of reasons! But I've heard of other homes like that in the area from other nurses. It must be common.

I did time in a hoarder home! It was more clutter than poop-in-a-bag hoarder home. They had wheelchair-sized paths around the house. The family was well-off and it was a large house in a nice neighborhood. The matriarch just had an obsession with buying things, multiples of things even, that never got opened or moved. The main living area had SIX of those bird clocks that all went off at once.

Also, one of my last families was a single parent household where the mom was questionably employed. (ie. she was home most of the time with me and the kiddo but would stay in her bedroom for most of the day.) Anyway, she finally admitted one day that she was doing home phone-sex work. Ewwwwwww. Then she tried to get me into it because she made such good money!

I got out of that case pretty fast when it was obvious that mom was going to be looking at a few months of house arrest. The noc nurse, who'd been with the family for several years at that point, told me about the time that mom was arrested & jailed suddenly off a traffic stop and the noc nurse had to take the kiddo to her home for the night until social services could arrange for something. (Vented toddler, so.)

I normally just lurk and read, but this thread was worth creating an account!

I was recently let go from a case because of my patient's crazy father. He told my company that he didn't approve of my personality - this came after being there over a year. SMH

The family was OK, but the longer I was there, the more his crazy came out. Some of the oddities included:

- we were not allowed to use their wi-fi (that in itself wasn't odd, but really, is doesn't cost extra for someone to use their wi-fi - we had to stay awake at night somehow). The weird part was he would often ask how I was on the internet (my smartphone) - "are you on my network?"

- NO medication allowed. I understand that some people don't want to rely on medications - that's fine. His daughter is severely handicapped and nonverbal. Her heart rate would be sky high and tears streaming down her face and he would not allow even Tylenol. She was never ill while worked there, so I don't know what would happen if she were to get sick and require antibiotics.

- Supposedly, we were allowed to use their microwave. Every time I used it, he would be in my patient's room within minutes wanting to know if I had just used it. Never understood that behavior.

- he would walk in the room at random times during the night and just pick up an item and look at it, then walk out. If you want to check on your child or see what I am doing - just walk in and say so.

- he always mentioned that he had "the video" if anything ever came into question. Other nurses mentioned that oddity to me too.

- he expected night shift to fold his daughter's laundry. Huge piles of it. It's as if, they waited weeks to do laundry. (P.S. He was unemployed the entire time I was on that case - could he not fold his kid's laundry?)

- he mentioned on several occasions that the "guest bathroom" was filthy and that he was sick of "just everyone using it". The bathroom was NOT filthy. All of us nurses cleaned up after ourselves and night shift was required to clean it.

- he really did NOT like it if nurse's chatted a bit during report. I'm not talking about long periods of time either. After maybe 5 minutes (and his daughter was OK plus we were in the same room with her), he would come over and say "you nurses having a party?"

Not the worst work situation, I know, but his behavior made work become quite uncomfortable.

I normally just lurk and read, but this thread was worth creating an account!

I was recently let go from a case because of my patient's crazy father. He told my company that he didn't approve of my personality - this came after being there over a year. SMH

The family was OK, but the longer I was there, the more his crazy came out. Some of the oddities included:

- we were not allowed to use their wi-fi (that in itself wasn't odd, but really, is doesn't cost extra for someone to use their wi-fi - we had to stay awake at night somehow). The weird part was he would often ask how I was on the internet (my smartphone) - "are you on my network?"

- NO medication allowed. I understand that some people don't want to rely on medications - that's fine. His daughter is severely handicapped and nonverbal. Her heart rate would be sky high and tears streaming down her face and he would not allow even Tylenol. She was never ill while worked there, so I don't know what would happen if she were to get sick and require antibiotics.

- Supposedly, we were allowed to use their microwave. Every time I used it, he would be in my patient's room within minutes wanting to know if I had just used it. Never understood that behavior.

- he would walk in the room at random times during the night and just pick up an item and look at it, then walk out. If you want to check on your child or see what I am doing - just walk in and say so.

- he always mentioned that he had "the video" if anything ever came into question. Other nurses mentioned that oddity to me too.

- he expected night shift to fold his daughter's laundry. Huge piles of it. It's as if, they waited weeks to do laundry. (P.S. He was unemployed the entire time I was on that case - could he not fold his kid's laundry?)

- he mentioned on several occasions that the "guest bathroom" was filthy and that he was sick of "just everyone using it". The bathroom was NOT filthy. All of us nurses cleaned up after ourselves and night shift was required to clean it.

- he really did NOT like it if nurse's chatted a bit during report. I'm not talking about long periods of time either. After maybe 5 minutes (and his daughter was OK plus we were in the same room with her), he would come over and say "you nurses having a party?"

Not the worst work situation, I know, but his behavior made work become quite uncomfortable.

And you lasted a year? You're better than me! That is definitely an uncomfortable work environment. And welcome to our little world on all nurses!

I worked with a creepy father like that too. The end of that for me was when he told the agency that I needed to be put in my place as a female and a nurse. I have a strong personality and I'm very independent, so that didn't go over well at all!

I would enjoy it! Reasons: I probably would have seen it coming and known HE had it coming!...and to me it sounds like EXCITEMENT in a line of work that sometimes, well, isn't exciting.

And you lasted a year? You're better than me! That is definitely an uncomfortable work environment. And welcome to our little world on all nurses!

I worked with a creepy father like that too. The end of that for me was when he told the agency that I needed to be put in my place as a female and a nurse. I have a strong personality and I'm very independent, so that didn't go over well at all!

Well, I have a family to feed and the hours/days were perfect. That dad seemed to have the same idiotic attitude as the one you worked for - fortunately he never made direct statements saying as much because I don't deal well with that point of view. My mouth tends to get me in trouble - more than once I had to literally bite my tongue to avoid ripping him a new one. He wasn't worth losing income.

Thanks for the welcome!

I would enjoy it! Reasons: I probably would have seen it coming and known HE had it coming!...and to me it sounds like EXCITEMENT in a line of work that sometimes, well, isn't exciting.

Nutty families certainly CAN provide entertainment. You simply have to be able to laugh about some of it to avoid insanity.

I don't do well with long term insanit y, but it's the drug bust I think I'd like!

I LOVE hearing other people's experience's so share away![/quote']

I can't even list all my pen experience. Fires in home in teach/vent o2 homes, DCF cases. Drug use, abuse, neglect, the list goes ON AND ON. I always accommodate the needs of my families, but the strain some families put on the nurse are UNBAREABLE.