Confused between school and preganacy

newbtonursing · Jun 23, 2012

I might suggest speaking with your Nursing Director or professors to see what your options are before you make any final decisions.

I cant imagine how hard this decision must be for you. Hugs.

ejm123 · Jun 23, 2012

Maybe they will be willing to work with you I know several girls who went through nursing and pregnant/had a baby

Lizzie Clayre · Jun 23, 2012

Talk to the director of your program! We had a number of pregnancies, and the students were able to bank clinical days and make arrangements for exams. Worst case scenario, you take a semester off. Please don't have an abortion, that grief lasts a lifetime!

sabita143 · Jun 23, 2012

i found out i was about 6 weeks already and i am 20 years old..i dont think i am ready to handle being a mom and my family will never support me and this baby because they believe in marriage then children...i am totally confused and fustrated.

ejm123 · Jun 23, 2012

Sabita...you have a lot of hard decisions to make. Take some time. Talk to your director, teachers, doctor and close friends and of course the father. It is hard being a mom and being in school. For me having my son at 22 made me change my career all together and decide to be a nurse. Its hard but it's also very rewarding. My little guy is my drive, determination, the reason I work and go to school. We can only offer opinions here on what you should do. Talk with your family...I came from the same type of family I can relate to how it can be, my little one changed the entire dynamic and my family just can't get enough of him. It may be hard to be pregnant and in school but you can look at it this way - you will grow as a person and can look back and say I did it. Good luck to you in the decision that you make.

Darkstar1485, BSN, CNA, LPN, RN · Jun 23, 2012

well i am currently in nursing school, i have 2 semester more until graduation and i recently found out i was pregnant, which means i will either have to stop school and have the baby or do an abortion... i dont know what to do..
please help.

Maybe no one wants to hear this, but i'll say it anyway...

Abortion is a legal option.

I was in the same situation at that age. I decided to have an abortion. I wanted to keep the baby, but I realized that I did not have a support system, my BF didnt want the kid, and I was broke. Nobody loves the idea of and abortion (i certainly didnt) but its a legal option. I have never regretted my decision. Children deserve parents that are mature, loving, and financially stable. I had my abortion 7 years ago and I don't regret it. The situation i wouldve brought the baby into wouldve been volatile and dangerous. No kid deserves that.

Going to school and being a single parent is doable if you have a support system. if you don't, that's not going to work. My BFF got pregnant and had NOBODY. She literally had to take her son EVERYWHERE. She could not afford a baby sitter and her mom couldnt be bothered. School wasnt going to happen.

Having the baby, abortion, and adoption are all options. Don't let anyone guilt you into anything. At the end of the day, YOU are the one who will raise this baby or not.

whatever you decide, just be sure that you are ready for what comes after (baby or no baby).

I wish you the best :hug:

ejm123 · Jun 24, 2012

I don't agree with the above posters statement that going to school and having a baby isn't doable If you don't have supportive people - there are several resources out there to help with daycare, insurance etc....it's just utilizing those resources to make things happen and be determined to make it happen. I have met a few women throughout the years who have done

This exact thing. In my personal experience I lived on my own, worked my butt off and

Had a newborn, went back to school - moved home - but never once did my family help with watching my son up until he was 3 he never spent a night away from me and only time I had away was while he was at daycare. He is now 4.5 And I graduate in five weeks. My parents support

Is for me to get through school.

Again you have hard decisions to make and wish you luck in whatever you decide.

Darkstar1485, BSN, CNA, LPN, RN · Jun 24, 2012

I don't agree with the above posters statement that going to school and having a baby isn't doable If you don't have supportive people - there are several resources out there to help with daycare, insurance etc....it's just utilizing those resources to make things happen and be determined to make it happen. I have met a few women throughout the years who have done.

Yes, there certainly are exceptions. Some single parents have 3 kids, graduate with honors all while working 40 hours a week. I've seen that happen, but it doesnt always happen.

Some schools have daycare, some don't. Some women get child care vouchers, some don't. Some states have programs, some don't.

I just hope the OP is able to finish school baby or no baby. She has come too far to stop now.

Stephalump · Jun 24, 2012

I think the best thing you can do is take some time to think and put things into perspective. You have three choices today and you'll have three choices next week. I definitely advise speaking to someone like your school's counselor. The best way to prevent guilt and regret is to know that you made the best decision possible at the time.

All I can offer is that and the fact that I was a teenage parent, and it was scary, but nowhere near as bad as my hormone-ravaged mind thought it would be. I didn't have to drop out of school. I didn't live under a bridge. When my mother told me I ruined my life... she was absolutely wrong.

So take that for what it is - one of the many experiences out there. Feel free to message me if you'd like :)

Everline · Jun 24, 2012

IMO, an internet forum is really not the place to go to ask if you should have an abortion. That is a personal, private decision that only you can make based on your own knowledge of your situation, including your financial resources, your physical and emotional health and many other considerations. Many women have abortions and they are not traumatized and, in fact, are quite happy with their decision. That goes for women who choose to continue their pregnancies, too. It can also be said that some people regret their decision on either side. People here do not know you and cannot make such a huge decision for you. Find out your options and think carefully. Do not let anyone else harass or attempt to convince you or scare you into doing something you do not think is best for you. This is one of those times in life where you will have to make the decision and live with what comes after and most likely, you will do just fine. Good luck to you and I hope that whatever decision you make you are able to finish school and reach your goals/dreams.

CarryThatWeight, BSN · Jun 24, 2012

"It can also be said that some regret their decision on either side." I have NEVER met a mother that looked at their child and said, "I wish I would have had an abortion." But I've seen many who chose abortion weep over children they will never raise. Food for thought.