Okay so here goes..... I work for a multicare facility and I float, a couple of days ago I had a relatively tough assignment; myself to 12 residents, half of which were self care and the other half was split between total care and assist x2. Anyways one resident in particular had me a bit puzzled or rather her daughter who is "involved" in her care. Her personal belongings are arranged in her drawers in outfits that are labelled with the days of the week and wrapped in plastic bags and the aides are instructed/warned not to dress her mom in any outfit other than the one that is labelled for the day. Now this resident had an accident on this day and since we are to follow this rule she was dressed in a gown and put back to bed in the middle of the day per the nurses orders. This resident is semi alert and sometimes has no clue what is going on and this day she was visibly upset and I felt very bad about this
. I questioned the nurse about this and she told me that the residents daughter gets angry if her wishes are not followed. I debated
this situation with the nurse and in the end it was basically "get over it that is what the family wants". I understand about wanting to be involved but at what point does it stop becoming care and becomes control?