Just wondering, I am in a clinical group for the summer for clinical 3 days. There is a clique of girls in this clinical group. I went into the break room at the end of clinical and one of them was hitting my bag. My bag is a trendy bag which a lot of ppl carry. When I saw the girl hitting it I picked up the bag and said "That's mine" then sat at the table. The girl said "Oh I thought it was Kate's" (Kate is her friend who is in the click and has a bag similar to mine, since it is a trendy bag. Kate was standing there however.
I am worried about the safety of my personal possessions at this time since I have clinical with this group 3 days a week (its only the third week of school). Should
I let this slide or bring it up to the course coordinator? I am graduating next semester and don't want to make any waves. But, there is palpable tension between me and this group, so I don't want to let it go then have it blow up.
OP, it is quite unfortunate that you are in this situation and you have been given great advice from the other members. Glancing at your past post history it seems you have a habit of wanting to report multiple people but being afraid to. If you have to second guess it coming back on you, the best answer is just do not do it. You are almost done, just deal with it another few months. Lastly, it seems to be a habit from your postings that you continuously make comments about the way people look and judge them. I assure you that this is being picked up on by everyone around you, this may be the actual root of your issues. I am not telling you to change, I would just like to point out that if you continue to do this you will most likely miss out on some very genuine friends. Also, some of the best dressed, most professional people I have met have been drug seekers, compulsive liars, etc. This is where the saying "Don't judge a book by its cover" comes into play.
Wow...I should've remembered the OP from the "study guide issue" despite her having an A...
I told myself I was going to have do some research before touching some of these threads...
Just read a couple of your past posts (the study guide one and the "why do nurses do this" one) and things have become way clearer. I had a feeling you weren't some innocent victim from your tone on this post and now I know it. I would love to read a post from the mean girl clique about YOU.
I'm exhausted just reading those posts, I can only imagine what it would be like knowing you in real life. You need to care 99% less about what everyone else is doing and focus on your own endeavors. I notice that a lot of times, the people who are disliked by others for "no reason" and who are plagued by "rude/catty" people everywhere they go are often a large part of the problems they encounter.
Some self-reflection and humility will take you far.
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I notice that a lot of times, the people who are disliked by others for "no reason" and who are plagued by "rude/catty" people everywhere they go are often a large part of the problems they encounter.
Some self-reflection and humility will take you far.
I'd go so far as to say that MOST of the people who are disliked by otherss for "no reason" and who have rude, catty or mean people following them everywhere they go are themselves the root of the problem.
1. This sounds like something my high school freshman would be griping about
2. My daughters and I have very trendy expensive bags, but I don't take mine to work and I have told them that if they leave theirs unattended and they walk, their loss. My work bag is a walmart bag. Would you judge me by that? You know nothing about my personal life. I have shoes that could pay your book bill but I wear reeboks at work, does that make me look bad?
3. If I heard students carrying on in the break room like you girls were, you'd be in the office and your instructors called. Most likely you would be sent off the floor and asked not to return. Time to start acting like a professional! All of you.
4. Who really cares if they go to grad school or not. I went to grad school and believe me, you are going to run into the same stuff there.
5. Use this as a life lesson. Grow up and be the bigger person. Sometimes you have to kill people with kindness.
Wow. Just looked at the website for those bags to see what the big deal was. They have some nice looking bags, but who in their right mind brings a bag that costs $400+ to clinical where it can't be locked up?? And how on earth do you afford a $400+ bag while in nursing school? When I was in nursing school just getting to order a pizza was a real treat most of us couldn't afford to do very often!
Most likely the OP has the Le Pliage Nylon bag which is what tons of college girls carry. They are very common and most seem to range in price from $100-$150. I've had mine for 15 years, they hold up pretty well.
I'm surprised your school hasn't emphasized not bringing a ton of stuff. Our school has requested we limit what we bring to our clinical sites. Buy a cheap lunch bag and keep the rest of your stuff in your pockets. if it can't fit in your pockets you probably don't need it.
You aren't going always like all your coworkers so now would be a good time to learn how to work with people professionally.
OP I am sorry that you have to deal with this. I know how you feel. I have a clinical group that pick on me, but I just let it go to avoid drama. I'm much younger than them(in 20's) while they range from 30-45, so I'd never think that mature grown people could ever allow themselves to act in such a way. I tried to be friends with them, brought them practice test, different resources for studying to no avail. These people just don't like me for reasons only known to them. One girl that's a part of this group who is on a neutral side told me that they talk about me. I don't want to give details. The point is, sometimes people will outcast you, there might be a reason or there might not. The way you handle the situation that's whats important. Don't give them the satisfaction, don't pick fights. What I do is say hello when I see them, and that is it. I care for my patients; I listen to the lectures, and there is no need for me to socialize with any of them. Try the ignore method, and see how much better you feel. Good luck to you!
Just wanted to say the drama reached a zenith last week but I kept my mouth shut. One girl said something really stupid and unprofessional. I ended up mentioning the bag incident to the professor at that time, because she asked us all what was going on.
LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN
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Wow...I should've remembered the OP from the "study guide issue" despite her having an A...
I told myself I was going to have do some research before touching some of these threads...