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Specializes in dialysis. Has 28 years experience.

As I post this, yes, I'm aware true bullying does exist. 

Today, our clinic had 2 PCTs quit (call in and quit). Their claim when the exit team from HR called them? The nurses are bullies. They won't let me text, won't let me do my homework, won't let me go to my car and smoke, etc. Of course my clinic manager got a phone call from these HR morons who have no clue about the reality of what working directly in patient care requires. She told them that the nurses aren't bullies, and shouldn't even be considered as such, for just asking the techs to do their jobs. Right now, I'm so tired of the subject of bullying, I could scream. It makes it very hard for those who truly have been bullied to be taken seriously. Off my rant now...

Kitiger, RN

Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics. Has 42 years experience.

6 minutes ago, Hoosier_RN said:

As I post this, yes, I'm aware true bullying does exist. 

Today, our clinic had 2 PCTs quit (call in and quit). Their claim when the exit team from HR called them? The nurses are bullies. They won't let me text, won't let me do my homework, won't let me go to my car and smoke, etc. 

Do these children actually think they can go to work and expect to get paid for texting, doing their homework, and taking smoking breaks? Do they expect to get paid when they don't do their job?

Is their paycheck supposed to be a "Participation Award"?

At least your clinic manager has your back.

Hoosier_RN, MSN

Specializes in dialysis. Has 28 years experience.

22 minutes ago, Kitiger said:

At least your clinic manager has your back.

Yes she does. But she did tell us to please be kinder in tone to these gentle souls 🙄. I asked how many times I have to be nice asking them to stop (or saying no to) the extra curricular activities and do their job-I mean, I do pick up a tone on the 5th or 6th time repeating myself to the same person or people, depending on situation. She's gotten a taste of it a few days recently when these 2 called in sick and were later posting selfies at the club, on different days. She worked the floor as a nurse, and the nurse worked as a tech. Having the other techs openly disrespect her the same way that they do the floor nurses has definitely opened her eyes

34 minutes ago, Kitiger said:

Do these children actually think they can go to work and expect to get paid for texting, doing their homework, and taking smoking breaks? Do they expect to get paid when they don't do their job [emphasis added]?

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We have several nurses in school, and I see several of them doing this, for much of their shift, on a routine basis.

Hoosier_RN, MSN

Specializes in dialysis. Has 28 years experience.

6 minutes ago, chare said:

We have several nurses in school, and I see several of them doing this, for much of their shift, on a routine basis.

As long as they are getting their work done, and boss doesn't have an issue, then I don't usually care either. I do take issue when they sit around doing the homework and expect everyone else to pick up their workload. Or ignore their patients. I personally wish this homework business would stop in the workplace all together, as it becomes a gray area, with patient care becoming the last thing on the priority list

hppygr8ful, ASN, RN, EMT-I

Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life). Has 19 years experience.

1 hour ago, Kitiger said:

Do these children actually think they can go to work and expect to get paid for texting, doing their homework, and taking smoking breaks? Do they expect to get paid when they don't do their job?

Is their paycheck supposed to be a "Participation Award"?

At least your clinic manager has your back.

Sadley this is what many members of the younger set do expect from the work place. The entitlement and lack of emotional resilence is staggering.

Hppy

Davey Do

Specializes in around 25 years psych, 15years medical. Has 42 years experience.

To give direction or guidance to an entitled individual is interpreted as bullying.

An entitled individual is the center of the universe and needs no else, except to do for them, and/or allow them to continue in their chosen direction.

Entitled individuals, like one with a personality disorder, are wired that way and changes naught, except for illuminating revelations, which very rarely occur.

"With these oxen we must plow."

Kitiger, RN

Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics. Has 42 years experience.

1 hour ago, chare said:

We have several nurses in school, and I see several of them doing this, for much of their shift, on a routine basis.

I do agree with doing homework is EVERYTHING ELSE that you could be doing is done. For example - on the night shift in a nursing home - if all of the patients are sleeping and none of them need care, have you looked at their wheelchairs? Food gets spilled, sometimes a code brown doesn't get cleaned up thoroughly, etc., and those chairs can be a mess. I would not be doing homework when these need to be cleaned. 

When I'm at work, my time (other than breaks) belongs to my employer. If . . . IF . . . all my regular work is done, then I look for something useful to do.

Hoosier_RN, MSN

Specializes in dialysis. Has 28 years experience.

54 minutes ago, Kitiger said:

hen I'm at work, my time (other than breaks) belongs to my employer. If . . . IF . . . all my regular work is done, then I look for something useful to do.

I 100% agree. My co-workers say I'm uppity because I choose to catch up things work related while they choose to pursue other things

LibraNurse27, BSN, RN

Specializes in Community Health, Med/Surg, ICU Stepdown. Has 8 years experience.

I've seen coworkers like this, and because I'm bad with confrontation I did the stupid thing of picking up the slack when they didn't respond to my requests to do their jobs. Others were more assertive or reported them, but people rarely got fired because of short staffing and inability to hire more staff. It's a bad situation.

A few times I saw people get fired, because of so many complaints to management and the union, and maybe the hospital got tired of paying people to text/FaceTime/do homework. I don't think we need to generalize that it's always young people though. Maybe the millennial generation as a whole tends to be more entitled, want praise for nothing, etc, but not all of us. I know I work hard as a nurse, and care a LOT, to the point that I've had suicidal thoughts after making mistakes. That's why the generalizations bother me so much, because after all I've been through as a nurse it's invalidating for people to assume I'm lazy and don't care based on my age.

Kitiger, RN

Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics. Has 42 years experience.

19 minutes ago, LibraNurse27 said:

A few times I saw people get fired, because of so many complaints to management and the union, and maybe the hospital got tired of paying people to text/FaceTime/do homework. I don't think we need to generalize that it's always young people though. Maybe the millennial generation as a whole tends to be more entitled, want praise for nothing, etc, but not all of us. I know I work hard as a nurse, and care a LOT, to the point that I've had suicidal thoughts after making mistakes. That's why the generalizations bother me so much, because after all I've been through as a nurse it's invalidating for people to assume I'm lazy and don't care based on my age.

You are right; that generalization did no one any good. I apologize.

In my defense, I did change the word, "children" several times from words that were, well, unkind. I think "immature" would have been the better word, rather that "children".

LibraNurse27, BSN, RN

Specializes in Community Health, Med/Surg, ICU Stepdown. Has 8 years experience.

4 hours ago, Kitiger said:

You are right; that generalization did no one any good. I apologize.

Oh, sorry my comment wasn't directed at anyone specifically! I just hear over and over in the media how all millennials are lazy and entitled, and the current trial of Elizabeth Holmes isn't helping of course! Also Anna "Delvy" Sorokin LOL both millennial aged girls who apparently thought they were just owed rich lifestyles without actually working and defrauded investors and other wealthy people of tons of money. People say attractive young white women can get away with anything, and maybe it's true. I totally get the older generation's frustration with millennials, and maybe I'm too sensitive sometimes = )