I'm in my last semester (4th) and my clinical instructor has been bullying me and making fun of me (even cussed at me) in front of my clinical group during post conference.
I've had positive clinical evaluations from all my past clinical instructors. But now, I'm feeling discouraged...She favors some students even though they don't give good SBAR or can't answer critical thinking questions about their patients or even do assessment on time. I still get chewed out even when I answered questions about my patient or give my SBAR or during my med administration she will ask me total random question or something to throw me off. She makes me feel nervous. When I go to her and update her on my patient (like any new reports) she will angrily say You're bugging me or You're hovering over me. And then later she will yell at me and say why do i never communicate with her. I'm so confused. I'm lost and feeling depressed because no matter what i do, she is never satisfied. I have only 3 weeks left and almost ready for graduation and she told me there is no hope for me in passing her clinical.
I'm gonna have clinical this coming Tuesday and she said she will be with me and if she isn't satisfied, I will be dropped.
What on earth made you say something like that? What is the matter with you? This CI has no right treat anybody like the way she treated the OP regardless of native English speaker or not. To tell someone that they have autism and need therapy is cruel and cold. You need the therapy not the OP.
Think before you speak (or write in this case).
are you totally out of your mind? i was offering a different take on the situation. and the OP is NOT doing anything about it, as we can see.... as far as her/his speech. the cadence/flow just doesn't seem right. and persons are treated badly for that. the OP continues to act in the same way and continues to complain about the way they are being treated. Do something, or change careers.
are you totally out of your mind? i was offering a different take on the situation. and the OP is NOT doing anything about it, as we can see.... as far as her/his speech. the cadence/flow just doesn't seem right. and persons are treated badly for that. the OP continues to act in the same way and continues to complain about the way they are being treated. Do something, or change careers.
The CI the behaving badly not professional. That is not the way to talk and treat a student who has been doing everything she is supposed to. The OP is not doing anything bad. She did not know what to do and where to turn because the people she needed the most were ignoring her. If people act the way they do, its no wonder a lot of nurses are leaving the profession. They don't need too take that abuse. As I said it before, some nurses are on EGO trip
What on earth made you say something like that? What is the matter with you? This CI has no right treat anybody like the way she treated the OP regardless of native English speaker or not. To tell someone that they have autism and need therapy is cruel and cold. You need the therapy not the OP.
Think before you speak (or write in this case).
In reading other posts from this member, apparently it's a chronic case of speaking before thinking. Insensitive, inflammatory and even cruel comments are not uncommon from her, as has been previously demonstrated. And apparently she is capable of diagnosing autism from a series of message board posts. Incredible talent.
If the program director does not do anything about it go to the dean with an official complain and let the other students who witness it write a support letter. Like the other writers said, if you wait till you get dropped then it's too late.
You will have to update us and let us know what the Director tells you. As a (pre) nursing student on the verge of starting nursing school, this is something that makes me very anxious, because sadly I have heard too many rumors of clinical instructors abusing their powers. Just remain vigilant and work hard. All these years of hard work and one person tries to stand in your way? No way. Best of luck to you, and like I said keep us updated!
You will have to update us and let us know what the Director tells you. As a (pre) nursing student on the verge of starting nursing school, this is something that makes me very anxious, because sadly I have heard too many rumors of clinical instructors abusing their powers. Just remain vigilant and work hard. All these years of hard work and one person tries to stand in your way? No way. Best of luck to you, and like I said keep us updated!
I went to a full four-year college and two years of tough graduate school, and taught in four college programs (I moved around the country a lot) and I never once had or knew an abusive faculty member.
What was it that Mark Twain said? "A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes." Get in the habit of saying to yourself, "Rumors are not fact." Rumor flies about every ship, building, department, and community.
And go about your business while others get all in a twit over something "they" heard or said.
You will have to update us and let us know what the Director tells you. As a (pre) nursing student on the verge of starting nursing school, this is something that makes me very anxious, because sadly I have heard too many rumors of clinical instructors abusing their powers. Just remain vigilant and work hard. All these years of hard work and one person tries to stand in your way? No way. Best of luck to you, and like I said keep us updated!
I don't want to derail the OPs thread too much, but I just graduated in Dec (second 4 yr degree) and never had any of those experiences. My clinicals were fantastic, my preceptors awesome, and my faculty fair. Nursing school is still hard, no two ways about it. Also, everything GrnTea said. 😜
Ps: not saying that some folks don't experience legitimate lateral violence or have a bad experience. I think those things are just easier to read about on the Internet. 😀
if you are not going to take any of the advice offered, there is nothing we can do for you here. And this is coming from a person who was similarly mistreated in nursing school. minus the crudity. i didn't have this forum to turn to, so i didn't have the advice and support you are being offered. I suspect from reading your posts you are not a native English speaker, that may be part of your problem... if not that I would wonder if you are on the Autism spectrum. If i were you, and not going to fight this, i would certainly seek out some therapy.
Negative Nancy strikes again. Oy vey. What in the body of the OP's post(s) would ever lead you to the conclusion that she is on the Autism spectrum? Are you a diagnostician? I fail to see how any part of your post is helpful.
In reading other posts from this member, apparently it's a chronic case of speaking before thinking. Insensitive, inflammatory and even cruel comments are not uncommon from her, as has been previously demonstrated. And apparently she is capable of diagnosing autism from a series of message board posts. Incredible talent.
I'm in my last semester (4th) and my clinical instructor has been bullying me and making fun of me (even cussed at me) in front of my clinical group during post conference.
I've had positive clinical evaluations from all my past clinical instructors. But now, I'm feeling discouraged...She favors some students even though they don't give good SBAR or can't answer critical thinking questions about their patients or even do assessment on time. I still get chewed out even when I answered questions about my patient or give my SBAR or during my med administration she will ask me total random question or something to throw me off. She makes me feel nervous. When I go to her and update her on my patient (like any new reports) she will angrily say You're bugging me or You're hovering over me. And then later she will yell at me and say why do i never communicate with her. I'm so confused. I'm lost and feeling depressed because no matter what i do, she is never satisfied. I have only 3 weeks left and almost ready for graduation and she told me there is no hope for me in passing her clinical.
I'm gonna have clinical this coming Tuesday and she said she will be with me and if she isn't satisfied, I will be dropped.
Sorry you're going through that. It sounds like her behavior is deliberate/passive aggressive/histrionic/any number of things, and it's on purpose. Unfortunately, we run into a lot of these types in nursing. It's not the curriculum that makes it hard, it's the hazing and politics. JMHO
Quick and easy solution: Go get one of those little buttonhole cameras. They are like $30 now and they record hours and hours of video and audio. Now, don't record anywhere on the floor or anywhere you can break HIPAA, but get her on the record as being abusive. Then play it for the director of the program.
Two years ago I had a female coworker accuse me of sexually harassing her when I refused her repeated advances. Thank God I'd had the foresight to do just what I told you. I had multiple instances of her harassing me on tape to show our boss - and she kicked it up to HR. Plus my wife was only to happy to testify that I had told her about it and that she knew I was recording. The girl got fired and a few months later I left that job with a letter of recommendation and a clean record. I keep that camera handy in case anything like you describe ever happens again.
It's a sad, scary world. As the incidents last summer with the police shootings proved, when it comes down to your word against theirs, video is always better.
A really good idea. When you go to record things, ensure that you are not violating your state's laws. In California, for instance, you have to have the consent of BOTH parties that they are being taped. In Texas, I think it's only one (so you could tape them without their knowledge). I tried the tape recording thing, and it didn't go as well. They were alarmed that I had taped them, but it could have only come back to hurt me, no matter how egregious they were, because I didn't obtain two party consent.
I think nursing students deserve to have BOTH. We shortchange ourselves when we keep our heads down or are afraid to ask important questions for fear of retaliation or ridicule. For some reason the trope of the "clinically skilled" nurse as a stern, tough, feared, respected, and thus more legit nurse/educator seems to persist. I'm NOT saying that's what you're advocating for RNsRWe, I'm saying that I disagree with putting up with it when it serves no purpose except to belittle and humiliate or destroy the self-esteem of strong students. Strong students who trust their professors to instruct and guide them to a healthy place, one where learning is encouraged, not ridiculed. And IMHO it seems that these types of professors don't encourage this.
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