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Maybe you could show his aunt what he said? Getting into a pissing match with him might not be a great idea, for political reasons. But I've never seen a nursing instructor who didn't think very highly of what they did (and of the education it took to get there), so maybe she needs to "correct" him.

The concept is absurd, but I've seen it happen. If questions are encouraged, good for you (and your school). I can only speak for the one I went to, and it was awful, that environment. Totally stifling.

I totally agree with you. I've seen an underlying--and very toxic--theme in nursing schools NOT to ask any questions. Project confidence even if you don't have it. One of our own instructors told us to "fake it until we make it". This is one of the worst pieces of advice ever. If you are unsure about something, you should be able to ask. This will perpetuate both confidence and confidence. If a student is not able to ask for fear of looking stupid or (worse) being placed in academic jeopardy, the patient is the one being put at risk in the long run.

"Well, in hindsight I can say that this CI was also one of the very best I have ever had. Tough, demanding, difficult, hard-to-please, pick your adjective...." Sounds like Stockholm Syndrome's got a pretty good grip on you. I'm so tired of people getting on forums anywhere complaining about abusive behaviors by authority and being told some variation of, "They're mean, but it's really good for us." Serious eye roll at your comment. I guarantee you if you had been one of the diligent academics that were failed you'd be singing a different tune.

A really good idea. When you go to record things, ensure that you are not violating your state's laws. In California, for instance, you have to have the consent of BOTH parties that they are being taped. In Texas, I think it's only one (so you could tape them without their knowledge). I tried the tape recording thing, and it didn't go as well. They were alarmed that I had taped them, but it could have only come back to hurt me, no matter how egregious they were, because I didn't obtain two party consent.

Sorry you're going through that. It sounds like her behavior is deliberate/passive aggressive/histrionic/any number of things, and it's on purpose. Unfortunately, we run into a lot of these types in nursing. It's not the curriculum that makes it hard, it's the hazing and politics. JMHO

It "fathoms" you? Don't you mean you "can't fathom how..." or "it baffles me"? You might have 102 points, buddy, but English obviously wasn't your strong suit.

"Be the bigger person. Ignore his behavior, or better yet, the next time he gives a handout to everyone except you, remind him loudly that he forgot you." That's what I ended up doing. We would all take turns presenting and some douche in my clinical section felt the need to talk over me, loudly, every time. I actually don't think she was trying to be mean, she just lacked consideration and didn't take social cues. I called her by name, waved my hand a little, interrupted her until she was quiet, and then took my turn (back) talking. Some people just need bluntly reminded.