Best Friend Getting Married

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Hi Everybody,

Well my best friend is getting married and she wants me to be a witness. I want to be at her wedding but I have lab that day and to get extra credit for perfect attendance I need to go to lab. Do you think I should sacrifice my perfect attendance for her special day? I am doing just okay in the class and I think we can only miss 2 labs. But then I have to play catch up. I want to go to her wedding but I don't want to miss lab. What would you do?

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Hi Everybody,

I want to go to her wedding but I don't want to miss lab. What would you do?

Seems like you have answered your own question -- I would politely explain to her that you have school obligations and will be happy to celebrate with her after school but can't attend the actual event.

If she is your "best" friend -- she will completely understand.. and if this is a justice of the peace type wedding she may even reschedule for a time that you can attend.

Best of luck.

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It is a justice of the peace type wedding so maybe she could reschedule. I just found out today and she scheduled it for November 30th. She really did not give me enough notice. I do want to be there for her but she knows how important school is to me.

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Specializes in ICU.

I would miss lab. She's your best friend and this is the most important day of her life so far. I missed lab for my sister's wedding. You are doing fine in the class. This shouldn't be a question. I could understand if you were failing and needed the extra credit. Then yes, there is an issue. But dang, why should your friend have to revolve her wedding day around your school? Really. Either be there or don't, but don't ask her to reschedule. This day is about her, not you. Guess you need to decide what kind of friend you really are and if she is truly your "best" friend.

Your life should not be all about school. People should not have to plan their lives around you and school. School is important, but it's not the end all. Your personal connections in life are way more important. Friendships, family are always more important than any job, any amount of money. They just are.

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Specializes in ICU.

And, might I add, this is a prereq class. I missed lab in nursing school for my sister's wedding. I forgot I was in prenursing.

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Thank you Heathermaizey, you have made some thought provoking comments and I need to really consider my decision carefully. This is a very important day for her and I do not want to disappoint her. But she is in college too, so she knows how important my class is too. I guess I have to decide what is most important. Dang I hate this!

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It is a justice of the peace type wedding so maybe she could reschedule. I just found out today and she scheduled it for November 30th. She really did not give me enough notice. I do want to be there for her but she knows how important school is to me.

School may be important to you but her wedding day is not all about you. She shouldn't have to reschedule HER wedding so that you can go to lab. Skip lab. Life is more than school.

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You are doing fine in the class. This shouldn't be a question.

The original statement was " I am doing just okay in the class"

that was the basis for my advice... when I'm doing "just ok" every point counts. could be the difference between a C or B or even be the little push up to the A.

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I am getting a low B right now and I need a push up to a solid B+. For me every point counts, I have no wiggle room. So it could mean about 3% extra credit not much but helpful. (seriously, I am counting every point).

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Specializes in Critical Care, Med-Surg, Psych, Geri, LTC, Tele,.

I say go to class and get her a meaningful or expensive gift to show u care.

Meaningful gifts can be inexpensive.

Here are some ideas on Pinterest. 14 Easy And Inexpensive Wedding Gift Ideas

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If she's a true friend, she'll understand.

If she's not a true friend, you'll graduate from school and won't really know her anymore.,

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I think need to speak with my Professor because the assignments I would have due November 30th would be late if I miss Monday lab or I would have to turn in my lab exercises a week before because were out of school Nov 25- Nov 27th. So it is putting me in a position of doing my work ahead of time and we have a Lecture exam and lab quiz Nov 23. Missing November 30th would throw me off a bit. Maybe I am being selfish here. (Maybe my professor will accept my assignments late on December 1st)

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Definitely speak with your professor about the circumstances. I'd probably try to do my work extra early so I could go to my friend's wedding, but that's just me.

I wonder: is there another lab section you could go to? Probably not, I know how nursing cohorts work sometimes, but I figured, why not ask. :)

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