At what point is it not worth it?

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I don't even know where to begin. I'm in a new position in a fast paced ICU and I don't think I can handle the stress. It's been almost three months. In 3 months I've become hypertensive, my anxiety has increased, and I'm back on antidepressants. When it comes time to go to work, I get shakey, diaphoretic, and really nervous. I calm down a bit, then do the same thing when we're dealing out assignments. I'm more or less ok throughout the night unless something starts happening with my patients. I also work in a very "cliquey" environment. There's a group that-unless you're one of "them"- will write you up for anything and everything, so I wander around with that fear all the time.

Tonight I told my husband I just want to quit and figure it out later. I feel like my job has turned me into a nervous nut case. I know financially we need me to work, but at what point do I sacrifice my sanity? I don't know if I should just start frantically hunting for something else, talk to my manager about my concerns, or turn in my notice while I look around?

I'm just so lost. I don't even know if I want to be a nurse anymore.

Thanks for letting me vent/worry.

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Here's a warm hug for you:). Personally I don't think cliquey groups should exist at work- it just ruins the work atmosphere.

Never underestimate the power of a good support and work environment. If you could hold on until you get another job, except it is absolutely neccessary to resign, I would.

Another way, you could try is to stop worrying about everything, turn the situation to GOD. Stop trying to do it all on your own. You don't have to live all stressed out, all that doesn't have to happen.

Pls don't go out discouraged and upset- your place of work shouldn't be a place of horror.

And know this, this too shall pass. All things WILL work out.

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Specializes in CVICU.

Wow, are you sure you don't work in my unit? Sounds about right!

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Get out of there.

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Specializes in Mental and Behavioral Health.

You need to get out of there at least for a while.

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Specializes in ED, Med-Surg, Psych, Oncology, Hospice.

I worked at a job like that. The nurses were just horrible to me. ( I was not a new, inexperienced nurse). I'd sometimes cry all the way home on my 40 minute commute. After 6 months I resigned and took a new position. The nurses actually gave me a going away party and remarked "We just get you broke in and you leave!" If they had that attitude and perspective BEFORE I left I wouldn't have resigned.

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Specializes in Adolescent haematology, oncology and BMT.

One cannot change the unpredictable nature of the conditions that bring people into ICU so that may always be stressful for you even in a different environment. That said, you may cope better with the same patients when you're surrounded by supportive and friendly colleagues.

You do not deserve to suffer like this. Your emotional and psychological wellbeing have got to be your priority now. Even if you told your manager about your colleagues, things are unlikely to change right away if at all.

Whether you choose a career break or not is up to you. Either way, you need to leave that place.

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

It sounds like that job is not a good one for you. So ... decide to leave. Does that lift a little weight from your shoulders and help you feel better?

Now ... decide how and when you would prefer to leave. Now that you feel a little better have made the decision to leave ... can you hang on for a couple of weeks while you search for a new job? Can you call in sick for 1 or 2 days to give yourself a mini-break to calm down and think things through? Will you get a day or 2 off in the next week or 2 because of Thanksgiving? etc.

I hope you see what I mean. If you really need the money ... it might help you to stick it out a few weeks if you can get an emotional boost by taking a mini-break and by simply making a firm decision to leave. That might lower your immediate distress a little.

Start seeking a new job -- get your resume together, your references, etc. You can do that even before you know exactly what jobs you want to apply for. Then as you see jobs that interest you, you'll be ready to apply quickly. Once again, sometimes just taking a few steps to move forward can help you feel a little better.

It's hard to stay in a job you don't like ... and only you know your financial situation and job situation well enough to make the final decision. But if you want to stick it out for a few weeks while you search for a new position, the things I said above can help.

My worst situation was having to stay in a job I hated for 6 months while looking for my next job. I hated it and it was a "low time" in my life ... but I had to work to support myself. So I did what I had to do and stuck it out. But I found that it helped a lot to be moving forward in some way ... with applications, interviews, etc. that got me closer and closer to a better situation. The job I found while I patiently waited for something good to come along is the job I have now held for 12 years.

Good luck to you.

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Thank you so much everyone. I'm going to check out the HR postings to see if there's anything in house. I think there's a float pool and a medical position. I've done medical/oncology before... give me a couple chemos, a febrile neutropenic, and a dying hospice patient and I'm ok. A few vents on drips? No. Thank. You.

Thanks again for the responses. I was really starting to feel alone.

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does your employer offer EAP ? this may help..........

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From what I can see in my benefits, I don't seen EAP. I'm not eligible for any leave or absence because I haven't been there long enough. I just had a chunk of days off and I was ok... but yesterday when it came time to go back to work I was a wreck again. I work for a few days, then I have 8 days off. I guess I just need to make it through the next few days...

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.
Thank you so much everyone. I'm going to check out the HR postings to see if there's anything in house. I think there's a float pool and a medical position. I've done medical/oncology before... give me a couple chemos, a febrile neutropenic, and a dying hospice patient and I'm ok. A few vents on drips? No. Thank. You.

Thanks again for the responses. I was really starting to feel alone.

It sounds like you have a background which would give you some good options. Good luck!

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