Am I going to hate nursing

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I am in nursing school by the way and I am not enjoying it, a large percentage of the girls are very ******. I've never seen girls behave this bad. Even my instructor is mean and it's mainly the less physically attractive students that behave like this too. It's like they need an excuse to feel better about themselves and No I am not perfect but I am pretty attractive.

I only talk to my friends who seem to be getting along fine with the other girls and yes I am one of the youngest. It seems as if most of the girls in the class hate me for no reason and many are blatantly rude. I grew up in a household where it was impolite to talk back so I tend to be very reserved but reservation is not helping. I also sense a feeling of resentment towards me from the instructor, just from her tone of voice and the way she raises it when she speaks to me.

My previous instructor had once said "you can't be afraid in nursing, you have to be ballsy" she didn't say it directly to me but I have been thinking about it ever since. I think I might have to get snappy with these girls and correct them when they make inappropriate comments (which I will have to learn how to do). One time I made a nice comment about a student and she quickly said "don't call my name" and I just stayed quite but they continue to make these rude comment even when I am not talking them.

I never imagined being a snippy nurse because I assumed they were suppose to be quiet and nice. After observing the nurses who teach at my school, I realized that this is far from the truth and many seem unhappy and overworked, which would explain why they give so much homework. I am wondering if I should make a 360 degree turn with my personally, I am usually a fun and happy person who tries to see the best in things no matter what but I am wondering if I might have to change. I really like studying nursing but I am not liking the other students and they will become my future coworkers, I have to know how to deal with this.

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Specializes in Med Surg.

Yes. You will.

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Yes. You will.

Why do you think I will hate it?

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I think I might have to get snappy with these girls and correct them when they make inappropriate comments (which I will have to learn how to do). . .

I never imagined being a snippy nurse because I assumed they were suppose to be quiet and nice.

Even my instructor is mean and it's mainly the less physically attractive students that behave like this too. It's like they need an excuse to feel better about themselves and No I am not perfect but I am pretty attractive.

These quotes stood out to me. I'm pretty sure you need no learning on how to be snippy. I think this is another trap thread.

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These quotes stood out to me. I'm pretty sure you need no learning on how to be snippy. I think this is another trap thread.

This isn't a trap thread, I really am in this situation, I don't know if it's fear or anxiety that stops me from speaking up for myself. I agree, I do know how to be snippy but I seem to keep it bottled up all the time and when the time comes for me to let it out, I just get stuck. I don't know if it's fear but the words just won't come out. I forget everything I planned on saying and my heart starts beating really fast. I often get angry about how they treat me when I am alone but do nothing later on.

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I am in nursing school by the way and I am not enjoying it, a large percentage of the girls are very ******. I've never seen girls behave this bad. Even my instructor is mean and it's mainly the less physically attractive students that behave like this too. It's like they need an excuse to feel better about themselves and No I am not perfect but I am pretty attractive.

Yeah.. No. I'm reasonably certain that it's not your youth and prettiness that's causing you problems. I'm beautiful and was at least semi-young :lol2: :rolleyes: when I went to nursing school and I never had a problem ;)

I grew up in a household where it was impolite to talk back so I tend to be very reserved but reservation is not helping.

Generally people tend to treat you the way you allow them to treat you. It's not necessarily fair. In a perfect world it should be sufficient to be a decent, kind and polite human being and others would automatically reciprocate in kind. That's unfortunately not always the case and sometimes you simply have to stand up for yourself and explain what kind of behavior/treatment you are willing to accept, and more importantly what you won't accept.

I never imagined being a snippy nurse because I assumed they were suppose to be quiet and nice.

I don't know why you thought that being quiet is a common or even desirable trait in nurses. There are nurses who are introverts and there are nurses who are extroverts, but an integral part of any nurses' duties regardless of personality, is patient advocacy. You need to be able to stand up for and defend your (or the patient's) position. Being firm and having integrity is a definite plus, being snippy is however not required.

After observing the nurses who teach at my school, I realized that this is far from the truth and many seem unhappy and overworked, which would explain why they give so much homework.

I wouldn't presume that homework assignments are a symptom of overworked or unhappy instructors. Isn't it more likely that the class is assigned a lot of homework simply because there is a lot of material to cover before graduation?

One time I made a nice comment about a student and she quickly said "don't call my name" and I just stayed quite but they continue to make these rude comment even when I am not talking them.

This is a very odd exchange. If that was the actual reaction you got when saying something nice, the other person was in my opinion being an obnoxious ****. That's just rude behavior. I wouldn't give them the time of day in the future.

I can't really answer the question whether you'll hate nursing. Nursing school is not the same as actual nursing. Actually working as a nurse is in my opinion harder than school, eventhough school definitely has its stressors.

It concerns me a bit that you seem to find most fellow students and most (all?) your instructors, problematic. I won't argue that both bad instructors and rude or even bullying classmates don't exist, because they definitely do. But in every place I've ever experienced (which granted, isn't a statistically significant sample), they weren't the majority. If there are at least a few of your classmates that you "connect" with, my advice to you would be to focus on them and try to stay out of all "extraneous" drama.

OP all of us here are strangers, I think that only you can decide if a nursing career is one that you want, and if it's one that suits your personality and skill set.

Good luck!

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All it took was reading your first paragraph to figure out what the problem is.

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Yeah.. No. I'm reasonably certain that it's not your youth and prettiness that's causing you problems. I'm beautiful and was at least semi-young :lol2: :rolleyes: when I went to nursing school and I never had a problem ;)

Generally people tend to treat you the way you allow them to treat you. It's not necessarily fair. In a perfect world it should be sufficient to be a decent, kind and polite human being and others would automatically reciprocate in kind. That's unfortunately not always the case and sometimes you simply have to stand up for yourself and explain what kind of behavior/treatment you are willing to accept, and more importantly what you won't accept.

I don't know why you thought that being quiet is a common or even desirable trait in nurses. There are nurses who are introverts and there are nurses who are extroverts, but an integral part of any nurses' duties regardless of personality, is patient advocacy. You need to be able to stand up for and defend your (or the patient's) position. Being firm and having integrity is a definite plus, being snippy is however not required.

I wouldn't presume that homework assignments are a symptom of overworked or unhappy instructors. Isn't it more likely that the class is assigned a lot of homework simply because there is a lot of material to cover before graduation?

This is a very odd exchange. If that was the actual reaction you got when saying something nice, the other person was in my opinion being an obnoxious ****. That's just rude behavior. I wouldn't give them the time of day in the future.

I can't really answer the question whether you'll hate nursing. Nursing school is not the same as actual nursing. Actually working as a nurse is in my opinion harder than school, eventhough school definitely has its stressors.

It concerns me a bit that you seem to find most fellow students and most (all?) your instructors, problematic. I won't argue that both bad instructors and rude or even bullying classmates don't exist, because they definitely do. But in every place I've ever experienced (which granted, isn't a statistically significant sample), they weren't the majority. If there are at least a few of your classmates that you "connect" with, my advice to you would be to focus on them and try to stay out of all "extraneous" drama.

OP all of us here are strangers, I think that only you can decide if a nursing career is one that you want, and if it's one that suits your personality and skill set.

Good luck!

Thank you so much for your reply. I get upset at myself thinking about the situation which prompted me to come on here. I've been thinking about this for quite sometime and it really bothers me. I am wondering if it is worth the energy, sometimes my head hurts thinking about it. I'm wondering why am I sitting back and allowing these girls to treat me like this and I'm sure some of my classmates are wondering the same thing. I'm just hoping to God that when I do say something, I don't have diarrhea of the mouth and explode. I thought I left it behind in last semester but I was wrong. When I'm alone, I become furious about this, I haven't been this upset in a long time. One girl in particular will use her butt and bounce me away when we are all standing a line and get right in front of me and I told her I don't like that, I said "I think that is aggression and I don't like it" she laughs and then says it's a joke and continues to stand right in front of me.

I'm in my last semester so I don't know if I should just let it go but I don't want to be remembered as the simp of the class.

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All it took was reading your first paragraph to figure out what the problem is.

I only had to read the title. :cat:

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Amber, you are young and not to be patronizing, maybe you should live a little before becoming upset by experiences. Both you and your colleagues are new to the situation and anxieties can create silliness. Everyone is jockeying for positions and in a little while things will settle down. Also I would focus on nursing school and not what everyone else is doing and how they are behaving. Are you there to learn or make friends or monitor and correct aberrant behaviors? You will find your clique soon enough. Remember high school and all the idiocy that occurred, well this is the same, only it's young women version and will occur slightly differently at each stage of life and situations. Good luck and remain silly in the domain of the young:sarcastic:

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I am in nursing school by the way and I am not enjoying it, a large percentage of the girls are very ******. I've never seen girls behave this bad. Even my instructor is mean and it's mainly the less physically attractive students that behave like this too. It's like they need an excuse to feel better about themselves and No I am not perfect but I am pretty attractive.

I only talk to my friends who seem to be getting along fine with the other girls and yes I am one of the youngest. It seems as if most of the girls in the class hate me for no reason and many are blatantly rude. I grew up in a household where it was impolite to talk back so I tend to be very reserved but reservation is not helping. I also sense a feeling of resentment towards me from the instructor, just from her tone of voice and the way she raises it when she speaks to me.

My previous instructor had once said "you can't be afraid in nursing, you have to be ballsy" she didn't say it directly to me but I have been thinking about it ever since. I think I might have to get snappy with these girls and correct them when they make inappropriate comments (which I will have to learn how to do). One time I made a nice comment about a student and she quickly said "don't call my name" and I just stayed quite but they continue to make these rude comment even when I am not talking them.

I never imagined being a snippy nurse because I assumed they were suppose to be quiet and nice. After observing the nurses who teach at my school, I realized that this is far from the truth and many seem unhappy and overworked, which would explain why they give so much homework. I am wondering if I should make a 360 degree turn with my personally, I am usually a fun and happy person who tries to see the best in things no matter what but I am wondering if I might have to change. I really like studying nursing but I am not liking the other students and they will become my future coworkers, I have to know how to deal with this.

First of all if you make a 360 degree turn you do realize that would put you right back to where you're at right????

Just reading this I can't imagine why so many people don't seem to care for you much. (that was sarcasm)

I don't think you need to do a 360 degree turn. I think you need to do some serious self reflection instead of pinning yourself as the "young, meek, quiet, polite, shy, pretty, victim" you seem to think you are.

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When I was a brand new nurse I saw a patient (eating) turning red &* couldn't call out for help because he was choking. I immediately ran around behind him an thrust once in & upward (we call this the heimlich maneuver). I must have done it exactly correct, as if you're watching a training video!

I was never thanked or rewarded. I merely did what any nurse should've done.

If you stay in nursing with a positive attitude, you'll have good days and others will be encouraged too. If you only look for the bad things, you'll find bad things.

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