I started a new contract a week ago. This has got to be the strangest ED I have ever worked in because it is not very busy, leaving me with time when the ED is empty, so I have been using the time to study for a variety of exams.
ast night I worked with another staffer who was constantly on the internet, reading me snippets and pieces of email from her fiance. These were graphic emails regarding what sort of sexual acts he would like to perform with her.
I am so not interested in this, and it actually makes me uncomfrtable to hear it in the workplace setting.
I'm used to working in very high stress atmospheres where double entendre and many jokes of sexual humor are passed around with no problems, but somehow having to listen to another co-worker discuss her own sex life really just made me absoloutely ill....:imbar
I try to walk away but since there were no patients she just kept following me. at one point, I said, "This is waaay too much information for me, I don't want to hear this" and she kept on....:uhoh21: After that I gave no response.
Am I just too conservative, or what....
It really made me uncomfortable. I'm not really a prude, but I find her sex life sort of disgusting and I don;t need to know that information, especially since I had just met her that day.
Keeping in mind that I am not regular staff, I am a contracted employee, what would you do? Am I overreacting???
We had a slightly busier night and I essentially grabbed all the patients as they came through the door...which kept me working and having no time to listen!
jimthorp- your comment has got me creeped out...I hope that wasn't the plan!!!!!!!
Oddly this morning, the AM charge asked me how I found the job (remember its my first week) I said I was OK, and this woman piped in telling them I was a great nurse, and "really knows her stuff"...who knows. I think theres some underlying psych stuff, but I'm going to try to lay low, essentially off that radar....
As far as getting fired, I think it highly unlikely for someone to get fired for checking email. THe content was foul, but...she isn't surfing Media...just email. In this region, staff is very hard to come by and it is even difficult for them to get travelers as it is an isolated economically depressed area with huge unemployment, so many things are tolerated that would not normally be....
I knew being at a critical access hospital would be interesting, but I didn;t imagine it owuld be interesting that way....
We had a slightly busier night and I essentially grabbed all the patients as they came through the door...which kept me working and having no time to listen!
jimthorp- your comment has got me creeped out...I hope that wasn't the plan!!!!!!!
Oddly this morning, the AM charge asked me how I found the job (remember its my first week) I said I was OK, and this woman piped in telling them I was a great nurse, and "really knows her stuff"...who knows. I think theres some underlying psych stuff, but I'm going to try to lay low, essentially off that radar....
As far as getting fired, I think it highly unlikely for someone to get fired for checking email. THe content was foul, but...she isn't surfing Media...just email. In this region, staff is very hard to come by and it is even difficult for them to get travelers as it is an isolated economically depressed area with huge unemployment, so many things are tolerated that would not normally be....
I knew being at a critical access hospital would be interesting, but I didn;t imagine it owuld be interesting that way....
Actually, they could fire you for checking email. It's technically a type of theft and misuse of a company resource. I know everybody does it - God knows half my office surfs the Web from time to time - but there are hardliners out there that would have no problems with nailing someone for it.
She's creating what the latest buzzwords call a "hostile work environment". Sounds like she knows she's screwing up, too - while I have no doubt you know exactly what you're doing, her comment is a bit weird.
I'd keep my eye on her. Actually, if it were me, I'd already be in someone's office about her; I may have to put up with some stuff but this definitely does not fall in that category.
I started a new contract a week ago. This has got to be the strangest ED I have ever worked in because it is not very busy, leaving me with time when the ED is empty, so I have been using the time to study for a variety of exams.
ast night I worked with another staffer who was constantly on the internet, reading me snippets and pieces of email from her fiance. These were graphic emails regarding what sort of sexual acts he would like to perform with her.
I am so not interested in this, and it actually makes me uncomfrtable to hear it in the workplace setting.
I'm used to working in very high stress atmospheres where double entendre and many jokes of sexual humor are passed around with no problems, but somehow having to listen to another co-worker discuss her own sex life really just made me absoloutely ill....:imbar
I try to walk away but since there were no patients she just kept following me. at one point, I said, "This is waaay too much information for me, I don't want to hear this" and she kept on....:uhoh21: After that I gave no response.
Am I just too conservative, or what....
It really made me uncomfortable. I'm not really a prude, but I find her sex life sort of disgusting and I don;t need to know that information, especially since I had just met her that day.
Keeping in mind that I am not regular staff, I am a contracted employee, what would you do? Am I overreacting???
I would repeat myself one time and say "i do NOT want to hear this".
You're not the only one. I really don't care to hear about other people's extremely personal hobbies and such. Luckily though, just one time of me saying "more than i need or want to know" puts a stop to it. I think it's rude if this person continues to talk like this to you after you've made it clear that you don't want to hear it.
I agree with all the above. She is the one with the problem, not you. I work in OB and we on our floor tend to not be bothered by the topic of sex (we deal with the direct result all the time). However, there are certain lines we don't cross, and that's one of them. If someone is bothered by the subject, we change it.
If you've asked her to stop and she doesn't, she's harassing you. Be very clear that you won't listen to it.
I'd take this a step further. Not only would I tell her that I don't want to hear it, but I'd tell a supervisor. You don't know how many others she's harassing. She's a potential liability. I'd make this management's problem at this point, not mine.
She's also not the sharpest knife in the drawer. If she's reading these x-rated e-mails on a hospital computer and within a hospital e-mail account, those e-mails are hospital property. Odds are good management has the ability to tap in and read them, if that hasn't happened already.
I always wonder how people like this manage to miss all the news stories about sexual harassment, not to mention the training that employers are required to provide. Do they sleep through it? Or do they not come out from under their rocks long enough to understand that their conduct is offensive?
Wow! I would NEVER tell anyone that I had a casual work relationship with ANYTHING like that. That is very odd that she would tell you those things...I think you are the normal one.
I actually work with someone like that...except she went as far as to show people pictures. ( Eww! ) Just try not to make small talk with her and maybe she will realize that you aren't interested.
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jimthorp
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You're not too conservative. I must admit my first thought was perhaps she and he are looking for you to join them.