Alternative to spanking

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I had very lax parents myself. I can remember being spanked once in my entire life. I got grounded a few times once I reached high school and for good reasons, but other than that I didn't really receive discipline much from my parents. My husbands family on the other hand is in favor of spanking; at one point I though I was too but am now against it...but still have to stifle laughs when I hear a parent say, "use your words" to a kid throwing a tantrum; maybe because I am yet to see this work.

I am in Community Nursing this semester. The placement I am at has a brochure on why you should not spank. The brochure was very informative on why you should not spank but it lacked any information on alternative ways to correct behavior/discipline. I chose not to had this out because I felt the information was not complete. Not being a parent yet myself, I did not feel equip to give alternatives if asked once the brochure was read and the client found that no alternatives were included.

Suggestions would be appreciated.

i guess my next question would be, have you truly learned the rest of those things?

just something to think about.;)

love you, sweetie.

leslie

The important things like love, honesty, integrity, forgiveness.

I'd like to think so... :)

What else is there to learn?

The important things like love, honesty, integrity, forgiveness.

I'd like to think so... :)

What else is there to learn?

trust.

the foundation for all success in love.

leslie

trust.

the foundation for all success in love.

leslie

Everyone I meet gets all my trust from the get go.

If you have it, you have it implicitly. If you lose it, you lose it forever.

It's up to you if you keep it or lose it.

Trust goes BOTH ways. People expect you to trust others. The other side of that coin is that people have to be trustworthy. Most people aren't trustworthy...

Trust is like respect. You have to not only earn it but keep it. Many people aren't up to that task.

Trust goes BOTH ways. People expect you to trust others. The other side of that coin is that people have to be trustworthy. Most people aren't trustworthy...

i wouldn't know.

and, me thinks you're full of baloney.

but i'm ok with that.

leslie

My granny said "Profanity is ignorance made audible".

She cracked me up . . . . trying so hard not to cuss . . .she'd say "sugarfoot" instead of the "S" word.

I find myself saying sugarfoot too.

steph

i wouldn't know.

and, me thinks you're fos.

but i'm ok with that.

leslie

Really?

Name one person in your life that HASN'T betrayed you at least once.

Minus your children...

Just one.

:)

Remember, even a lie is a betrayal. Not all betrayals are large life changing, Judas betrayals. Anyone that is capable of betraying you in a small way is capable of betraying you in a big, Judas way. ;)

My granny said "Profanity is ignorance made audible".

She cracked me up . . . . trying so hard not to cuss . . .she'd say "sugarfoot" instead of the "S" word.

I find myself saying sugarfoot too.

steph

Steph, my parents tried that line too. Sometimes though, nothing is as expressive or apropos to the moment as the F bomb.

Trust goes BOTH ways. People expect you to trust others. The other side of that coin is that people have to be trustworthy. Most people aren't trustworthy...

i wouldn't know.

leslie

Really?

Name one person in your life that HASN'T betrayed you at least once.

Minus your children...

Just one.

:)

Remember, even a lie is a betrayal. Not all betrayals are large life changing, Judas betrayals. Anyone that is capable of betraying you in a small way is capable of betraying you in a big, Judas way. ;)

read my post again.

i said i wouldn't know.

meaning i have major trust issues as well.

that said, my siblings have never betrayed me.

leslie

read my post again

i said i wouldn't know.

meaning i have major trust issues as well.

that said, my siblings have never betrayed me.

leslie

Ouch... :D

I don't consider this a trust issue.

I am judicious with my trust. Giving trust away freely is a tad foolish. Those that do so shouldn't whine when they get hurt.

I think being OVERLY trustful is unhealthy.

Ouch... :D

I don't consider this a trust issue.

I am judicious with my trust. Giving trust away freely is a tad foolish. Those that do so shouldn't whine when they get hurt.

I think being OVERLY trustful is unhealthy.

i agree, that trust and respect are both earned, and it works both ways.

but i do (strongly) feel that you and i are very reluctant to truly trust.

i know (from other posts/threads) enough about you, as well as going on my instincts, which seldom fail me.:)

that's why i said you were full of it.

i don't believe you would readily trust someone, even if it was earned.

or, one would have to go to hell and back in order to earn it...

specifically, the 'other' gender.;)

i need to cut up a seedless watermelon.

my mouth is dry.

leslie

i agree, that trust and respect are both earned, and it works both ways.

but i do (strongly) feel that you and i are very reluctant to truly trust.

i know (from other posts/threads) enough about you, as well as going on my instincts, which seldom fail me.:)

that's why i said you were full of it.

i don't believe you would readily trust someone, even if it was earned.

or, one would have to go to hell and back in order to earn it...

specifically, the 'other' gender.;)

i need to cut up a seedless watermelon.

my mouth is dry.

leslie

Oh, I trust them. I just do so knowing I am going to get the shaft. :)

I like to hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

It's the numbers. More people are untrustworthy than not.

It actually amazes me who many people tolerate lies and cheating and other betrayals. I think people are so afraid of being alone that they trick themselves into this behavior. Talk about unhealthy. A wife that lies? A husband that will cheat? A friend that will talk behind your back? Not in this house. ;)

Oh, I trust them. I just do so knowing I am going to get the shaft. :)

I like to hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

It's the numbers. More people are untrustworthy than not.

It actually amazes me who many people tolerate lies and cheating and other betrayals. I think people are so afraid of being alone that they trick themselves into this behavior. Talk about unhealthy. A wife that lies? A husband that will cheat? A friend that will talk behind your back? Not in this house. ;)

We had this discussion my last night of class (last Wed). Domestic Abuse expert. Very lively discussion.

As to cussing . . . . . of course there are times when a certain word is just the right word. I was referring to people who use a profane word every other word in a sentence.

steph

Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

I took care of a 3 yr old when my daughter was about 8months old. I only took care of her for 3 days (a favor for her mom). My daughter was in her seat at the table with her tray on waiting for breakfast and she dropped her fork on the floor so I would pick it up. We played this often. Well, after the second time, this little girl went over and took my daughters hand and raised her hand to slap her. I was floored by how she acted and knew right then that she gets firmly disciplined. I had a talk with her about how in this house we never hurt each other whether its young children or adults.

All of my kids friends know that our house is a 'safe house'. My children are now 8 and 12. They are very well behaved for the most part. They have certain friends who never want to leave. Everyone of their friends who come over for the first time have the laws of the house laid out. So far, it has worked.

I do remember fearing coming home knowing I was gonna get it from my parents for something I had done. I'm the type who would've gotten more out of sitting down and discussing my actions rather than having to get that spanking stick! I stayed away alot as a teen.

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