allnurses' netiquette

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Specializes in around 25 years psych, 15years medical. Has 43 years experience.

While reading some threads today, I noted some negativity here and there. In one particular thread, the etiological common denominator seemed to have to do with something in the area of respect. One member believed another was putting down their perspective and the other felt that they were calling them out on their phraseology. 

In 1956, Elvis sang "and the whole world will know this is true: understanding solves all problems", referring to a relationship. If we endeavor to find the rationale for why another behaves as they do, we can expand our horizons and give empathy and/or comfort.

Anyway, I wanted to start this thread and see where it will go. Starting this thread also gave me a reason to play around with a logo:

 

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 I was thinking of reviewing some customary codes of polite behavior.

What do you think?

 

Hoosier_RN, MSN

Specializes in dialysis. Has 29 years experience. 3,311 Posts

I think we should all be kind. In person and online, period

JBMmom, MSN, NP

Specializes in Long term care; med-surg; critical care. Has 10 years experience. 4 Articles; 1,946 Posts

Part of the problem with internet posts is that no one can read the tone the writer intends. They will hear a tone in their head dependent upon many factors and it may be far from the intent.

Some people say that they are blunt or straightforward, and then presume to think that excuses them from also being rude. 

And sometimes people are too sensitive.

I would like to think that anyone that comes here has a genuine intent to provide feedback that will help their fellow nurses (or prospective nurses), to improve their knowledge or help them deal with stresses in our field. I choose to believe that no one comes here with the express intent of hurting anyone's feelings, save the random troll here and there. 

I guess that's my long winded way of agreeing with Hoosier, just be kind. 

NurseBlaq

1,753 Posts

Y'all know why I'm here. 🍿

Davey Do

Specializes in around 25 years psych, 15years medical. Has 43 years experience. 1 Article; 9,488 Posts

33 minutes ago, Hoosier_RN said:

I think we should all be kind. In person and online, period

 

6 minutes ago, JBMmom said:

I guess that's my long winded way of agreeing with Hoosier, just be kind. 

Yeah, but where's the fun in that?

Note this: A thread where there's a lively debate of disagreement and bashing or a pecking party going on will get more traffic and posts than, say, a thread on etiquette.

Why is that? you may ask.

Because the vast majority are attracted to drama than they are discussing philosophical pursuits. We are the results of nurture & nature, we're one millisecond in the reaches of time apart from being animals and our society focuses on drama.

We would much more prefer to watch some superhero kicking butt than reading about Jesus or Gandhi who spoke of  peace & love. We crane our necks when we see flashing lights at an MVAs but we turn our heads and look away at a cardboard sign being held by a homeless person.

Yes, I agree with both Hoosier and JBMom that we need to be kind, and hopefully in this thread, we will find a way to be kind and entertaining at the same time!

Davey Do

Specializes in around 25 years psych, 15years medical. Has 43 years experience. 1 Article; 9,488 Posts

1 minute ago, NurseBlaq said:

Y'all know why I'm here. 🍿

Yes, I do and I thank you for chiming in, NurseBlaq.

You area good example of one who can be fun & respectful at the same time.

Would you like to tell our studio audience how you achieve that?

Hoosier_RN, MSN

Specializes in dialysis. Has 29 years experience. 3,311 Posts

14 minutes ago, NurseBlaq said:

Y'all know why I'm here. 🍿

Can you share? I'm all out, not been able to get to the store with the rona and all...

NurseBlaq

1,753 Posts

1 minute ago, Hoosier_RN said:

Can you share? I'm all out, not been able to get to the store with the rona and all...

Sure. I'll drone you some. I share. 😏

caliotter3

38,332 Posts

1 minute ago, NurseBlaq said:

Sure. I'll drone you some. I share. 😏

I like the kettle variety. 😊

Davey Do

Specializes in around 25 years psych, 15years medical. Has 43 years experience. 1 Article; 9,488 Posts

1 minute ago, NurseBlaq said:

Sure. I'll drone you some. I share. 😏

"I'm WAITING!"                                                                                                    -Vizzini

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NurseBlaq

1,753 Posts

12 minutes ago, Davey Do said:

Yes, I do and I thank you for chiming in, NurseBlaq.

You area good example of one who can be fun & respectful at the same time.

Would you like to tell our studio audience how you achieve that?

I take breaks and use the block feature religiously. However, I've been guilty of being hateful on AN but only in response to receiving hatefulness. When I find myself not enjoying AN I don't engage. I've learned you have to recognize things/people that upset you and avoid them. You also have to recognize the fakes. There's been an uptick in people creating accounts just to keep the conflict going on AN. Lastly, it's alright to disagree with someone in one thread and laugh with them in another. I've done it many times.

Davey Do

Specializes in around 25 years psych, 15years medical. Has 43 years experience. 1 Article; 9,488 Posts

46 minutes ago, JBMmom said:

I choose to believe that no one comes here with the express intent of hurting anyone's feelings, save the random troll here and there. 

 

2 minutes ago, NurseBlaq said:

There's been an uptick in people creating accounts just to keep the conflict going on AN. 

Now why would someone want to create discord on the Internet by starting quarrels or upsetting people by posting inflammatory or off-topic messages in an online community?

What's their motivation?