Akward work situation??

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I work as caregivet in LTC while pre-nursing. I am very friendly and have exchanged phone numbers and facebook contact with a few co-workers and we have become friends. There is a worker in the kitchen, male, that I also exchanged numbers with. He acted a bit disappointed when he found out Im married w/ a daughter (I dont hide it) We text a few times, mostly about caregiver vs kitchen duties. I invited him bowling with a group, explained my husband would come too, etc. Yesterday he text me out of the blue "People are making assumptions about me Im not sure why because I dont see you very much but I dont think we should talk or text anymore" I explained I am sorry if I did something, I am not sure about any "assumptions" but we can remain professional. This via text, then I deleted his number. At the end of my shift he aproaches me asking "are we cool? We can be friends @ work but Im uncomfortable talking to you because I dont want to step on your husbands toes" I said I am "cool" with everything, tol a him I only meant friendship and my husband is fine with me having male friends, but we can just move on as friendly professionals. WELL, today he avoids me and acts kind of, weird, and soI just act normal. I talk to everyone, go about my day, etc. A female co-worker/friend approached me that this guy appears to have feelings for me, she teased him about having a crush on someone (didnt mention names) and this was before the text. She apologized repeatedly, afraid :jester:she ruined our friendship. Ugh. I said its fine, if someone jas feelings I dont want to lead them on. I just feel like high school all over again! Ugh! Ugh! Ugh! I plan to ignore and act normally. Just venting I guess.

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Silly drama! Sorry for typos and oddly placed joker face lol. I know its silly, I just hate drama and ppl with alleged crushes avoiding others.

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Specializes in LTC.

It seems as though you learned your lesson. If I were married I personally would not give my number to any male co-workers. You and your husband may be fine with this however, you don't know what the intentions are of your co-worker and he may very well be attracted to you.

Its' important to understand why your co-worker feels uncomfortable. I commend him for being professional and wanting to avoid any possible toxic situations. I'm too am really friendly and outgoing with co-workers but I tend Not to give my number out and FB people from work.

I don't come to work to make friends.

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Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.

I would just let it blow over. It sounds like the guy knows where the boundaries are and you learned that giving other men your phone number might not be the best idea.

I do have friends at work. Some I am close with have my phone number, many are on my Facebook. I enjoy the camaraderie it brings and the additional connections I have in a city I have only lived in for four years. Unfortunately I am not someone who easily buddies up with neighbors and strangers, therefore work tends to be my friend base, as does my husbands work.

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.

And FACEBOOK ruins another friendship/relationship.

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Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.
And FACEBOOK ruins another friendship/relationship.

It can, but it doesn't always.

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I would avoid him because it sounds like he is trying to stir up drama.

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I would just let it blow over. It sounds like the guy knows where the boundaries are and you learned that giving other men your phone number might not be the best idea.

I do have friends at work. Some I am close with have my phone number, many are on my Facebook. I enjoy the camaraderie it brings and the additional connections I have in a city I have only lived in for four years. Unfortunately I am not someone who easily buddies up with neighbors and strangers, therefore work tends to be my friend base, as does my husbands work.

Yes, I am the same way. I dont ask for their number on the first day, but there are a few I have clicked with and so we build a friendship. I dont have a gender preference for friends, my husband and I are open about who we text. He has a female coworker he texts often, she is buying a house and tells him about it. But if he was uncomfortable thats good he let me know. I guess I am just frustrated with the obvious avoidance and the fact people tease others about "crushes".

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Perhaps the most funny to me is I only work weekends because I am a student (online mostly) and take care of a 1 year old. Im barely there! Yet the gossip and drama exists lol. Oh well! Thanks for letting me vent :)

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.
And FACEBOOK ruins another friendship/relationship.

Hmmmm how can Facebook ruin a relationship?? It's choices individuals make that ruin a relationship. Not a website.

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Specializes in They know this too!.

I use to add people from work, until a coworker said I was talking bad about the company. Not ever again. Didn't even talk about work on my page. I don't do that, it is none of anyone's business. I don't even say where I work.

My friend does Baylor at a facility, she says the same thing... :lol2: Everyone is up in everyone's beeswax.

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You are not responsible for what he does with his feelings. He knows you are married and he is wise in reining in the friendship. Keep it professional on the job and don't feed into any workplace gossip. Rethink your policy of giving out your contact info to people at work.

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