Specializes in Complex pedi to LTC/SA & now a manager.
Well the main prob is I gave advise to some girl
She got ******* out for not being prepared in labs
So as the rep she came to me
I told her follow chain
Talk to teacher, then team leader
But I gave her advise to
She said should I say how much the teacher hurt my feelings
I said no just apologize and be prepared for labs from now on
So I did it on front of 6 girls
Same day I got pulled aside
Teacher said they complaining that I said boobs thing
4 days later.I was told not suppose to give feedback
So OK I got my instruction what to do
But as the rep do I not help to resolve conflicts?
Not usually it is not your job to resolve conflicts. It's most likely your job to listen and defer to the instructor or school student services.
If you do not understand your role as class rep ask school administration as to your role expectations/description.
It seems there may be a lot if miscommunication and misinterpretation between you and everyone else. You cannot learn social and interpersonal skills by reading 200 books. Those who have poor interpersonal relationships need 1:1 or small group facilitated sessions to improve communication skills by actually interacting not reading texts.
If your situation escalates to being dismissed I strongly consider you reconsider nursing as a career. You've been dismissed twice from an RPN program and are now threatened with dismissal from an LPN program per your posting history. Three strings and your out, in this case it seems to be you not them.
I have no idea why you would want to seek advice about something like this here. None of us know you or the people you are talking about. None of us saw or heard what happened or didn't happen. Most of us don't even live in the same country as you if you're in Canada. Whether you are telling us the truth or not, your story sounds pretty odd, to the point that you probably aren't going to get much sympathy if that's what you want.
If someone made up something about you, I think all you can do is deny it and hope for the best. If that's the case, I can't help thinking that it means that one or more people didn't like you for some reason. Not knowing you, I can't even speculate about that.
Specializes in Complex pedi to LTC/SA & now a manager.
Please don't take this the wrong way, do you speak the same way that you write? Its often difficult to decipher what you are intending to say by your choice of vocabulary and syntax.
Aside from social interaction and interpersonal relations, there seems to be a huge communication barrier here. No one goes through multiple programs over a decade and in each and every program is "belittled" "bullied" "yelled at" "picked on" mandated to have meetings with administration, barred from working with female classmates, mandated to have counseling not only by the school but you physician, advised by you physician to choose another career path, consistently challenging authority, consistent power struggles with students, nurses, instructors and administration. The only consistent factor in all of these posts is you. Perhaps start looking inward and stop looking to blame the students, faculty, and administration for your own shortcomings in interpersonal relations and communication skills.
You cannot learn interpersonal relations from reading hundreds of books like you can learn math or science. Its an interactive process that requires dialogue with others. You have already been given advice by you classmate.
Don't joke around with your classmates, clearly you are not funny to your female classmates and have been accused of harassment. Most schools would not just bar you from interacting with female classmates, you would be expelled for cause.
Detach. Don't go to school to make new friends. Be collegial, participate in class, do not try and carry the relationship outside the classroom. Don't be belligerent. Don't challenge authority. Choose your words wisely. Wait before speaking as you cannot take back words already spoken. Do your work. Do your reading. Be prepared for class and assignments. Turn in your work on time. Be on time for class and clinical rotations. Take care when interacting with the opposite sex and nursing professionals. Do not be abrasive. If you have a female patient, bring a witness that can help you read the patient's emotions and expressions. You may be misinterpreting body language and facial expressions.
You need to be professional. No one says can I palpate the stomach. I had 7 men in my nursing school class. Some were more personable than others.
Hi, My name is Joe and I'm going to be the student nurse working with you today. I need to do an assessment, we are going to start with your vital signs. Next I need to listen to your heart and lungs, can you lean forward for me.Deep breath. I need to assess your abdomen, I will leave the blanket on your lap and lift your gown so I can see your abdomen and start with your upper left side. If a patient refuses, regardless of reason STOP and thank the patient for their time and let your clinical instructor know.
Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Dan....I know your are struggling. Sometimes we need to look at ourselves when things consistently do not go in our favor. Please speak to someone professional. I am sure there are counselors at your school or community that might help you gain some insight on how to improve your interpersonal relationships. It is clear you are being misinterpreted and you are having difficulty relating to others.
Please don't take this the wrong way, do you speak the same way that you write? Its often difficult to decipher what you are intending to say by your choice of vocabulary and syntax.
After going back through the OP's older posts I have noticed that his syntax and vocabulary changes. I am wondering if this is really happening or if it is a new member fishing for something.
I am all for helping someone and giving advise (advice) but...... No time for someone that wants to play. The advice here is to be professional in all aspects. Especially once you are working as a nurse.....
Oh Danlee I just think you make this stuff up. There is no way anyone does the stuff you do in all of these programs who claim to have attended. Most people learn after their first mistake. It's also advice, not advise unless you are in the UK.
It's advise in Canada. Just like programme. He's in Canada.
Sexual harassment is illegal in Canada too.
'Advice' is the standard English word for the noun. I checked dictionary.com, wiktionary.org, and the Oxford Dictionary. All 3 have 'advice' listed as the noun and 'advise' listed as the verb. Many English words follow the 'ce' for American English and 'se' for British English, but this is not one of them.
JustBeachyNurse, LPN
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Not usually it is not your job to resolve conflicts. It's most likely your job to listen and defer to the instructor or school student services.
If you do not understand your role as class rep ask school administration as to your role expectations/description.
It seems there may be a lot if miscommunication and misinterpretation between you and everyone else. You cannot learn social and interpersonal skills by reading 200 books. Those who have poor interpersonal relationships need 1:1 or small group facilitated sessions to improve communication skills by actually interacting not reading texts.
If your situation escalates to being dismissed I strongly consider you reconsider nursing as a career. You've been dismissed twice from an RPN program and are now threatened with dismissal from an LPN program per your posting history. Three strings and your out, in this case it seems to be you not them.