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Hi at my new school.now wondering how I can deal with this better

This last week we divided our class in half

5 were nurse 5 patients

A few days ago I was told 9 people made a complaint against me and they said I made sexually inappropriate comments ie those are big boobs

When I'm the nurse I just follow procedure. Is it OK if I palpate your abdominal?

3 times I had meeetingd saying they would fail me

The school said stay away from girls.now i only work with guys

I asked for written proof, for particular details such as how many times was it said, and if this ever happens at this school

The student services manager said I might nee to wear a ring another guy just said don't joke around with them and detach

So what can I do to protect myself

I never saw this coming

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Specializes in Complex pedi to LTC/SA & now a manager.

You have had interpersonal relation issues with other students and school administration in the past. It seems this is your third attempt at a nursing program.

Start with the simple: Did you make the comment or anything similar? Even joking or under your breath? If so you are lucky you were not dismissed on the spot.

If the school states stay away from certain other students, follow their advice. Nine separate complaints combined with your previous nursing school difficulties suggests it may be an issue with the student and staff perception of your attitude and actions that may be the issue as opposed to you being a victim. Nursing is not the best choice for everyone. Just because one wants to be a nurse doesn't mean that they should.

Don't challenge instructors or administration; from experience you should know that only causes further issues and puts your student status at risk.

Keep your head low and follow school policy as written. Don't be confrontational (asking for a specific detailed list of accusations can be viewed as confrontational) and do exactly what is asked of you. Don't antagonize other students. Don't attempt to make crude jokes as it will likely backfire. Do your work exactly as assigned. Do the assigned reading and projects.

If you are expelled or dismissed from your third attempt at nursing school you should probably consider another education program different from nursing.

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Specializes in Complex pedi to LTC/SA & now a manager.
The student services manager said I might nee to wear a ring another guy just said don't joke around with them and detach.

Another male student and the student services manager already gave you great advice. Follow it.

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Yes trying to be positive and do what they say but seems odd that I am having these problems

I was elected class rep and seem to get along with everyone

And no I would not say that

But yes I am just doing my own thing, super professional ,don't help anyone, no giving advise

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9 people said I said the sexual comment ..

I found it odd since how can 9 people be at bedside when I'm doing assessment and vitals and the language is strange..I am.more quiet Asian and analytical

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Specializes in Short Term/Skilled.

Based on your history, (I peeked at some of your posts) my advice is that you need to take a very long break from the nursing program and work on you.

Something isn't right. Whether it's personal skills, a language barrier, personal issues or something else entirely, I don't know.

I do, however, truly believe that you need to take a step back, learn some life skills, and re-evaluate.

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Worked on me

OK how come I got elected class rep if I don't have good people skills?

I have been getting along with everyone...

But I'm looking at more of the preventative stuff like communication skills so people don't misinterpret

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I did learn life skills ..I read over 200 books that's how I got elected rep and formed tons of study groups

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Well the main prob is I gave advise to some girl

She got ******* out for not being prepared in labs

So as the rep she came to me

I told her follow chain

Talk to teacher, then team leader

But I gave her advise to

She said should I say how much the teacher hurt my feelings

I said no just apologize and be prepared for labs from now on

So I did it on front of 6 girls

Same day I got pulled aside

Teacher said they complaining that I said boobs thing

4 days later.I was told not suppose to give feedback

So OK I got my instruction what to do

But as the rep do I not help to resolve conflicts?

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Specializes in ICU.

Oh Danlee I just think you make this stuff up. There is no way anyone does the stuff you do in all of these programs who claim to have attended. Most people learn after their first mistake. It's also advice, not advise unless you are in the UK.

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Specializes in ICU.

Might I also just add, sexual harassment is a very big deal. Don't come on here to make this stuff up. Anyone who doesn't understand the implications of what you did does not need to be in nursing or working with people, period.

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Specializes in Complex pedi to LTC/SA & now a manager.

It's advise in Canada. Just like programme. He's in Canada.

Sexual harassment is illegal in Canada too.

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