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I hope this topic helps me, along with other nurses stuck in the middle like myself.
So my background: I graduated nursing school in May 2017. I passed my NCLEX in July '17 and was hired right away onto a SICU at a level I trauma center/teaching hospital. I was miserable the first 4 or so months of my job, as I had very little confidence and had an incredibly patronizing preceptor. I thought I was an idiot and had no business being a nurse, much less an ICU nurse. However, by 6-7 months in, I started to gain some confidence and felt fulfilled through my job. I started on night shift with 6 other new grads, and I found many friendships at this jobs as we always had 8-9 workers at night. However, I was moving to South Carolina to live with my boyfriend I had met in college. I was very sad about leaving this job, but was hopeful for my future. I'd like to think of myself as very easy to get along with and likable.
I accepted a job at a very small hospital- 8 bed general ICU but a day shift position. This job was a nightmare. It was incredibly short staffed, I was floating to the floor (which I had no training on) constantly, and I felt my license was at stake. I also did not feel challenged enough on my nursing and critical thinking skills. This being said, I applied to a larger hospital in the city on a CVICU where I thought I would be a lot happier. It was night shift, but no weekends and I was going to have a higher base pay too. I also thought it would be a way to make new friendships as I hoped their would be other nurses close in age to me there as there weren't at the small hospital.
I started on this unit back in August (maybe 25th?), and right away was very intimidated by it. I quickly realized how completely different a surgical ICU is from a cardiovascular ICU. I had no knowledge about the heart, how to admit an open heart patient, and honestly all of my critical thinking skills were incredibly rusty from being away from the SICU for the past 4 months. My preceptor was very nice, but I began to hear word from other workers that she teaches her new hires basically nothing.
I was fairly content on day shift orienting, but as soon as I flipped to being off orientation onto night shift, my overall feelings completely changed. For one, there are maybe only 4-5 nurses on night shift as we usually only have 5 patients or less. They were never welcoming from the start. I don't mean to speak poorly of them, as they're nice enough, but they just did not go out of their way to befriend me despite my own efforts. As I previously stated, I was used to being surrounded by a bunch of other new grads and a large staff at night at my first job.
Secondly, they all have 2-5 years of CVICU experience, so I struggle a lot to relate to any of them. I constantly fear looking or sounding stupid as my concerns and questions are not ones they can relate to at this point in their nursing careers.
Third, I feel stupid ALL the time on this unit. It has been 6 months, and I feel as though I'm asking questions that the other staff feels I should know the answers to by now. I still struggle with my confidence on this floor greatly- a huge reason being that I learned by relying on paging a resident for every single problem I came across with a patient to now a non-teaching hospital where I have to rely on my own instinct and protocols to make incredibly important decisions.
Lastly, to make matters all the worse during my M-W shifts, I don't see my boyfriend at all. I understand why this may seem like a silly point to make- but I still have no close best friends in the area and he is my entire support system. So, basically, through each work week, we go until Thursday nights without contact except for quick 30 minute phone calls when I'm driving from and he's driving to work in the morning. With little support from my coworkers and little interaction with my best friend, I'm feeling so isolated and depressed at this new job.
Now with my background covered, I suppose my problem and question is has anyone else been past their 1 year mark in their nursing career and still struggled with confidence in their knowledge? I guess I justify it to myself constantly that I feel as though I started over completely in my nursing career when I started on a CVICU. We have to make so many critical decisions I never had to make on my own previously. I also am learning the body in totally different way of thinking, as I said before, knew nothing about the heart. I had felt incredibly confident at my last place of employment, so I just think the unit has something to do with it. I know I wanted to be challenged, but this is just depressing.
I constantly consider applying to a new job or returning to the job I was at before this current one. At least I was miserable with an incredibly supportive staff and saw my boyfriend. However, I am dying to just be somewhere for at least a year and I'd feel like I'm only complicating my critical thinking skills further if I leave after only 6 months at this place. That would be 8 months at one place, 3 months at another, and 6 months here. I should try to stick to something. But then I just think that maybe I am incapable of learning critical thinking and I should just apply for a slower paced job somewhere.
Can anyone out there relate? Please say yes.