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Special Needs Child Being Bullied: How can I keep my patient safe? - page 2

After 4 yrs of staff nursing, I switched to agency nursing. My latest assignment is caring for a special needs child in a public school. I've had this child since the last school yr. I had to... Read More

  1. Visit  Lovewhatidointx profile page
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    I have no idea who the next person on the ladder would be. Do any of you know who the principal reports to? I thought about the media but I'm sure that really would land me in a world of trouble. That's why I asked if I could tell my student's mother of the attempted attacks on her. With having 2 children facing similar situations, she would definitely do something like that. She's a protective mama bear like me & would take any steps necessary to protect her children. If it were my child, I'd have to call my attorney to be on standby with bail money after finding out my 3 yr old had been choked & nothing done about it. I'd be a crazy woman. I don't tolerate abuse at all especially abuse of children & the elderly. I've already told my husband that my license means nothing if I can't protect those I care for. I am willing to do whatever I have to do to put an end to these babies being abused even if it means losing my license. One day I will have to answer to God & I don't want to have to try to explain how my nursing license meant more to me than protecting one of His special children. I just want to make sure I handle this the right way. Because once I'm gone on Friday, I will have no way of knowing what happens to those children.
  2. Visit  morte profile page
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    In my locale, it would be 'superintendent of schools" I think. The school board tends to be political, I think. Getting down and dirty, what you are witnessing is a crime, how about the police? Even if it is to just talk to one, perhaps they have ' been there, done that', and can tell you the next step up the ladder?
    Quote from Lovewhatidointx
    I have no idea who the next person on the ladder would be. Do any of you know who the principal reports to? I thought about the media but I'm sure that really would land me in a world of trouble. That's why I asked if I could tell my student's mother of the attempted attacks on her. With having 2 children facing similar situations, she would definitely do something like that. She's a protective mama bear like me & would take any steps necessary to protect her children. If it were my child, I'd have to call my attorney to be on standby with bail money after finding out my 3 yr old had been choked & nothing done about it. I'd be a crazy woman. I don't tolerate abuse at all especially abuse of children & the elderly. I've already told my husband that my license means nothing if I can't protect those I care for. I am willing to do whatever I have to do to put an end to these babies being abused even if it means losing my license. One day I will have to answer to God & I don't want to have to try to explain how my nursing license meant more to me than protecting one of His special children. I just want to make sure I handle this the right way. Because once I'm gone on Friday, I will have no way of knowing what happens to those children.
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  3. Visit  Lovewhatidointx profile page
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    That's similar the the aggressor's situation. He curses like a sailor & they say he repeats what he hears. Uh hello! We don't use foul language in the classroom! When he's asked where he heard that language, he replies that his older brother called him that name or his brother says that. When told about him hitting other children. Their reply is that he says they're hitting him. Uh no! He's the only one doing the hitting. The other children are terrified of him. It's obvious that his family is the source of his behavior but they're in denial. I can't fix that & I feel very sorry for him. I have offered him incentives not to hit. I've tried every positive reinforcement psych approach I can think of to no avail. Nothing has worked.
  4. Visit  gummi bear profile page
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    I think that this situation is being swept under the rug because these are special needs children. It's unfortunate that the aide feels as if she has a right to slap someone's child. Are we allowed to slap pyche/mentally unstable patients? I don't think so. Same goes to the teaching staff. Special needs children can be violent, but if the teaching staff can't handle it, or learn to take the appropriate steps to make their classrooms a safe environment, then it's time for them to seek employment elsewhere. There are too many unemployed teachers who are more than willing to get the job done right.
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  5. Visit  samadams8 profile page
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    Quote from nursel56
    No, you are reporting abuse. Your state may have a mandatory reporting law, as mine does. I wouldn't worry about HIPAA when a 3-year old is choked until she turns blue and the principal doesn't care. They don't have anyone who protects them, let alone advocate for them. I'll send up an extra prayer for you. Even when we know what the right thing to do is, it's awful to be placed there.

    ITA. Abuse must be addressed, period. It's ethically and legally mandatory.
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  6. Visit  Lovewhatidointx profile page
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    I feel the same way. This is a huge district & from what I've seen on tv, they have a lot unfortunate events going on in their schools. I see the parents crying, school district issues some generic PR excuse, & then we never hear of it again. I have a close friend that moved back to LA because her special needs teaching position had been eliminated due to budget cuts. The teacher in our classroom is more concerned with getting through her lesson plan than what's going on with the kids. I am not exaggerating when I say they're standing on top of tables and in the seat of chairs, running with scissors and other dangerous objects, throwing things across the room, putting things in their mouth, & etc. Sometimes I feel like I'm at a circus instead of an elementary school. No one is learning anything because of the distractions. I'm not a teacher, but I would think that test scores would be higher if there was some kind of order in the classroom. Just the opinion of a nurse.
  7. Visit  chevyv profile page
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    Our school district recently fired a tenured special ed support aid d/t abuse. The person is fighting for her job back and I pray she won't get it. This person worked with my special needs son a few years back and I had an incident with her and refused to let her work with my child after that.

    Students reported seeing her hit a student and yet nothing happened until parents got involved. The school was sticking to the story that many kids don't like a teacher and will make these accusations. Really!?

    My daughter came home last year and reported another aid was extremely rough with another special ed student. I reported it pronto but the person is still there.

    I want to thank you for reporting what you witnessed. I only wish you could talk with the parents of the children being abused by other students. If that was my child, I wouldn't rest until all was right, period. Tell the school board and the local paper if necessary!
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    I am so ******* upset right now! I hate corporate American policies! My agency returned my call & asked that I write a formal statement for their Compliance Officer because the reason stated for my termination was reporting. They said they need it in case something comes back as a result of what has transpired at the school. Also, I was told that I had reported the incident to the principal & that I didn't need to take any further action. I explained what the laws are regarding abuse & once again informed that I had already done my part. WTH is wrong with people? Has their greed clouded their judgement & their sense of right & wrong? I am livid & not sure if I want to cry or scream at this moment.
  9. Visit  Lovewhatidointx profile page
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    I promise that wasn't a curse word! I guess the moderator thought it was close enough. Sorry if anyone though it was.
  10. Visit  NutmeggeRN profile page
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    You are a mandated reporter and thus should be protected under whistleblower laws. Good luck
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  11. Visit  brillohead profile page
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    As for telling the parent, you could always say something like, "I saw that <victim-child> was <struck/choked/slapped/whatever> by <aggressor-child>, so you might want to be on the lookout for s/s of pain, contusion, swelling, etc.

    That is you relaying medical information that is relevant to your charge, rather than "tattling" about abuse.
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  12. Visit  Lovewhatidointx profile page
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    Should I write a statement for the compliance officer? His tone initially was "as a parent i can understand why you're so upset about this situation". However, during his return call, his tone was more like a "I'm protecting my relationship with the client & my company & from this point, you're on your own". I am afraid I may be the one left holding the bag.
  13. Visit  JustBeachyNurse profile page
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    Not a school nurse, but consider calling your personal malpractice/liability insurance for advice. Like others said nurses are manditory reporters, regardless of what your agency says. Compliance is likely involved because they know this is the truth. There is one agency that is now under manditory compliance oversight because of failure to address issues such as this (as well as several other unscrupulous business practices). Good luck.

    you can check your board of nursing website for information and support regarding manditory reporting of child abuse.

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