Overbearing parent rant

  1. Have a kicker for you guys today! I seriously wanted to tell this woman to stop overbearing because he's going to have issues when he's older. But here we go:

    We have this parent who is CONSTANTLY complaining to her child's teachers the whole year (Kinder), I never have issues with her but today her child came because he ran into the brick wall during recess and his head hurts. Did my normal check up, no bleeding or anything, ice pack asked him how he feels. I called mother, told her that her child ran into a wall during recess, he seems fine but the poor little one is saying his head hurts, but he seems fine to me. Mother gets upset and asks how ran into a wall during recess? I told her I'm not sure, I was just told he ran into a wall, but if she wants to come get him she can. She says yes and she wants to talk to someone about this! I say okay and I hang up. I get his backpack and I ask the student what happened, he's super quiet and I can't understand him when he said what happened. I ask his teacher, she said the same thing, he ran into the wall while they were chasing each other.

    Okay great, mom comes in and I explain to her and she gets upset on how her child can get hurt?! We aren't taking good care of their children if this happens. I tell her I understand her concern, but to be honest they are children and a bump or bruise will happen, especially at recess, but if she's very concern on his injury she can take him to the doctor. She said she will and she's not sure she'll bring him back next year. She left all huffy.
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  2. 24 Comments

  3. by   OldDude
    Quote from Amethya
    She said she will and she's not sure she'll bring him back next year.
    One can only hope...
  4. by   AdobeRN
    Ugg...I understand how you feel...I think we all have least dozen families like that.

    It always cracks me up whenever parents say the "I'm not bringing my kid here next year" I just nod and smile and wish I could say " yep feelings mutual, I wish you would transfer too, good luck with that"....Our district is very strict about transfers between the schools - you pretty much need to have a darn good reason & jump thru a million obstacles to get your kid transferred to a school out of your zone.
  5. by   OldDude
    Quote from AdobeRN
    Ugg...I understand how you feel...I think we all have least dozen families like that.

    It always cracks me up whenever parents say the "I'm not bringing my kid here next year" I just nod and smile and wish I could say " yep feelings mutual, I wish you would transfer too, good luck with that"....Our district is very strict about transfers between the schools - you pretty much need to have a darn good reason & jump thru a million obstacles to get your kid transferred to a school out of your zone.
    And...there is always home schooling
  6. by   Amethya
    Exactly... makes me hope that he doesn't come back because with a parent like that? I rather not deal with that the whole year.

    I understand they get worried about their children, I have two of them myself! Mine is the same age of the student, but I taught my children not to be a cry baby to the nurse. Unless it's an emergency, don't visit the nurse, that's what I tell them. An emergency would be cuts that are really bad, vomiting, fever and bad headaches or injuries they get that the playground that they need an ice pack. If it can be fixed in the classroom, then there's no reason to visit her. So far I had only 2 calls from her! One because my boy got a injury in the playground but was fixed with an ice pack and a bandaid and the other one was my girl got sick with stomach flu and was vomiting and had to go home. That's it.

    Why is it so simple for my kids, but for other parents, it's like death for them?
  7. by   SchoolNurseTXstyle
  8. by   ruby_jane
    WOW! I've not read of or heard of this....but I think I'm seeing it!
  9. by   ruby_jane
    Quote from Amethya

    Okay great, mom comes in and I explain to her and she gets upset on how her child can get hurt?!.
    Two years ago I stopped explaining disciplinary actions to parents - not my job, I'm just cleaning the kid up and making sure nothing terrible happened. Last year I stopped explaining to parents what the teacher said happened. I will of course ask the student, and then get clarification if it seems egregious, but the parent can ask the student and then I can refer the parent to the teacher for the explanation of how sweet baby got hurt. Because I wasn't there, and I'm just cleaning the kid up...
  10. by   BethG73
    Quote from Amethya
    She said she will and she's not sure she'll bring him back next year. She left all huffy.
    See ya! Buh-bye!

    If only we could say what we're thinking sometimes...
  11. by   Jedrnurse
    How could he run into a wall? He. Is. In. Kindergarten.

    Enough said...
  12. by   kidzcare
    Quote from Jedrnurse
    How could he run into a wall? He. Is. In. Kindergarten.
    Some kids with sensory issues seek out crash landings. It's a form of deep pressure stimulation.

    My son definitely does. I have been thinking about getting him a weighted blanket. He already frequently wears a blanket around the house like a cape so I think he is seeking out that feeling of pressure.
  13. by   Jen-Elizabeth
    Quote from kidzcare
    Some kids with sensory issues seek out crash landings. It's a form of deep pressure stimulation.

    My son definitely does. I have been thinking about getting him a weighted blanket. He already frequently wears a blanket around the house like a cape so I think he is seeking out that feeling of pressure.
    We have a few students who wear a weight vest under a loose uniform shirt. No one really notices it and it helps. I used to keep one for a student in my office to put under a shirt as needed. Student would use it occasionally, usually during high anxiety times (testing, for example).
  14. by   Flare
    so my deep sigh / eye roll overbearing parent that we can't please of the week award goes to the mom of a child with a cardiac issue that I have a note on stating "must stay indoors if temp is above 90". Mom called me in a snit when the child came home sick after the child was allowed to play outside when it was around 85. The teacher watched the temp and made sure he was hydrated - he just happened to get strep at the same time. Yesterday the teacher and I discussed that same child needs to stay in as it is going to be 91 at recess. Mom said she was disappointed that he had to stay in. Are you kidding me? So you're going to bust my chops that he went you on an 85 degree day in the autumn because it's too hot but on a hot spring day at it's fine at 91? No ma'am, i'm not falling for it. Today she sent an email saying he can go out to play. Oh, i'll allow it - but i'm documenting everything and I do mean everything.

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