**venting**

[bdbrdb]

I just got off the phone with the HH agency I work for as PDN. I was asked what shift did I want to work now that my FT is switching agency...?!?!. I had no idea my pt was switching, so I asked when is my last day and she says oh I thought you knew, don't show up again with that pt. The most frustrating part is my hubby, my income supports our family so it's upsetting when he starts on about I need to get a new case tonight and that I need to take whatever case they have available. He doesn't understand that the majority of the cases are pts who are complete assist, I'm 5'2" and 95 lbs I have a tough time repositioning patients who are way bigger than me. He doesn't understand it's not safe for the pt or myself and also he wants me taking high acuity cases. I've gone to the teach/vent training sessions and even after attending the ones work provides I don't feel confident in working those cases alone especially with a new peds trach pt. His thoughts are that I'm lazy and don't want to work those case. Ugh! I've gone to the "training" sessions and I just don't feel like I'll be prepared for an emergency. And I have covered a shift with an adult who had a trach and even though everything went well during the days I covered he was still too big for me to reposition on my own. I just wish hubby would be more supportive instead of just yelling that I need to find work now.

[VANurse2010]

Tell your husband to knock it off cuz his meal ticket will be worthless without a clean license.

[blondy2061h, MSN, RN]

Uhm, I hate to comment, because I know it's hard to get a good feel for someone's whole relationship based on one venting thread, but your husband sounds pretty dense, and like the one that's lazy. That's very frustrating that tge agency gave you NO notice that your patient was gone, but by and large these seem more like marital issues than career issues. Have you ever considered any couples therapy to get you two communicating better and maybe try and stir some empathy into the mix?

I really hope you find a new case soon that works out beautifully!

[WookieeRN, BSN, MSN, RN]

Your husband can't talk if he isn't adding to the pot, no offense.

[roser13, ASN, RN]

None of my business, but why are you the sole support for your family?

[bdbrdb]

Right, that's what I think. If my pt gets hurt or I get hurt then I could lose my license and who knows when I'd be able to work.

[bdbrdb]

I don't understand why they didn't give me any notice. The Schedular was surprised that I had no idea. She said I can't believe the parent didn't mention it, but then again I can't believe the agency didn't give me notice. I've thought about couples therapy, we don't communicate well. I just don't have anyone else to talk to so just needed to vent. Thanks, I hope I get a case that's a good fit. I left a pt I had been with for two years that was great and his mom was great but they lived too far and dealing with highway traffic for 45 min was a huge headache. So switched to those case that was 10 min away and the hours allowed me to spend more time with my kids.

[bdbrdb]

I actually thought it would be a good idea if he stayed home with the kids. I've always worked ft and on my own I can support the family. I wish I could stay home with our kids but financially it was best for me to work and he stay home. I just didn't want to leave my kids in day care or be gone from both their parents for 10-12 hr shifts.

[Been there,done that, ASN, RN]

You don't have a work problem, you have a husband problem.

Wish in one hand and defecate in the other. Guess which one fills up faster?

The "hubby" you are supporting cannot call your nursing career. Don't know if would even sink in.. but explain to him that .. you could get in serious trouble with the livelihood if you take unsafe assignments.

Best of luck.

[middleagednurse]

Dear: It took me a few years to learn this, but, it is not your job to support your husband. Tell hubby "I want to spend some time with the kids, YOU go get a job and hurry up and do it. Let HIM support you for a change. Don't put off the therapy, you need it NOW.

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

Moved to Private Duty Nursing

[caliotter3]

If you would spend some time reading threads in the home health and "private duty" sections of the site you would know that this area of nursing is not at the top of the list for providing job (and paycheck) security. The only people who have steady work or overtime in extended care home health are those who are looked upon with favor by the people in the office, secondarily, by the clients. The best advice you can follow is to remain on board with two or more agencies and always keep in mind the phrase, "job today, maybe job tomorrow".