Youngest labor patient? - page 9

What is the youngest age patient you have taken care of or has b een on your L&D unit? I was floored the other week when we had a 12 year old in labor. Yes, 12 years old. Merely a baby herself,... Read More

  1. by   kat911
    [QUOTE=Gabby_101]I hope you don't mind if I post somthing, I thought you might want to see a teen point of view. I am a fifteen, where I go to school we have over 15 girls who are going to have a child or have just had one this year. The worst part about it is that about 10 of those girls wanted to have children, it was not on accident. I just don't know why these girls are doing this. There is a girl that is in 10th grade and going to have her second baby, I think that many of these girls either just want someone to love them or think that their boyfriend will love them more if they have a child, but as many of them are finding out, most of the guys are just leaving them. I am sorry if you dont' want me on here. I just wanted to post this b/c this is becoming a real problem. I can't even think of having a child now, I am enjoying my high school years. Not to mention further on.


    Welcome to the board. Sounds like you are a level headed, smart teen. You are doing exactly what you need to be doing at your age, having fun. I wish more teens had as much common sense as you do. We'll look forward to have you join our ranks in 6 or 8 years.
  2. by   jeepgirl
    I was really young when I had my daughter. I just wanted to post to stress to you have how much an influence YOU guys have on these kiddos.
    One huge reason I went to nursing school and became an RN was because of the influence my healthcare providers had on me during my pregnancy. At first, I felt really horrible about myself. The way those in the healthcare community made a huge difference in my whole perception of the experience. It really gave me "hope." Especially my doctor, whose first question to me at my 8 week prenatal appointment was "are you going to go back to school after you have the baby?"

    I think every day how great and encouraging the L&D nurses (who I know work with!) treated me. It made all the difference in the world... it made me want to be the best momma in the world to my baby, and they had confidence in me that I could. They didn't teach me like I was stupid just because I was young... and were very encouraging on stuff such as breastfeeding (and deciding NOT to breastfeed!) Sure, I was lucky... I had a lot of help and access to a lot of resources that most teens probably lack. But I don't think that I would have been so persistant out of making something out of myself if it hadn't been for those people who took care of me.

    Because of them, I went straight back to school. I declared nursing as my major, and I graduated with my ADN.
    I know I'm probably the exception to the rule with that... but I think that we as healthcare providers have much more influence than we think or realize.
    Last edit by jeepgirl on Feb 16, '05
  3. by   Kaseyrn2b
    what's the oldest pt you've had in labor? I work in genetic testing(soon to be nursing student)...oldest we've had for testing is 50! (Youngest is 11-so sad, also fetus was trisomy 18) I can't imagine having babies at either extreme.. I'm zonked at the end of the day w/ my 2 and I'm 30! Just curious...
  4. by   jaymikerr
    Alrighty please go easy on me as I am not a nurse I am someone who is hoping to be accepted into nursing school this September but this is a topic that really interests me.

    But first off Kaitlyns mom I truly believe that god gave you your special child because he believed that you would be the best person for her, I do not believe that a 10 or 11 year old could give that child the love and support that she needs. I have a slightly different perspective then some of you because I am just recently out of my teens myself I remember what we learned about sex in high school and that was absolutely nothing. We knew the names of stds but for most of them we didn't know much more. I believe that the sexual education courses here in canda are very irrelevant. I personally had about half an hour dedicated to pregnancy in my health course and all that they said is what it did to your body.
    Hearing about 10 and 11 and 12 year olds getting pregnant really makes me want to cry not just for them but for their children. A 12 year old is not done growing emotionally or physically and does not understand their body. I remember how I felt about myself at that age and I couldn't imagine having a child. I am the proud aunt of 4 beautiful children all born to teenage mothers and I kow that sometimes an older teen can be a great parent such as in the case of my sil, but I have also seen the reverse side. Most teenagers are not ready to be parents especially the younger ones.
    I cant see home schooling being the answer (please don't hate me I am not judging) if the only reason you are home schooling your children is because you are afraid of them reproducing I think you might be taking it a bit far I can honestly say that I know many girls who have had enough self respect to say no. We need to educate our children about the dangers of sex not just the physical ones but the psychological and emotional aspects as well. Education is the best weapon and I honestly don't think that what teenagers are being taught in school is enough. You cant be afraid to talk to your children you must because your children will be afraid to talk to you. When you are having problems of a sexual nature the last person you want to tell is your parents. And we cant rely on them getting good information as the people they talk (their friends) to will most likely be as if not more ignorant then themselves. What my mother did for me was let me know that I could talk to her with no reprucussions, and I did I found it hard but I knew I would not be punished.
    All you need to do is to check out sites like gurl.com or seventeen.com to realize how ignorant many children are about the repercussions of sex, stds, and pregnancy the site I mentioned gurl.com (which is geared towards 14-17 year olds )has a sexual awareness quiz which includes topics like birth control and stds and believe it or not less than 40% of children pass that test with a 50.
    Sorry im ranting but it is a topic that really does affect strongly as I see the effects everyday in my family and in my social interactions, I do believe that if we armed our children with more information and if more information was available to them it wold make a difference.
  5. by   FutureNrse
    Quote from Rita Marie
    Comic Sans MS


    One of the quotes to this is that the guy needed castration...he needed to have his butt in jail! He is a pedophile--that's all there is to it. :angryfire

    The girl's mom should have been in there right along side with the boyfriend, for being stupid!

    The two adults deserve each other, the young mother and the baby should have been removed from the home!
    Too bad the county or state this child resides in didn't do it though.
    Many years ago while I was working an on-call shift with childrens services I was called out late at night to pick a baby up from the hospital and deliver it to a crisis nursery, where it was being placed in protective custody. This was a fairly common occurance, usually due to the baby testing postive for drugs. When I got to the hospital, there was some confusion about what was going on with the case. It turns out that we were called in because of the grandmother, not the mother, who was 13. Everything was actually fine prior to grandma showing up. This is what happened. The 13 year old had been living with her boyfriend (18) for about a year without her mother doing anything about it. Then she gets pregnant, and has her baby. Still, her mom knows nothing. Hours before she is to be discharged from the hospital, her mom shows up. A nurse had to call security because grandma was making a scene, apparently, she was insisting on taking her daughter and grandchild home with her, which unfortunately was her right. To put it as kindly as possible, Grandma was scum. The daughter was horrified, but mom was threatening to charge her boybriend with rape. Anyhow, by the time I got there no one was sure what to do, take mother and baby? Arrest Grandma? I had to call my supervisor, and finally it was decided that we'd put the baby in protective custody, and start an investigation on grandma who was taking daughter home with her. The poor girl was heartbroken when I took that baby. She may have been only 13, but she was no little girl. I suppose the life she'd led had made her grow up fast. To be honest, if it weren't for grandma, I would have felt okay about this girl taking the baby home. Baby had been a little premature and the nurses had given the mom tons of instructions, which they told me she had taken very seriously, asked many questions, made notes, and just overall seemed very serious about caring for her baby.
    So, I took the baby that night and the next day I did an unannounced home visit at Grandma's. I found grandma passed out on the couch, drug paraphenalia on the kitchen table, the house unlivable. I called PD to deal with grandma and took the daughter to the receiving home. At first, she was less than thrilled to see me as I had taken her baby the night before. But, by then I had made some calls, conferred with every agency involved and it had been decided that if possible we could reunite mom and baby in a group home setting. Which we did. I kept in contact with her for quite some time, and last I heard, she was doing well, still in the same home, graduated HS early, and was taking one class at a time at a community college.
    I hope my story wasn't too long, but I felt that it had a place in this discussion.
  6. by   CatPKU
    I had an 11 yr old pt. I took care of her on the post partum mother/baby unit. She was a c-section and cried her entire stay because her friends could not visit her (age limit was 16 to visit). We never saw the father of the baby though she said it was her boyfriend. Her father visited everyday after work. He confided in me that if her ever saw "that boy" again, he would kill him.
  7. by   nursey_girl
    It's been common in our hospital to see 17 and often 16 year olds, but lately a lot of 13 and 14 year olds. All of the sudden it seemed...Where is this trend coming from? I'm not sure it ever did a lot of good, but I believe there is a decrease in sex ed in the local schools...
  8. by   RNKitty
    I wouldn't say a decrease in sex ed. More like a decrease in parental involvement, lack of supervision, increased exposure to sex in the media, etc.
  9. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from nursey_girl
    It's been common in our hospital to see 17 and often 16 year olds, but lately a lot of 13 and 14 year olds. All of the sudden it seemed...Where is this trend coming from? I'm not sure it ever did a lot of good, but I believe there is a decrease in sex ed in the local schools...
    No, not a decrease in sex ed ... there is alot of sex ed in school. I've had two boys already go through high school and my daughter just finished her "health" class, which was sex ed.

    One of the trends is kids alone in the afternoon after school because of both parents having to work - the prime time for getting into all kinds of trouble. The media contributes too - sex is everywhere which is a good reason to turn off the tv. Movies, music, MTV, internet access to pornography (and not your Dad's Playboy or even Hustler - it is worse than that) etc.

    Another thing I notice, especially since my kids think I'm a "mean mom" is that alot of parents are trying to be their kid's friend instead of parent.

    Something else that puzzles me is why, after having 30-odd years of feminism, are our daughters not valuing themselves more highly and allowing boys to take advantage of them.

    Granted, 11 and 12 year old girls are too young to grasp that and it is usually an older boy (or man) who is taking advantage here.

    It is a complicated issue but not enough sex ed in schools isn't the cause. Sex is everywhere but no one really talks about restraint.

    steph
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from stevielynn
    No, not a decrease in sex ed ... there is alot of sex ed in school. I've had two boys already go through high school and my daughter just finished her "health" class, which was sex ed.

    One of the trends is kids alone in the afternoon after school because of both parents having to work - the prime time for getting into all kinds of trouble. The media contributes too - sex is everywhere which is a good reason to turn off the tv. Movies, music, MTV, internet access to pornography (and not your Dad's Playboy or even Hustler - it is worse than that) etc.

    Another thing I notice, especially since my kids think I'm a "mean mom" is that alot of parents are trying to be their kid's friend instead of parent.

    Something else that puzzles me is why, after having 30-odd years of feminism, are our daughters not valuing themselves more highly and allowing boys to take advantage of them.

    Granted, 11 and 12 year old girls are too young to grasp that and it is usually an older boy (or man) who is taking advantage here.

    It is a complicated issue but not enough sex ed in schools isn't the cause. Sex is everywhere but no one really talks about restraint.

    steph
    I agree. Lack of parental involvement seems a huge issue. Also lack of the PROPER education. The emotional issues that go with establishing sexual relationships.....the gray areas......I have been getting into these w/my almost 13 year old a lot lately. We talk a lot about sex, feelings, emotions, and STDs. (now before he is 17 and wont' talk to me at all).

    and yes, Sex sells HUGE on TV and media. I discuss this aspect with my son, as well.......I tell him no matter who you have sex with, feeling for both parties DO matter and get complicated. And the consequences are LIFELONG often.......

    I wish MY parents had discussed all this with me. I started having sex at 15 in a very CLUELESS and CARELESS manner, never having thought about the emotional issues facing me down...just worried about "not getting caught" or pregnant. SO missing the boat was I......

    Folks, Biology is NOT enough. (they teach this well in school). There is so much more to sex and sexuality. We, as a society, are being remiss in educating our kids about ALL the aspects of human sexuality. They are getting this education "on the street" consequently, and that is not a good thing, IMHO...........Oh, and we need to "walk the talk" as well......TELLING these kids anything and not LIVING it, is not any good. They see thru us so easily.
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Feb 10, '05
  11. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    I agree. Lack of parental involvement seems a huge issue. Also lack of the PROPER education. The emotional issues that go with establishing sexual relationships.....the gray areas......I have been getting into these w/my almost 13 year old a lot lately. We talk a lot about sex, feelings, emotions, and STDs. (now before he is 17 and wont' talk to me at all).

    Folks, Biology is NOT enough. (they teach this well in school). There is so much more to sex and sexuality. We are as a society, being remiss in educating our kids about ALL the aspects of human sexuality. They are getting this education on 'the street" consequently, and that is not a good thing, IMHO...........Oh and we need to "walk the talk" as well......TELLING these kids anything and not LIVING it, is not any good. They see thru us so easily.
    There ya go . . . biology IS well-taught. It is teaching kids to respect each other and themselves. Teaching them that if they choose to have sex, they better be prepared that they may become parents and are they ready for that?

    steph
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I talk about this w/Brandon all the time. He heard a toddler screaming his lungs out at the store the other day and said "Why dont they SHUT HIM UP Mom?" I said, "annoying eh". He replied, "yes no kids for me til I am 30 and having nothing else to live for" (out the mouths of preteens eh). I said "ok remember that when you are 16 and a big sack of hormones" , to which he laughed. We DO keep the humor in it....but the serious undertone is there.....

    He knows (I hope) what having kids can be like in a way, having a baby sister...the work involved, I let him see and do some of it. I just hope he remembers at 16.

    I also have have shown him what STD's on males can look like, (GROSSED HIM OUT).......he was not happy. But I said, that is the side you don't see on MTV or Vh1. PAY ATTENTION, or this could be YOUR fate if you don't use your head.
  13. by   Spidey's mom
    Deb, I did the same thing with my sons. Showed them graphic photos of STD's I got from the public health dept.

    And I have done as you are doing .. . keep the conversation open and look for ways to talk about illegal drugs, alcohol and sex.

    Sometimes the best talks are on long drives in the car.

    steph

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