Can you believe this? 13yo and mom both pregnant - page 5

Had a patient come in last night who was contracting and is 13 yrs old and her mom is pregnant too! :uhoh21:... Read More

  1. by   seanymph
    Just to update those of you who asked. the FOB of the 13 yr old pt was not involved and it was not her stepdad, who by the way is a very nice man. The 13 yr old kept her baby. Hopefully, after the time she had with her pregnancy, PTL, seizures, MGSo4...she'll think twice before she gets pregnant again.
  2. by   finness
    i am sorry to hear about your situation. i think it is wonderful that you discussed all options with your daughter. sadly, there are many people who try to convince *children* that raising a baby in a young, single family household is the most responsible decision a young woman can make. in most cases, the people doing the convincing are no where to be found nine months later, when the young woman is trying to contend with the insensate realities of raising a child on minimal resources. in most cases, making the decision to retain custody of the child also means making the decision to plunge the baby into poverty, not to mention opening the child up to all of the complications that result in not having a solid foundation. treating children as though they are accessories is merely a means by which to steal their opportunities. of course, there are wonderful, young parents who have made healthy, happy homes for their children. it seems that more frequently, however, the parent/s benefit more from the relationship then the children. adoption is indeed a noble thing to do.
  3. by   hipab4hands
    Quote from cabbage patch rn
    Hi I'm new. Just wanted to say that this is soooo commmon where I work, actually in our area (rural south). It is so very sad, makes me very nervous for what the future holds for my own children. Do you think it's more of a demographic problem, or a socio-economic one? Just curious to know what your thoughts are.
    It's really sad. It's a vicious circle that is unlikely to be broken. The 13 year old is in no economic position to support that child, which means a lifetime of welfare. Unless that 13 year old can manage to break the cycle, her children will be back having babies at a young age also.
  4. by   grandma rn38
    i had a pt that was 71, and her daughter was 60.
  5. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Quote from grandma rn38
    i had a pt that was 71, and her daughter was 60.
    Things like this scare me, because i was 8 years old when i got my period, and i know i'm far from being the only one who did.
  6. by   rndani
    This isn't really common where I work. However, I did take care of a pg 13yo and then again when she came back @14.5 w/her second. I also took care of a 13yo who delivered at home @29wks and let the baby die. That was one of the most difficult days ever.
  7. by   fotografe
    Quote from nekhismom
    I had a few 13 and 14 y/o pts. during my short trial in L&D. I was always shocked that the girls were so young. But even MORE shocked that the moms were HAPPY about their teenage girls being pregnant!!! They welcomed the new grandkid happily, with open arms! :eek I will NEVER get over that.
    Well, why wouldn't you welcome a new grandchild happily and with open arms? The baby doesn't know his mother is too young to be a mother. But that baby would pick up on the fact eventually that there is something "wrong" with them being on the earth if people are treating them as such!!! Also, the parent of this young mother has had several months to get used to the idea that a baby is coming no matter what. Accepting and celebrating that birth like any other is appropriate. I would hate to think what would become of that mother and baby if they were shunned!
  8. by   jad2
    I went to school with girls who by the time they were 13, were sexually active & had a child. By the time I graduated highschool, we had a daycare in the school.

    Some of these girls were exposed to sexuality at an early age. They were either raped/sexually abused. Some of them say that they felt unloved by their parents, and just wanted someone to love them.

    I have daughters now, and I agree that the best prevention a parent has is open communication with their children. Sometimes it is the parents fault their kid got pregnant [or got someone pregnant], but sometimes it is not.

    At some point personal responsibilty has to come into play.

    I've known parents who were "model" parents, by this I mean, 2 parents in the home, went to church/temple, etc... and had a son or daughter who had a kid at an early age.

    No one is immune. I know that it can happen to any of my daughters. So, I choose not to judge, because life has a funny way of kickin' you off your high horse!
  9. by   jad2
    Quote from jad2
    I've known parents who were "model" parents, by this I mean, 2 parents in the home, went to church/temple, etc... and had a son or daughter who had a kid at an early age.
    !

    "MODEL" PARENT(s): Can be a single mom or dad, grandma or grandpa, gay or straight.

    Just wanted to clear this up before anyone jumped down my throat.
  10. by   BETSRN
    13 year old's mother is probably 26! I must be getting too old for this job! LOL! I am only 54!
  11. by   BETSRN
    Barbara Walters just interviewed that Letourneau woman the other night. She comes across as so quiet and wonderful. I am glad she had to register as a sex offender!
  12. by   LadyMadonna
    Quote from cabbage patch rn
    Hi I'm new. Just wanted to say that this is soooo commmon where I work, actually in our area (rural south). It is so very sad, makes me very nervous for what the future holds for my own children. Do you think it's more of a demographic problem, or a socio-economic one? Just curious to know what your thoughts are.
    What is worse (and it doesn't just happen in the rural south) is when a young woman comes in and you find out the father is also the grandfather, or the brother is also the father...that makes it REAL hard to stomach.
  13. by   SmilingBluEyes
    You see it all, if you are in OB long enough. People can sink so low.......But there are wonderful stories to tell, too.

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