Can you believe this? 13yo and mom both pregnant - page 4

Had a patient come in last night who was contracting and is 13 yrs old and her mom is pregnant too! :uhoh21:... Read More

  1. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from Rhoresmith
    I am a young Grandmother I will be 44 this Saturday and my grandson Nathan will be 3 in October, My daugter graduated in May and had him in October. I was not real happy but we love our Nathan so much. My daughter is a wonderful mother and Nathan is her life but every now and then I think she misses some of the freedom that she could have being 21 (going out etc) and does not get to have. I am proud of her with so many young single mothers that dump there kid on anyone who will take them and go out she hardly ever leaves him to go anywhere but work. She tried to go to my sisters for a weekend and after one night away from him came home missed him to much. We can not control all aspects of our childrens lives, my husband and I are very good parents always very involved in what they do/did, sent them to private Lutheran school and this still happened. She said she will never say she made a mistake because Nathan could never be a mistake because he is so wonderful. SO NEVER THINK IT CAN'T HAPPEN TO YOU BECAUSE IT HAPPENS IN ALL TYPES OF HOUSEHOLDS SO BEFORE YOU JUDGE STOP AND TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR CHILDREN BECAUSE IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU
    Not judging you here----yours is a far cry from the situation w/the 26 year old grandmother, dont you think? Your situation, while it may or may not be ideal is hardly comparable, I am thinking. I am happy you love your children and grandchild so much. Too bad, everyone does not have what your family does.
  2. by   stevierae
    Quote from seanymph
    My original labor pt. (13 yr old) came back last night and delivered. Mom is 27yrs old and delivering in next couple of months and grandma is 42yrs. Pt. last night ended up seizuring and had to be put on Mag. Sulfate. and given 10mg Valium. Long night.
    Did she keep the baby?
  3. by   RNBSN1
    Quote from gettingmymsn
    A little off the subject, but i had a 15 year old pt who delivered, and I noticed she had a big splay of roses with a card that said"Love, daddy". Naively, I said,
    "Is this from your daddy, or your baby's daddy?" She replied "Both!" Talk about feeling your stomach come up to your mouth...it was her step-father, but STILL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Gross!!!! Were the police notified?
  4. by   Chevelle
    Call me a *****, but when the 13 y/o has a baby, I don't feel sorry for most of them (thoug I have empathy for those who are in that situation for other reasons), I feel sorry for the baby.
  5. by   BHolliRNMS
    Not uncommon in south ms.....more common in poor communities. Sad, I agree. Hope the babies don't have the same dad. Many moms under the age of 30 with 3 plus kids in this area. Seems like the more kids they have, the more money they collect and the less they work. It's a viscious cycle.
    Read in the paper Sunday of a 20 yr old female with a 1 year old son, who just gave birth to twins.
  6. by   Drysolong
    Quote from gettingmymsn
    a little off the subject, but i had a 15 year old pt who delivered, and i noticed she had a big splay of roses with a card that said"love, daddy". naively, i said,
    "is this from your daddy, or your baby's daddy?" she replied "both!" talk about feeling your stomach come up to your mouth...it was her step-father, but still !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    i have been reading this thread for a few minutes - i've seen young mothers and grandmothers for the last thirty years; so i am not as "shocked" as some of you seem to be. also, i don't agree with pre-marital or extra-marital sex (my own personal & religious view that i do not push on anyone else) so any pregnancies out of wedlock are disturbing to me. the young ages more seriously compound my disturbance.

    however, this particular instance that you mention of a 15-year-old being impregnated by her step-father and receiving flowers from him is shocking to me. i just had to stop and respond. is this not against the law, or something?
  7. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Why the heck is the stepfather in the above situation able to have the FREEDOM to even SEND flowers to this girl?


    It's situations such as that where i'm a firm believer in castration without anesthetic. It's possible that the sex might not have been forced, but of all people, he should KNOW better and act accordingly.
  8. by   bigfishsmallpond
    Quote from LPN2Be2004
    Why the heck is the stepfather in the above situation able to have the FREEDOM to even SEND flowers to this girl?


    It's situations such as that where i'm a firm believer in castration without anesthetic. It's possible that the sex might not have been forced, but of all people, he should KNOW better and act accordingly.
    ugly, but true. I think it is incest, but if there is no blood relationship, I gyess it can't be prosecuted.Remeber Woody Allen and his adopted daughter wife?

    I saw on the news that Mary Letourneau is getting out of prison(remember, she had a sexual relationship with a 6 th grader, and had 2 kids by him?) He is now 21 and hopes to continue their relationship........
  9. by   Euskadi1946
    Quote from gettingmymsn
    A little off the subject, but i had a 15 year old pt who delivered, and I noticed she had a big splay of roses with a card that said"Love, daddy". Naively, I said,
    "Is this from your daddy, or your baby's daddy?" She replied "Both!" Talk about feeling your stomach come up to your mouth...it was her step-father, but STILL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    OH MY GOD!!!!!
  10. by   CHATSDALE
    15 year old having sex with older man is child abuse whether consenual or not..authorities should have been notified
  11. by   Angela Mac
    Quote from seanymph
    My original labor pt. (13 yr old) came back last night and delivered. Mom is 27yrs old and delivering in next couple of months and grandma is 42yrs. Pt. last night ended up seizuring and had to be put on Mag. Sulfate. and given 10mg Valium. Long night.
    Please--- did the same man father the teen's child & her mothers'?
    Where is this man who fathered a 13 yr. olds child? In prison I hope.:angryfire
  12. by   Euskadi1946
    Quote from cabbage patch rn
    Hi I'm new. Just wanted to say that this is soooo commmon where I work, actually in our area (rural south). It is so very sad, makes me very nervous for what the future holds for my own children. Do you think it's more of a demographic problem, or a socio-economic one? Just curious to know what your thoughts are.
    While I'm not exactly at the bottom rung of the socio economic ladder I do have a daughter who got pregnant at 15 had her baby at 16...and is pregnant at 17.5 with her second baby. I wasn't at all pleased when she told me the first time that she was pregnant. As an OB nurse I have dealt first hand with teen pregnancies and I was very upset to say the least. At first we had decided to terminate the pregnancy, then she told me she just could not kill her baby. So then I suggested adoption, I knew a couple who would be more than happy to adopt the baby. But she is adopted and is thankful that we gave her a wonderful homelife. She opted to keep the baby and that little guy has brought so much love to our home. The baby's dad is very much involved. The baby is the love of our lives and has alot of affection on both sides of the families. I put her on dep shots and when I lost my job and my insurance we had to stop them. For awhile she was behaving herself or maybe it was just pure luck. Several months ago she and her friends went to a PP Clinic and got free BCP samples. I taught her how to take them and told her to immediately start on them after she has her next period. Would ask her every now and then if she was taking those pills. Guess she wasn't so now she's pregnant again. I was p/od big time this time!!!! :angryfire Again I told her I would support her decision in whatever she decides to do...different father this time and he's even better than the first one as far as being supportive. Now before anyone starts to make any judgements...you can tell your kids till your blue in the face to NOT HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX!!!! If they're smart which my kid obviously was not, they will listen. Again she has chosen to have the baby and she will be 18 when she has the baby. I come from a large family where babies were always welcome and this baby will be welcomed as well. However, this does not mean that I approve of what my daughter has done...but we have to make the best out of a bad situation. According to the laws, we cannot force them to terminate the pregnancy nor can we force them to put the babies up for adoption. So we do the best we can and support them as much as possible. We have always had a good relationship and I taught my daughter all about sex and the consequences that can come from unprotected sex.. "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make the horse drink."
  13. by   bigfishsmallpond
    Quote from CeCiRN
    While I'm not exactly at the bottom rung of the socio economic ladder I do have a daughter who got pregnant at 15 had her baby at 16...and is pregnant at 17.5 with her second baby. I wasn't at all pleased when she told me the first time that she was pregnant. As an OB nurse I have dealt first hand with teen pregnancies and I was very upset to say the least. At first we had decided to terminate the pregnancy, then she told me she just could not kill her baby. So then I suggested adoption, I knew a couple who would be more than happy to adopt the baby. But she is adopted and is thankful that we gave her a wonderful homelife. She opted to keep the baby and that little guy has brought so much love to our home. The baby's dad is very much involved. The baby is the love of our lives and has alot of affection on both sides of the families. I put her on dep shots and when I lost my job and my insurance we had to stop them. For awhile she was behaving herself or maybe it was just pure luck. Several months ago she and her friends went to a PP Clinic and got free BCP samples. I taught her how to take them and told her to immediately start on them after she has her next period. Would ask her every now and then if she was taking those pills. Guess she wasn't so now she's pregnant again. I was p/od big time this time!!!! :angryfire Again I told her I would support her decision in whatever she decides to do...different father this time and he's even better than the first one as far as being supportive. Now before anyone starts to make any judgements...you can tell your kids till your blue in the face to NOT HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX!!!! If they're smart which my kid obviously was not, they will listen. Again she has chosen to have the baby and she will be 18 when she has the baby. I come from a large family where babies were always welcome and this baby will be welcomed as well. However, this does not mean that I approve of what my daughter has done...but we have to make the best out of a bad situation. According to the laws, we cannot force them to terminate the pregnancy nor can we force them to put the babies up for adoption. So we do the best we can and support them as much as possible. We have always had a good relationship and I taught my daughter all about sex and the consequences that can come from unprotected sex.. "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make the horse drink."
    I commend you for being so supportive and not blaming yourself for your daughter's decisions.I cannot imagine a 18 y/o that will be tied down to two babies, but if she is strong and loving, she can do it. I am sad that she will miss out on so much of her childhood, since she has to be an adult, but, those decisions result in consequenses. at least she is responsible and taking care of things...also, how supportive are the 2 teenage dads? are they working and sending money to support the kids?Somehow they get off much easier....And how are you?This is a tremendous financial, emotional and physical demand for you, too!

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