Family's responsiblity of taking care of older parents? - page 2

just wondering, is a responsiblity or obligation? what is their responsiblity?... Read More

  1. by   micstn
    I agree with you that some people did not have happy childhood, but extreme bad parents are few, I do not think that is many cases. parents do have stress. I really feel that kids are spoiled here.
  2. by   micstn
    But when they need attention on heir daily life you can not leave them alone
  3. by   Marshall1
    It depends on the relationship...I think it would be unreasonable to expect a son or daughter to take care of a parent that was abusive to them, molested them etc. There are also financial issues to consider and how much care a person would need. Even the most well intentioned family would not be able to care for someone who was bedbound or had advanced dementia and work full time, have kids etc. It wouldn't be physically, emotionally or financially (for most) possible. That being said, there are resources, though limited or none existent depending on where someone lives, that can help a family try to care for a family member at home. Religious beliefs play a part but the reality of day to day living and trying to make it in these economic times would probably influence a decision more.
  4. by   traumaRUs
    Moving to nursing student assistance forum.
  5. by   WannaBNursey
    Since you're doing this for an ethical paper, OP, take a look at different cultural takes on the issue. We were just talking about this in class yesterday. None of us CNA's have ever seen someone of Asian descent in a nursing home or hospice. It may be that it's totally unacceptable to pass off loved ones to facilities while in our White American culture it seems to be much more acceptable and little shame may come with it.

    Also, look at Mother Theresa's comments on nursing homes. Sure she may not be an authority on nursing, but there's an interesting perspective there.
  6. by   micstn
    Great points. I doubt about defination of abuse here, is slapping a child abusive? Or occasionally physical punishment for good reason is abusive?
  7. by   classicdame
    remember, from an ethical standpoint, it is the perspective of the PATIENT that counts. So if the patient expects to cared for by adult children then you need to consider culture and religion and practical things like where the children live, do they work, etc. I don't want to live in a NH but one child lives 6000 miles away and the other a mere 1000 miles. So my options may be limited.
  8. by   itsmejuli
    Hmmm...just thinking about what type o f paper you're hoping to write on this subject. You're going to need to include citations from articles you've read.

    Maybe you could do a compare/contrast paper on how two or three different cultures care for their elderly.
  9. by   zoe92
    Totally agree with looking at cultural influences on caregiving for parents.... My grandmother has lived with us since she was 65 (now 89) and there has never been talk of putting her in a nursing home facility even when she had two strokes and pneumonia. But, my mother is from India and parents always live with their children when they become older. A majority of my Hispanic or Asian friends also have grandparents living with them.
  10. by   micstn
    Talk about culture, I have to tell you that my coworker, she is a nurse & American, she won't let her mom go to the nursing home neither
  11. by   LCinTraining
    Quote from micstn
    I agree with you that some people did not have happy childhood, but extreme bad parents are few, I do not think that is many cases. parents do have stress. I really feel that kids are spoiled here.
    this is not your place to say though. And it is a generalization to say extreme bad parents are few. You, as the care provider do not know the family dynamic. That little old lady who cries about how alone she is, may not have her daughter there because she wrote her out of her life, for whatever reason. We simply don't know. Our responsibility is to our patients. We are not in the position to determine who should and should not be there. We are in the position to be there ourselves and nothing more.
  12. by   micstn
    I know for most peoples' favor, I should put culture in it, but I start wondering why culture always be an excuse for healthcare phenomina, how about economics?
  13. by   LCinTraining
    Culture is not an excuse. I feel, and correct me if I am wrong, that you are placing your definition of a functioning family unit onto all families, which simply can't be done.I'm American. I'd not consider living with my children when they got older. Would I care for dying family members? Yes, but I have done it and know how horrifically hard it is. It's draining, physically, emotionally and financially. Never, in a million years would I want my children dosing my Hospice morphine. Or having to worry if I'm safe while they work. I've raised my children with no familial help. I do not expect them to raise me. Because I know how difficult it is. Let the nurses deal with the difficult aspects of my health care. Let my children live their lives. So even if I become old and confused and wonder why they aren't there, I will leave this earth and my children will be blessed to not have to deal with the burden of my health.