3 dui's in mi

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The new law in michigan for 3 dui's, over the entire life of u r drivers license, is MANDATORY 5 yrs loss of license. My girlfriend is going through this and had to take an apt. near the hospital so she could walk to work. Lives too far for her SO to drive her everyday. Stays all week near the hospital and goes home on the weekends.

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I dont mind a drink. In fact I have even enjoyed them. But I never drive. I will have a friend drive, or calla taxi. Or even and I really enjoy this, Is to call a Limo. I love Limos and their service and the way they take care of you.

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the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy to the responses in this message are astounding. how many of you can honestly say that, at NO TIME in your life, you havent had more than 2 drinks and driven, even once? Driving intoxicated is not acceptable, nor should it be, but people make mistakes. i can only hope this girl gets help and can move on.

in response to the post of "how bout 1DUI=5 yr loss of license". are you serious? hopefully you never find yourself on the wrong side of the law. we'll see if you like an extreme punishment for a first offense. until you walk in someone else's skin, dont judge.

I have never drank and got behind the wheel. As a matter of fact, I have never drank any alcoholic beverage. Ever. And I have no intention of doing so.

For the record, I am 24.

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the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy to the responses in this message are astounding. how many of you can honestly say that, at NO TIME in your life, you havent had more than 2 drinks and driven, even once? Driving intoxicated is not acceptable, nor should it be, but people make mistakes. i can only hope this girl gets help and can move on.

Put me in the never had a drink and got behind the wheel of a car club. Not even one, ever. I know that if I ever did anything to hurt anyone I just could not live with myself. Drinking and driving isn't a "mistake." It is stupid and selfish.

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the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy to the responses in this message are astounding. how many of you can honestly say that, at NO TIME in your life, you havent had more than 2 drinks and driven, even once? Driving intoxicated is not acceptable, nor should it be, but people make mistakes. i can only hope this girl gets help and can move on.

in response to the post of "how bout 1DUI=5 yr loss of license". are you serious? hopefully you never find yourself on the wrong side of the law. we'll see if you like an extreme punishment for a first offense. until you walk in someone else's skin, dont judge.

Hopefully you're not serious with this post. Let's not judge someone who has zero regard for the laws and just does what she wants. Sure, people make mistakes. This is not a mistake, it's an ongoing PROBLEM. The important mistakes you only make ONCE. Those are the kind that are likely to kill or seriously injure you or someone else. She's done it AT LEAST 3 times - she's only been caught three times.

As for the whole "wrong side of the law" argument, of course none of us "hope" never to be there - that's why we act responsibly and don't do incredibly stupid, dangerous things like drinking and driving.

There's another forum I frequent, and it showcases just how easily it is to die doing something like the OPs friend did. Morbid? Perhaps. But it reinforces to all of us that the choices we make can have dire consequences for us as well as others.

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The new law in michigan for 3 dui's, over the entire life of u r drivers license, is MANDATORY 5 yrs loss of license. My girlfriend is going through this and had to take an apt. near the hospital so she could walk to work. Lives too far for her SO to drive her everyday. Stays all week near the hospital and goes home on the weekends.

And your point is what exactly? Do you want sympathy from us? Because your not going to get it on this thread. A lot of us have probably seen victims from drunken drivers. She's been busted 3 times, how many other times has she driven drunk? She sounds way too stupid to be nurse.

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Anyone could possibly get one DUI it happens. Three is a indication this person is in fact alcoholic and desperately needs help. A psychiatrist I once worked with use to say that all the time. The average person if they ever had too much to drink and actually got a DUI would be so embarrased by it, not to mention so ****** at themselves for the added expense of paying high risk insurance . That person would never get behind a wheel again after having a drink. The alcoholic however would blame the cops for watching for them specifically and ticketing them. They don't learn as the alcohol has control of them.

I have not and do not drink more than one drink if I have to drive. If I don't have to drive 2 drinks it still my limit.

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I, myself, have one DWI and will not ever get behind the wheel after a drink... My first husband died at age 30 and I was 29... Not an excuse, but I was in a bad bad place and should have never driven after drinking... Jail was not fun... I make it be known to every employer that I have this on my record and it is plain embarassing at this point... I am now 34, remarried and refuse to drive after a drink... I learned my lesson and it seems like your friend has not... Wake up call is needed for her...

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Tough lessons learned.

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Don't know why this thread was started. If its looking for sympathy, you've come to the wrong place. If its for advice, good choice! And I congratulate you if your looking for how to deal with this.

Your friend needs to first be honest with herself and you need to not enable her but also consider if she is abusing alcohol. She has fortunately survived her driving drunk and so have others who unknowingly shared the road with her but for how long? At least 5 years by Michigan laws and good thing at that.

I have a question, if your g-friend had a chest xray that showed something abnormal, do you think she would ignore it? Maybe, but, i suspect she would have less denial about that than she does with her drinking. Denial is a common unconscious defensive coping mechanism employed by most drug/alcohol abusers and addicts. It can be tough to deal with.

Question, has your friend been increasing the amount of alcohol she drinks to get the same affect? Does she find regular reasons for getting high? (positive or negative, like loosing her license, good reason from the perspective of an alcoholic to go get drunk). Does she feel sick if she doesn't drink (morning shakes, anxiety, and if she drinks does she feel better, Does she need alcohol to be sociable?) These are few things to look at.

Do a little online research about alcoholism, the signs and symptoms and what to do if one suspects a drug or alcohol problem. The greatest help you can offer is honesty and guidance to get treatment if she needs for excessive drinking.

Last question, did losing her drivers license lead her to stop drinking and has it gotten worse since?

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I don't think that people should get an immediate driving ban or loss of licensure after 1 dui and I'll tell you why.

Back when I lived in England we had a party round someones house who lived out in the middle of nowhere. One of the people at the party there had four glasses of red wine, went to bed at midnight staying over at the party and thought he'd be safe driving home at 9:30am. Wrong - he got a DUI as he was still just above the limit. He was really trying to be responsible but I guess the body doesn't metabolize alcohol as quickly as we think it does. However, make the mistake again and I don't think you've learnt anything.

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Just a little clarification...

2+2=5 - mistake

Adding a cup of salt instead of sugar to your cookie recipe - mistake

Mixing up the words their, there, and they're - mistake

Making the decision at some level to consume alcohol and get behind the wheel - NOT a mistake. Impaired or not, there is some form of decision making going on where the individual justifies getting BTW intoxicated. Putting other people at risk like that is just plain unforgivable.

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I don't think that people should get an immediate driving ban or loss of licensure after 1 dui and I'll tell you why.

Back when I lived in England we had a party round someones house who lived out in the middle of nowhere. One of the people at the party there had four glasses of red wine, went to bed at midnight staying over at the party and thought he'd be safe driving home at 9:30am. Wrong - he got a DUI as he was still just above the limit. He was really trying to be responsible but I guess the body doesn't metabolize alcohol as quickly as we think it does. However, make the mistake again and I don't think you've learnt anything.

4 glasses of wine WON'T put you that far over the limit unless you are a really small person. Even if that is wrong, the only way you are getting pulled over 9:30 hours later is if you were driving erratically. IF they were still erratic 9:30 hours later they most likely didn't JUST drink 4 glasses of wine.

Either way, your friend knew he was impaired and made the choice to drive anyways. Poor choices reflect lack of responsibility or maturity. Either way, tough punishment is still called for.

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