For Whom The Bell Tolls - page 3

As my favorite author, Erma Bombeck, once said: "There is no way that your foot will ever get well as long as there is a horse standing on it." In my case, that means I won't get well until there... Read More

  1. by   tyvin
    Isn't that the shoot...not once did they say you were worth it and did a good job. Sounds like every manager in every place I've worked except for one. If I were you I would get an ADN lawyer and keep the job you like. Seriously, they must accommodate you. If you like it there who cares what they say. Staff doesn't trust you; hey! staff doesn't like to be told what to do...get me!

    I say hold on in there and fight Do you think they are going to not let you finish survey just to let you go to another one of their places? Think again...

    ADA, lawyer, stay.
  2. by   VivaLasViejas
    I don't have that sort of fight left in me fact, I think they've found a way to let me go. I was going to go in at my normal time tomorrow, but my boss texted me this evening to come in at 0900 since there is "lots to discuss". Now THERE'S a reassuring thought. I asked him flat out if I'm being fired; he came up with something along the line of "I'm fried, and there's too much to talk about in a text message". He did not, however, say "No, you're not being let go"...and that pretty much told me everything I needed to know.

    TBH, I'm half-relieved. I need out SO badly---I realize that now after that disastrous attempt on Monday to go on with life as usual---but I'm curious as to how they're going to do it. Maybe they'll offer me that other job. Maybe they'll "encourage" me to put in my notice and then tell me I don't have to finish out the 30 days. Maybe they'll just tell me that they're not going to fight me when I file for unemployment benefits. I don't know.

    Thing is, they can't fire me for diverting narcotics, violating a company policy, or other misconduct---I've done absolutely NOTHING wrong---and they sure as shootin' can't fire me for being bipolar and having anxiety attacks. The truth remains that I can no longer do the job, and I don't expect them to keep me on when I can't perform the necessary work. But I have this feeling they've figured out how to get rid of me without risking a lawsuit.....their HR folks are awfully smart in that department and I can just see how they'd play this.

    Will keep y'all posted.
  3. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from VivaLasViejas

    Will keep y'all posted.
  4. by   VivaLasViejas
    Well, that horse I talked about has gotten off my foot........the end came at 0900 this morning.

    I think it was harder on my boss than it was on me. I've done my anticipatory grieving. He, on the other hand, was obviously upset and his voice broke more than once during our 20-minute discussion. He also gave me the biggest hug EVER and begged me to take care of myself......I know he's been worried about me for a long time, on a personal basis as well as professionally, and I think now that I'm free of this unceasing stress, I may even be able to get completely well. Wouldn't THAT be great!

    They're not going to fight me on unemployment. My record with this company is clean as a whistle, and I was not fired for doing anything wrong. I was fired because they can't meet the accommodations my doctor and I requested, and I can't do the job without them......that's how they were able to get rid of me without running afoul of the ADA.

    Ah, well, what's done is done, and it's a relief in a major sense. So many things I don't have to worry about anymore.....the residents we can't keep off the floor, the one who won't give up her Vicodin even though she overdoses on it regularly, the memory-care-eligible residents who sundown every afternoon and are brawling in the lobby by dinnertime. The endless falls and incident reports. The paperwork. All's somebody else's problem now.

    And my time to heal.
  5. by   txredheadnurse
    {{{{HUGS!!!}}}} Marla
  6. by   Ginger's Mom

    sounds like the best possible outcome, take care of yourself.
  7. by   mc3

    What CP said...(so eloquent!) AND they are not worthy of you, not in the least. Here's a (((hug))) for you, you deserve better. Please, no more apologies, OK??

  8. by   CapeCodMermaid
    I have enjoyed reading your posts....I have a feeling you will be fine. All good thoughts being sent in your direction.
  9. by   VivaLasViejas
    Thanks to all y'all.

    My emotions have been all over the map today. (Yeah, I'm bipolar, but my moods don't cycle that fast! LOL) I've cried a little, laughed a little, cussed a LOT, and taken out my frustrations on the weeds in my front yard. I have to believe that everything will be OK in the long's what might happen between now and then that worries me.

    Dear God, the problems......will we lose the house? We owe back taxes---how can we take care of that now? And what on earth are we going to do without health insurance? Already I've cancelled an endocrinology consult and a PCP appointment for next month; my husband's supposed to have a colonoscopy then as well, and we've had to postpone that too. I have two more psychiatrist appointments before the insurance goes away; after that all I'll be able to afford are the three cheap meds---forget the $165/month pill that pulls all the other ones together.

    And this is how lives begin to unravel.

    I hate uncertainty with every fiber of my being. If I could look into the future and see that it really will be all right, I could live with some unpleasantness: even if it doesn't turn out that way, at least I could be prepared. But right now the only thing I'm sure of is that I've just lost a pretty big part of my life to this illness, and I am FURIOUS!!!
  10. by   maureencarpenter
    don't ever lose hope. You know what they say, if a door closes, a window somewhere is open. So just hold on there and perhaps there are better things on your way. Have
  11. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from VivaLasViejas

    I hate uncertainty with every fiber of my being. If I could look into the future and see that it really will be all right, I could live with some unpleasantness: even if it doesn't turn out that way, at least I could be prepared. But right now the only thing I'm sure of is that I've just lost a pretty big part of my life to this illness, and I am FURIOUS!!!
    funny before I read this was hearing the song "Trust and Obey," (prompted by a pic of the tomb that says "A lot can happen in 3 days!" (for those who object, Marla is of like faith) - and it's true - so get on those knees (or like fashion if your knees hurt) - and you know you have a lot of people praying for you!! love you! a lot can happen in 3 days!

    smooch (and yes I was freaking too when I was there - and you won't necessarily end up where I am - I suspect you won't!)

  12. by   brandy1017
    In my understanding you have till the end of the month before your health insurance will be cancelled, so try to schedule all your appointments this month, let them know time is of the essence. Is it possible for you to afford the COBRA insurance option if so that buys you up to 18 months of insurance. I'm relieved that at least you will not have to fight for unemployment and have some money coming in. Take some time off to de-stress and than begin the job search again or consider filing for disability. The people I know who have been fired were able to get work either by temp agencies or a home health agency. Enjoy the stress free time with your family and spring with all its flowers! Consider all your options financially including bankruptcy. I pray you find an even better job and that this brings a new beginning for you and your family!
  13. by   mc3
    As my Mom would say, take one day (or hour or minute) at a time..make all your MD appointments this month. Most of all, be good to yourself. This too shall pass (another Mom saying!)