Disabled & Hating it
- 4Feb 9 by cJoeyRN(Sorry this is so long-but-it's complicated)
It really is true-You don't know what you have, until it's gone. I was an RN (OR) for over 20yrs. Have been disabled for 14yrs. due to multiple degenerative diseases-(of course) the major one-spinal diseases. I hurt my neck the first time, when I was still in Nursing School-an excellent diploma school. I WANT to work. The first few years of my disability-I scoured the ads for something I could do. I simply couldn't figure out what I would do the rest of my life! Sit around & wait to die?!
Fortunately the first 5-6 years, I had two very special people in my life, who were in need of a little help. I was still capable of giving them the company they needed, run errands for them-I felt useful. They've both been gone for several years-leaving me to struggle alone. Wasn't good at making friends-my family were my friends. But, they're busy with their families now. As my conditions deteriorate I need help (SSDI doesn't go far enough-especially when you "make too much money."), because I fall through the cracks. I simply don't know what to do, or where to turn anymore. You NEVER think this will happen to you. I didn't plan for anything like this-or, for that matter, for the long term-very well at all.
I've been trying to do online surveys to make enough money for all my bills-but they don't pay the way they did back in 1999, when I got my first computer. My Psychiatric NP said she found some sites that pay $25 and up, for their surveys. But, I've yet to find anything like that. I really don't know what else to do. I feel so very lost...and alone.
Thanks for giving me a place to tell my story. If this helps even ONE person to: stop, think, and prepare from the very first days you begin your career-for the worst possible scenario-I will feel I have STILL been of some use.
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- 9Feb 9 by SoldierNurse22Reading your story is a strangely familiar tale. I know many, many people like you. They have been, either by injury or illness, limited in their physical capabilities much earlier than they could have ever imagined. I can only thank you for telling us your story and encourage you to keep looking for ways to remain engaged. The one thing I've learned in my few years of practice is that no one is useless unless they want to be. You sound like you're depressed, but you haven't given up. Keep pushing back. Keep looking for ways to contribute. We here at AN, myself included, will happily support you.
I think part of the reason your tale resonates is because as I look to separate from the service, I will likely be filing for disability. I am very, very young, and I have a chronic condition that is painful and could eventually limit my ability to work. It seems unreal as I even type it--it was unreal for a very long time until the pain became limiting in my soldiering duties and my husband began to push me to get it checked. A few other folks--disabled vets, to be specific--also came along and encouraged me to take care of it before it got out of hand.
It's scary, that future thing--not knowing what it holds and how it could change you. But I have been gleaning what I can from folks like you, trying to take care of myself, and hoping that even if the unthinkable happens and I find myself one of those disabled vets, I can still find a way to contribute to society.
Thanks for telling your story and welcome to AllNurses! So very happy to have you.
- 5Feb 10 by Esme12 Asst. Adminpreaching to the choir. I have been disable and unable to work now for about 5 years. There is NO amount or preparation, unless you win the lottery, that eases the blow. It is even more difficult when your life long profession tosses you aside like dirty trash.
Welcome to the group!
- 3Feb 10 by LadyFree28Welcome!!!
As far as SSDI, I would try for it...it is NOT based on income-that's SSI.
I have been on SSDI for six years due to a major medical near-death experience; while the physical scars are beautiful, the internal scars remain. I've struggled to maintain a stable job; my saving grace was being an independent contractor, so I can be able to continue to work and collect benefits and keep my head above water. I put one foot in front of the other.
Also try vocational rehab as well, if you haven't found an avenue.
- 2Feb 11 by canigraduateMy mother struggled with disability in the last few years of her life and I know it is a hard, hard way to live. Make sure you use your circle of resources to the best of your ability. If you can get out of the house and volunteer doing things that you are capable of, try to do that to build connections. You never know who you have helped who may be able to help you.
One of the best things that my Mom did was play to the strengths she had left. She was able to do crafty things to keep herself occupied and make a little side money. Doing these things, she could keep her bills up to date and even give gifts to those she loved and help some who were even less fortunate.
The biggest thing is not giving up and realizing that you are still a valuable, valuable person!! My mom didn't let her disabilities define her. She didn't say, "Hi, I'm Debbie, and I can't work anymore." She said "Hi, I'm Debbie. Let me show you my grandkids and the fun we had yesterday!"
I hope that you are able to find joy in your life. Keep looking for opportunities to do what you can and network with everyone you come across so you can have help when you need it.
I wish you the best of luck!!!!
- 1Feb 11 by PoopsiebublnoseComing thru loud and clear. I have been disabled fourteen years, and I miss working and helping others, I miss my car and being able to drive, being able to go for a walk, and so many other things I used to take for granted. But I decided to go to plan B and accept my disability and my limitations, thankfully with home care I still am able to function and live on my own. I am so grateful for this computer, my eyesight, and hearing, my sense of taste etc.
- 1Feb 11 by HeathermaizeyI have been disabled for several years now. It is very difficult to get used to. I had a hard time adjusting from being very independent to relying on someone. Fortunately my health has improved over the last couple of years and am hoping to get off disability soon. But something that I did do when I was younger was save my money. I still manage to have fun and do fun things but I save a lot of my money. A very important thing to do.