I met my new preceptor today and she didn't make the slightest effort to hide her contempt for me. As soon as she strolled in to take report (late) she rolled her eyes at me and refused to acknowledge my presence. No lie. One or two of the other nurses gave me looks of pity and the rest just snickered/giggled and made rude comments. After three jobs in nursing I've developed very thick skin. I know that I'm at work to work and not to make friends but is having manners and showing your fellow human even a tiny bit of compassion a crime? No matter how long you've been a nurse the first day on a new unit/job is always tough. I wasn't expecting her to embrace me and offer to take me out to lunch but a returned good morning or even a why don't you listen in on report and then we will talk later or something along those lines been too much? All day she was tight lipped and very short with me but was friendly with most of the other staff. I say most because there were a few that she didn't like and she didn't try to hide it but I can't imagine what I did other than show up today. I can't wait till orientation is over...the next couple of weeks are going to stink.
Jun 21, '11
I have been on both sides of this question. I was treated rudely or worse ignored as a new employee, in two different jobs and it still hurts when I remember it. I have also had the honor of being a preceptor several, times in my career. I would talk to the preceptor privately and see how she responds. Maybe, there is an issue going on that you are not aware of, sometimes it is just a personality issue and you may need to change preceptors, if the situation does not improve. As nurses, we are not always supportive of each other. We forget, all too soon, how it feels to be the new person in the unit and how difficult it can be. Once you are there for a while and get to know some of the staff, I hope things will improve for you. This should be a reminder, to all of those reading this, how we should make an extra effort to welcome new staff members and be eager to offer help when needed. Hang in there!
Last edit by ICUnurse1985 on Jun 21, '11
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