- 2Sep 28, '12 by FlamingonurseI had a male nurse co-worker who was actively engaging in "sexting" during the shift and showed me a very provocative partially nude female on his cell phone. As the charge nurse on duty I was required to right him up causing him to be placed on 2 week suspension. Fellow collegues, do you think this employee should be able to keep his job?
- 8Sep 29, '12 by RNewbieI think he should be able to keep his job. Maybe he needs some sensitivity counseling. It doesn't seem like the harassment was directed toward you but it was something sexual that made you feel uncomfortable I guess. I don't understand why he showed you tho. I think there is a double standard when it comes to things like this. I've worked with groups of women who sit around the lunch table and share sext messages and nude pics of guys they are dating, or share stories of sexual encounters. If a male charge nurse were to be shown something like that, he probably wouldn't report it.
- 0Sep 29, '12 by klone, BSN, RNI agree there is a double standard. However, the reason the double standard exists is because men have always been in a position of power over women in the workplace.
I agree with the suspension, and I think he should be able to keep his job. He was punished, and hopefully he will learn from the experience. If it happens again, he should be fired.
- 12Sep 29, '12 by jennyrn2012I don't think he should have been written up and I don't think he should be suspended. As the charge nurse, you could have simply spoken to him and gave him a verbal warning. I agree with other posters, females sit around and share stories about the men in their lives, how is this any different? Are you his friend? Is that why he showed you? That part is really strange to me!
- 3Sep 29, '12 by cclear2020I think the write up came from a place where you thought as the charge nurse you needed to take stronger action. when something makes you feel uncomfortable, tell the person. if it happens again, report it. that seems more like the standard.
- 6Sep 29, '12 by BigMosesWhile showing you the picture may have been a tad unprofessional, termination is too harsh a punishment for such a minor infraction. 2 weeks suspension is also incredibly harsh. No one was hurt, harassed, or harmed in any way from you seeing a picture for a couple seconds. At most the punishment should have been a verbal warning. This is ridiculous.
- 5Sep 29, '12 by adnrnstudentDid you ask him to stop doing it? I'm a male and acted hyper-professional at work because I'm so scared to death of this stuff and the ladies asked me to lighten up. (Literally, as a group, a bunch of them got me in the break room and being the wonderful gals they are told me it was okay to loosen up)
I did and work was so much more fun.
If I ever did anything to offend a girl and she asked me to stop, I certainly would. I never mean to offend anyone. I love my girls. (Was that sexist, my girls? <grin>)
If you ask someone nicely to stop and then they don't, well that's a different story.