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Sexual harrassment?

  1. 2 I had a male nurse co-worker who was actively engaging in "sexting" during the shift and showed me a very provocative partially nude female on his cell phone. As the charge nurse on duty I was required to right him up causing him to be placed on 2 week suspension. Fellow collegues, do you think this employee should be able to keep his job?
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  3. Visit  RNewbie profile page
    I think he should be able to keep his job. Maybe he needs some sensitivity counseling. It doesn't seem like the harassment was directed toward you but it was something sexual that made you feel uncomfortable I guess. I don't understand why he showed you tho. I think there is a double standard when it comes to things like this. I've worked with groups of women who sit around the lunch table and share sext messages and nude pics of guys they are dating, or share stories of sexual encounters. If a male charge nurse were to be shown something like that, he probably wouldn't report it.
    Elladora, anotherone, PennyWise, and 5 others like this.
  4. Visit  klone profile page
    I agree there is a double standard. However, the reason the double standard exists is because men have always been in a position of power over women in the workplace.

    I agree with the suspension, and I think he should be able to keep his job. He was punished, and hopefully he will learn from the experience. If it happens again, he should be fired.
  5. Visit  jennyrn2012 profile page
    I don't think he should have been written up and I don't think he should be suspended. As the charge nurse, you could have simply spoken to him and gave him a verbal warning. I agree with other posters, females sit around and share stories about the men in their lives, how is this any different? Are you his friend? Is that why he showed you? That part is really strange to me!

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  6. Visit  cclear2020 profile page
    I think the write up came from a place where you thought as the charge nurse you needed to take stronger action. when something makes you feel uncomfortable, tell the person. if it happens again, report it. that seems more like the standard.
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  7. Visit  pinkfish333 profile page
    he sounds totally unprofessional
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  8. Visit  Susieq58 profile page
    I agree that he should have been talked to first. Steps need to be followed. Sometimes people aren't aware of other people's feelings.
    spectrabrite likes this.
  9. Visit  BigMoses profile page
    While showing you the picture may have been a tad unprofessional, termination is too harsh a punishment for such a minor infraction. 2 weeks suspension is also incredibly harsh. No one was hurt, harassed, or harmed in any way from you seeing a picture for a couple seconds. At most the punishment should have been a verbal warning. This is ridiculous.
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  10. Visit  sharpeimom profile page
    I think a verbal warning plus some sensitivity training might have been a better first step, then step two
    would be a written warning with the suspension. Step three would result in termination.
    dudette10, not.done.yet, Whispera, and 3 others like this.
  11. Visit  adnrnstudent profile page
    Did you ask him to stop doing it? I'm a male and acted hyper-professional at work because I'm so scared to death of this stuff and the ladies asked me to lighten up. (Literally, as a group, a bunch of them got me in the break room and being the wonderful gals they are told me it was okay to loosen up)

    I did and work was so much more fun.

    If I ever did anything to offend a girl and she asked me to stop, I certainly would. I never mean to offend anyone. I love my girls. (Was that sexist, my girls? <grin>)

    If you ask someone nicely to stop and then they don't, well that's a different story.
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  12. Visit  morte profile page
    well...was he actually taking nude pictures of himself and texting them? or did you assume he was sexting simply because he had a less than completely clad female's picture on his phone? The first option, yeah suspension; the second option, just tell him you are not interested and to keep it to himself. No harrassment occured.
    Wild Irish LPN likes this.
  13. Visit  kmcguirern profile page
    I don't think it qualifies for sexual harrassment. If anything, he should be disciplined for sexting while at work. I would hope he would get another chance, as long as this is the time.
  14. Visit  FMF Corpsman profile page
    I'm somewhat astounded by your own over-reaction to the incident. Nursing has been a female dominated field for so long that it is difficult for males to traverse the arena. While I agree that the picture is inappropriate for a work setting, I often sat in the cafeteria while my female counterparts described their nites out, with some of the vulgarist of terms, only for them to lean over and ask me if they were making me uncomfortable, and then continue with their conversation. This went on in the elevator, in the halls, wherever several nurses were congregated, and I’m certain it still occurs, so please, get over your indignation. Do I think he should have been suspended? NO. Do I think he should have lost two week’s pay? Definitely not. Do I think you should be making Charge Nurse decisions, not if they are anything like that one. Next time, simply inform the person that the pictures aren’t appropriate for work
    Last edit by FMF Corpsman on Sep 29, '12 : Reason: text
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