Patients who can do ADLs but want nurses to - page 6

by destova

I've been coming across more and more patients that are perfectly capable of taking care of their personal needs, but simply don't want to. Example: ringing the call light to ask for the box of tissues that is a whopping 4... Read More


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    I try to make sense out of things that make no sense. If I can figure out why people do what they do, then I can direct my interventions appropriately. Some people are just weird. I can't possibly think like them. OK...A different weird than me The others, that are perfectly normal, nice, 60-80 yr olds who just expect in the hospital what they don't need, surely I can figure it out.

    I think it's all about control/power. It's what makes the whole world turn. Only I can't figure out why a perfectly normal, able bodied person, would give up their control to someone else. Or why that would only occur in the hospital.
    The only thing any of us can completely control is ourselves. When our bodies act up, we go to the hospital and we control nothing. Would that make the pt feel helpless?

    Then I think, who's in control when the pt demands peri care they can do themselves? Who's in control then? It certainly isn't me, who's expected to do anything to make the pt happy.
    I overthink everything. I need to take the psych hat off cause it just makes my head spin and my brain hurt.

    Maybe it's just as simple as some people are just weird.
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    Weird is celebrated these days all over the media. Nobody has simple pride anymore.
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    Quote from imintrouble
    I try to make sense out of things that make no sense. If I can figure out why people do what they do, then I can direct my interventions appropriately. Some people are just weird. I can't possibly think like them. OK...A different weird than me The others, that are perfectly normal, nice, 60-80 yr olds who just expect in the hospital what they don't need, surely I can figure it out.

    I think it's all about control/power. It's what makes the whole world turn. Only I can't figure out why a perfectly normal, able bodied person, would give up their control to someone else. Or why that would only occur in the hospital.
    The only thing any of us can completely control is ourselves. When our bodies act up, we go to the hospital and we control nothing. Would that make the pt feel helpless?

    Then I think, who's in control when the pt demands peri care they can do themselves? Who's in control then? It certainly isn't me, who's expected to do anything to make the pt happy.
    I overthink everything. I need to take the psych hat off cause it just makes my head spin and my brain hurt.

    Maybe it's just as simple as some people are just weird.
    Aha! I think you nailed it right on the head. By making us wipe their goodies, something most people would see as unpleasant, even degrading, they feel powerful, in control. 'See what I can make you do!? Do my bidding now, otherwise I will complain and you will get in trouble, for I am the Almighty Customer!' Do I think the patient with this thinking is normal? Of course not. Definitely some kind of personality disorder. But I do think that with many of them, it's about control, and them exerting it over the HCWs.
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    Not a single one of my patients will change their own diaper.
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    Quote from Bortaz, RN
    Not a single one of my patients will change their own diaper.
    Babies are so lazy these days. I blame the parents.
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    Jeweles26,

    Hot Pepper Peri Wipes! Somebody is gonna produce this and make millions! LOL!

    The 40 yr old male perv in for elective knee upon first experience with the Hot Pepper Peri Wipe:

    "Daaaaaaamn let me wipe my butt from now on! When you do it it burns like @*&^!#"

    Problem ...solved.
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    Quote from netglow
    Jeweles26,

    Hot Pepper Peri Wipes! Somebody is gonna produce this and make millions! LOL!

    The 40 yr old male perv in for elective knee upon first experience with the Hot Pepper Peri Wipe:

    "Daaaaaaamn let me wipe my butt from now on! When you do it it burns like @*&^!#"

    Problem ...solved.
    Love it netglow, love it. I'll go 50/50 with ya!
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    Hmm capsacin instead of calmoseptine?
    Quote from Jeweles26
    Love it netglow, love it. I'll go 50/50 with ya!
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    [QUOTE="imintrouble;7188014"

    Then I think, who's in control when the pt demands peri care they can do themselves? Who's in control then? rd.[/QUOTE]

    On par with my thoughts. Also some people come in very sick and weak and need this personal care but for some reason the techs/ nurses continue to assume/out of habit do it for them.
    Also, in the hospital a lot of things are done *to* you by strangers. Perhaps they feel this is something that is done *for*them?
    I think it is a control issue. They are not happy about being sick and in a twisted way, they passive aggressively take it out ON techs/nurses. As if to say, " ha!!! I'll show u what happens when you make me swallow horse pills and force a renal diet on me !"
    Cuz these type of people know nurses are in the end respsonsible for ensuring hygiene is complete and stating that someone forced u to sit in a diaper of pee for 10hrs shocks and upsets others.

    IMHO, of course! :-)
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    I just think they are freaks. LOL.
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