Mean Doctors....

  1. How can a nurse deal with mean doctors at your place of employment. I have worked as a unit clerk for 10 years. I am currently in school for my BSN, and one of my biggest fear as a new nurse is how to deal with mean doctors. I have seen first hand how these doctors speak to some nurses where I work and see how some of them get very upset.

    future nurse.......
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  2. 31 Comments

  3. by   AgentBeast
    Learn to give as good as you get.
  4. by   Orange Tree
    If they're upset and being "mean" for a reason, I listen and try to improve where I'm falling short. If they're just a jerk, I tend to hear, "blah blah lalalalala blah blah" when they speak. I can only think of one MD that I'd consider a jerk, well... maybe two! Most of them are not difficult to get along with, at all.
  5. by   sissiesmama
    Quote from Orange Tree
    If they're upset and being "mean" for a reason, I listen and try to improve where I'm falling short. If they're just a jerk, I tend to hear, "blah blah lalalalala blah blah" when they speak. I can only think of one MD that I'd consider a jerk, well... maybe two! Most of them are not difficult to get along with, at all.

    My thoughts exactly! I do try and listen and try to fix the problem, apologize if I screwed up, ect. If they are just that kind of person, they end up sounding like the teacher from Charlie Brown - "mmmwah mmwahh, mmm..."

    Thank goodness the good usually outweigh the mean ones.

    Good luck to u!
    Anne, RNC
  6. by   ImThatGuy
    Quote from mnrb_mdn
    How can a nurse deal with mean doctors at your place of employment. I have worked as a unit clerk for 10 years. I am currently in school for my BSN, and one of my biggest fear as a new nurse is how to deal with mean doctors. I have seen first hand how these doctors speak to some nurses where I work and see how some of them get very upset.

    future nurse.......
    Why would that even bother you? Lots of people are mean. It's up to you to decide whether or not to be their door mat and take their crap. I'm constantly perplexed at why this is a big deal to nurses.
  7. by   Turd Ferguson
    So that's what MD means....

    :smackingf
  8. by   Heidi the nurse
    Kill 'em with kindness
  9. by   AgentBeast
    Quote from Heidi the nurse
    Kill 'em with kindness

    Sometimes that only makes them angry.
  10. by   mnrb_mdn
    very funny. I like it
  11. by   LouisVRN
    A lot of doctors where I work that are known as "mean" just want the best care possible for their patients. I'm fine with this and find that as soon as the doctor realizes that this is all that I want as well I no longer have an issue with them being "mean" and in fact its these doctors that a lot of times will ask for my input. However I did have one doctor a few weeks ago that was being completely unreasonable. It did upset me but I just try to let it roll of my back afterall I was doing my job and thankfully it is not to keep him happy.
  12. by   KayRN910
    Like everybody says, try to listen to why they are being mean. Second, make sure you have your facts together and ready to stand your ground, esp if you are paging them or you see a potential problem or issue. Sometimes I say,"I understand what you are saying, but -this, this, this, this- is the problem I was seeing and I was wondering about -this-." Sometimes, your best asset is to use your knowledge, not to argue back! But, like most people said, most doctors are pretter reasonable to work it.
  13. by   Forever Sunshine
    Have your ducks in the shortest, most straight forward row possible, but include all important details.

    We have one doctor who almost every nurse in the facility has a horror story about. No idea why they keep him. If you look up "stoic" in the dictionary.. his face would be there. You call him up for anything.. he says two words. "Yes." and "Ok." Now I'm not asking for a play by play of his day, but at least a goodbye at the end of the phone call would be nice.
  14. by   jahra
    Quote from dajulieness
    Have your ducks in the shortest, most straight forward row possible, but include all important details.
    In some cases get ready to duck. As a student nurse I politely asked a Dr. if I could have the chart after he was finished as we both
    reached for the same chart. Although I was respectful, the Dr.
    threw the chart at me after he wrote his notes and it hit my arm hard.

    As this was a large teaching hospital , he disappeared into
    the unit and beyond. My lesson that day was to establish my parameters for when I became an RN.

    Listen, be respectful and helpful, but do not take physical or inappropriate emotional abuse ever.
    (That includes other nurses or staff as well..)

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