Left Speechless - page 2

He had just turned 18 when he came into the ER with chest and shoulder pain. I walked into his room and introduced myself. He was polite and soft spoken. I asked him about his pain and the cough... Read More

  1. by   WoosahRN
    Thank you! It's my first article. It's hard sharing something so personal. Probably more personal for the patient. I wanted to bring you all there with me, in those moments. Like I said l, he changed how I thought about dying and what was possible. He was obviously proud. I kept wondering how he did on his test. I was so proud of him and so thankful for who he was and how he impacted me. It's amazing how much we learn about these lives that we come across. They all have stories and sometimes I forget that. 😊
  2. by   jadelpn
    What an amazing story. Thank you for sharing it!
  3. by   not.done.yet
    My son died from cancer at 13. It made me re-evaluate everything about myself as a person. I got out of the dumps of bankruptcy and prior foreclosure. I finally moved past the divorce that happened a couple of years prior to his death. I stopped telling myself I was too stupid to pursue my dream and got myself back into college. I lost a bunch of weight. I rebuilt my credit and bought a house. I became a nurse.

    His strength in dying taught me a lot about strength in living. What will I do when I die? I honestly do not know. I do know I do not fear it the way I did before.

    This is what I love about what we do. We see the most horrible things....and the most incredible. What we see and do has the power to change a soul.
  4. by   LadyFree28
    Quote from GrnTea
    Aww, I seem to have something in my eye so I can barely see my screen ... God, we see such awful things sometimes, I wonder how we stand it.
    This...I wonder that everyday, even through all the objectivity, I still wonder...even after I have been faced with my own mortality and how to live, yes, I still wonder.

    I appreciate you sharing this Woosah.
  5. by   NotReady4PrimeTime
    Well done, Woosah. This young man's story deserved to be told, and you did it beautifully. I only hope I can be as determined to live my own life right to the end.
  6. by   Ivanna_Nurse
    oh wow. Im tearing up. Beautifully written, thought provoking and makes us take a minute. ~Ivanna
  7. by   applewhitern
    I watched my beautiful son die of cancer. He was diagnosed at age 21. Actually, he was misdiagnosed several times before we finally found a doctor who would actually listen to us. It was stage 4, in his liver and lungs when finally diagnosed properly. I could tell you a multitude of mistakes made by nurses and nurse practitioners, but it really doesn't matter now. One thing I will mention, though, is that we always had a hard time getting enough pain medication. Many nurses had such poor attitudes about giving it, as if it mattered that someone dying of stage 4 cancer cared about addiction. Another thing I will mention is "handicapped parking spaces." Please don't use them if you don't need them, and please don't judge people for using them. We were cursed at by a grown man once, because we parked in one, and the scars and cancer weren't readily visible to a lay person.
  8. by   marshmallownurse
    Beautifully written. And it's interesting how many people can relate to such a sad story. It's so easy to forget that each and every one of us (and our patients) are going through something; we're all fighting our own battles. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
  9. by   CheesePotato
    It is often spoken how nursing impacts individual lives--but in truth, it is a two way mirror.

    Thank you for eloquently capturing and presenting his reflection. Under your gentle care you gave him the gift of understanding, advocacy, and relief and now through your words you allow for this young man to empower and live on in hundreds if not thousands of readers.

    Thank you.

    Sincerest regards,

  10. by   Gottmilk
    I say atta kid. Wish more people in my generation were as mentally powerful as this dude. Props to him.
  11. by   NurseGirl525
    What an incredible story. He is most certainly living. I have had a particularly rough week and this story helped me put some things in perspective. Thank you for sharing. I am sure you made a huge difference for him that day. Just so he could set out and accomplish what he needed to that day.
  12. by   Carpediem1012
    Beautiful boy. Beautiful story.
  13. by   WoosahRN
    Not.done.yet, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. But what a beautiful way to honor him than to live with less fear and more joy. I feel like I can see your smile when you talk about him. Have you ever considered speaking to grieving parents? I would imagine the hardest thing is guilt over being happy or living. Especially with a long or chronic illness. Their lives revolve around appointments, meds, tests and the hospital. I've always imagined that their purpose is so tied to fighting for and with their children that they struggle to have a new purpose. Thank you for sharing.