I am just shocked with a conversation I had with a co-worker. I had a pt family member that was being rude and I asked the family member to stop talking to me that way (nicely). I was relaying the story and she said 'oh you can't do that " I said huh? I have a right to not be verbally abused and she said "no .......I don't think you do as a nurse, we have to meet pts and their families where they are"
Really? I don't think that is true. I am one to set boundaries, just like I did with this family member and usually it turns out really well and we have workable pt/nurse relationship. Not in this case, they then even got more irate and rude and I got the charge.
But I stand by my right to not be verbally abused. What do you think ? Do you stand up for yourself or do you believe its okay to let people tear you down and be verbally aggressive to you and that is our role as a nurse?
It's hard. It's why I've had such a hard time on the floor. No, nurses are not expected to get a full lunch break, urinate when a doctor calls, speak up when a patient or when family members yell at them. Nurses must always smile. Grin and bare it. Give em the good old disney smile. Nope. I make them respect me. Then I flat out purposely ignore patients and family members who think they have a right to follow me into the med room or another patient's room. I had one patient yell at me and tell me that she wants cheese and crackers. I had put her right in her place. I told her not to EVER yell at me or EVER talk to me like that. I'm not your doormat! She quickly apologized. Yup, I even got right back into the faces of nurse managers who tried to justify unsafe situations. And the story goes on and on...blah blah. Basically, I'm getting away from that environment. I've made a decision that if the generation that came before me didn't help lay that foundation for basic human rights, then I can't spend the rest of my career fighting people. So I'm planing my exit for that reason and a multitude of other things.
Last edit by NJnewRN on Feb 3, '13
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