"You look tired" - page 2

How do you all respond to this comment from patients? I work 7a-7p busy med surg, and have baby that wakes up several times a night. I can't help being tired, but these comments irritate me,... Read More

  1. Visit  SHGR profile page
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    Sometimes I got this comment from very nice patients who just liked me, and wanted to say something nice. I tried to take it in a good light.
    JulieL, wooh, Anna Flaxis, and 1 other like this.
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  3. Visit  nursewithskills profile page
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    That comment irritates me as well.

    Another nurse told me this one day and the funny part was she looked
    even more tired than I, her eyes looked like she just work up, really.

    They don't need to know your business. Like one post said, don't give them anything to gossip about.

    I might say, "Oh, really." And keep it moving...
    anotherone and OCNRN63 like this.
  4. Visit  teeniebert profile page
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    "Sweet, 'tired' was the look I was going for today!"
  5. Visit  Multicollinearity profile page
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    I have heard this before, and it hadn't occurred to me to be irritated. I took it as a way of blabbing to me...maybe acknowledgement that I was working really hard. Unless said in a critical or negative tone of voice, this wouldn't bother me at all.
    JulieL and Orange Tree like this.
  6. Visit  Kooky Korky profile page
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    Don't admit to being tired and don't mention the baby or other personal matters. It can lead only to no good.

    Just tell them you've got Ebola or something.
  7. Visit  Orange Tree profile page
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    Try skipping in and out of their rooms. No one looks tired when they're skipping.
  8. Visit  Hygiene Queen profile page
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    Some patients are just showing concern for the people they know are working hard for them.
    Bless my dear geriatric patients.
    JulieL, silverbat, dianabanana, and 8 others like this.
  9. Visit  JMBnurse profile page
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    Quote from Hygiene Queen
    Some patients are just showing concern for the people they know are working hard for them.
    Bless my dear geriatric patients.

    Exactly...this is usually uttered by the elderly and in their own way, they just feel bad because they see us running around and they worry about us.

    I might say, "Ha ha ha! I do?? Well, then I look better than I feel!! Ha ha ha ha! <wink> Then change the subject.
  10. Visit  imintrouble profile page
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    If I didn't look tired, nobody would recognize me.
    wooh, anotherone, OCNRN63, and 4 others like this.
  11. Visit  Anna Flaxis profile page
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    I interpret a comment like this from a patient as an attempt to show concern, and it shows that they see you as a human being, not just some faceless servant/robot/maid. I think that's a *good* thing. If you're hearing it a lot, then you probably DO look tired.

    When a patient makes this observation to me, I simply take a deep breath, relaxing all my upper body and facial muscles as I exhale (which I find are usually tense/tight when someone makes this observation), smile at them, and say something like "Yes, I am tired.", while giving them a touch on the hand or shoulder to show I appreciate the concern, then change the subject and put the focus back on their care.
  12. Visit  DSkelton711 profile page
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    I am tired and look it I am sure. Most people say it just out of observation not meant to hurt or irritate, I think. Take it as a hint to maybe try and take 5 minutes when you can get it, to do something to refresh yourself really quick--some fluids, some deep breaths, stretching, clear your mind. Then when you are at home, make sure to let anyone who offers help with the baby or the house--actually help out. I was really bad at feeling like I HAD to do it all and didn't really let hubby do his fair share. Now I know better. He might do things different from you but that is okay. Just make sure to get yourself some rest and "me" time to recharge and rejuvenate. If you truly feel and look tired on a continual basis, make sure to rule out anything medical like anemia or thyroid or any other problem.
  13. Visit  pinkfish333 profile page
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    My god, people are so rude to say something like that, that kind of thing really offends me as people will say the same thing to me.
    anotherone and OCNRN63 like this.
  14. Visit  Lynx25 profile page
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    Quote from pinkfish333
    My god, people are so rude to say something like that, that kind of thing really offends me as people will say the same thing to me.
    If this is the worst thing that happens to you in a day, you have had an excellent day.
    sunnybabe, CP2013, workingharder, and 1 other like this.


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