venting!

Pangea Reunited, ASN, RN · Nov 28, 2013

My advice is to mind your own business.

manusko · Nov 28, 2013

I'm in my second semester of nursing school. It was highly competitive program to get into and I am very proud to be here. I am a 39 y/o father of 5 happily married and I work 36 hours a weekend. I am perturbed by a fellow male vet. He currently serves in the army reserves. I have done my time in. This guy is constantly demanding special considerations such as additional study time after a weekend drill and he'll make up appointments regarding service so he can skip clinicals or at least leave early. Am I wrong for getting mad because he is getting away with it as well as I don't believe I want a fellow nurse abusing circumstances after we graduate. More importantly I feel this is feeding something deeper. He dosent seem to belong to the same set of rules as the rest of us. Any advise?[/quote']
Vent and let it go.

bartmc1, BSN · Nov 28, 2013

Oh I wish I could...however, he's gotta call me tell me about how unfair this **** is for him.

bartmc1, BSN · Nov 28, 2013

Oh I get it...you do the same thing !

manusko · Nov 28, 2013

Oh I wish I could...however he's gotta call me tell me about how unfair this **** is for him.[/quote']
If you guys are on that level where discuss school then tell him directly.

Summer Days · Nov 28, 2013

You may have to let it go because as one of my instructors once told us "the rubber meets the road once you hit the floors." You may cheat your way thru nursing school but when you hit the world of nursing, the cookie will crumble for those who are ill-prepared. I am not seeing how it benefits you being angry with him so let go, the NCLEX or the world of nursing will catch up with him.

DadStudentPerhaps · Nov 29, 2013

I'm reminded of that old verbiage... "We must all run our own race".

**NICU Guy, BSN, RN** · Nov 30, 2013

I have two classmates that are in the reserves. They don't ask for special treatment. Only issue is Saturday clinicals on their reserve weekend. Other classmates volunteered to switch their clinical day for those weekends. Other than that they never use reserves as an excuse for not getting something done or want special treatment.

NicuGal, MSN, RN · Dec 5, 2013

Let it go...when he gets a job in a hospital he will have to have documentation of all his "activities" to get time off or considerations.

krisiepoo · Dec 5, 2013

that sucks and I'm sorry that he's putting you into a position to even know aobut this. Unfortunately there are people who will skirt their responsiblity no matter where you go and he probably has some well established patterns around this. it will probably catch up to him but for now just let it go. Tell him how you feel the next time he calls or tell him you don't want to hear about him cheating the system anymore...

barcode120x, RN, NP · Dec 7, 2013

Vent and let it go like others said. I haven't been in that situation, but what I learned about the nursing program is despite how close you are to your classmates, friends or rivals, you need to look out for yourself. To me, the reality is, you're in this for yourself. You definitely can help others, but you might want to put yourself first at times. In this case, I would just leave him be and ignore it. His day will come.