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Sep 24, 2008 11:16 AM

Guys: Just Curious - Need Your Opinions


Hello, I'm a female and not in nursing school yet, but just completed my pre-reqs. I'm a little curious about something, and I would like your opinion. In one of my pre-req classes, I overheard a guy tell another guy sitting next to him that he "is going to be tempted after becoming a nurse because of all the chicks." (He's married with a child.) Please don't think I see men getting into the nursing profession for the wrong reasons. I wouldn't mind working with men in nursing, but after hearing this comment, it made me wonder if there are others out there pursuing nursing just so they could have more opportunity for....hmmm...dates. (Sorry, I know that sounds bad, and don't mean to offend anyone!) The thought actually never came to mind until I overheard that, and I'm sure you're nurses because you want to care for people. Again, I'm trying not being judgemental because he's not here to defend himself, but that comment (along with others this person made througout the semester regarding women) really had me wondering if he was wanting to become a nurse for the right reasons. And please don't get me wrong, guys; I think it's great that more men are getting into nursing and I don't see any reason why they shouldn't! What do you guys think of my classmate's comment?


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from SteveRN21
Old Sep 24, 2008, 03:21 PM

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Sounds like a typical comment from a jerk. Gives the rest of us guys a bad name. The vast majority of men in nursing do so for honorable reasons. The fact that men are the minority in nursing does increase the odds of finding a date, but I would guess that like me, most guys leave work at work.
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from traumaRUs
Old Sep 24, 2008, 03:23 PM

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Believe me if you have time to find "dates" at work, your unit manager will come along and decrease staffing - agree this guy's a jerk!
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from kgh31386
Old Sep 24, 2008, 09:50 PM

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lol if you have to go to nursing school and all that fun stuff for years to even have the chance for dates......enough said. plus he has a kid and wife? come on. i guarantee you there aren't many people like that out there.
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from Bobylon
Old Sep 25, 2008, 02:29 PM

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I agree with the previous posters, just wanting to add that he may have been joking or just talking "shtuff," as some guys seem to feel they have to act/talk like that to be percieved as "one of the guys," if that makes any sense. I've made it a lifelong habit to never date from the workplace, ever - friendships, sure.... relationship partners....nah...I have lots of very good female friends (am often referred to as "one of the girls ), and my wife is very confident in the fact that she's my one and only.
That male student's statement was kind of tasteless, but could be meaningless as well (hopefully, for his wife's sake)

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Believe me if you have time to find "dates" at work, your unit manager will come along and decrease staffing - agree this guy's a jerk!
Haha......truly !!!

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from Bluehair
Old Sep 25, 2008, 02:37 PM

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Just curious - how well is this guy doing in the program/pre-req's? I agree, he sounds like a jerk, but some people fall back on the .... dating.... topic when they are in situations that they feel totally out of their element and have no coping skills. It will be interesting to see if he shapes up or washes out...
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Old Sep 26, 2008, 10:05 AM

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It sounds like the guy is a dog; there are those out there of both genders. I have heard similar statements come from the fairer sex as well. That being said I must relate the following story:

I am in a small private NS and I am 1 of 3 men in my class of 24 and most of us have become fast friends. A few weeks back one of the marketing reps was showing a well endowed potential student around the Nursing Lab. This young lady had on a very short skirt and low cut top, etc. It was really inappropriate attire for the occasion; however, she was HOT! (there is just no other way to put it). Several of my female classmates were talking about her and I said that I thought she was a candidate for advanced placement in our class. The girls naturally got on my case and it was all in fun. I told the story to my wife and she thought it was pretty funny.
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Old Sep 26, 2008, 11:06 AM

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So what if the guy says he will be tempted? That certainly doesn't mean he will give in to the temptation and cheat on his wife or even flirt with it. Nature dictates that we (and all the other animals) are attracted to the opposite sex. Without that attraction no species would feel compelled to reproduce and we would all still be single celled organisms. The ONLY defenses we have against attraction to the opposite sex are denial, willpower, and homosexuality. Just because my wife is beautiful and sexy doesn't mean that I don't find lingerie' models attractive.
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Old Oct 05, 2008, 06:09 PM

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Well, from my limited experience as an RN so far, the male nurses have all been very skilled and professional. When I think back to nursing school I can't recall any male student being like this. I can see how he might have been tempted to look or possibly even act out on it, but I think he was just trying to show off with another male student. Some I think might act out more than usual in an attempt to make it clear concerning their "orientation". Is that the political correct term for it nowadays? If it is, let me know so I can change it. I think most are in it to be able to help other and have a rewarding career. I can't imagine one spending over 40,000 just for some "dates". Then again, you can always take nursing school online (at last the coursework anyway and not the clinicals). I wouldn't worry though.
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from fabiusgile
Old Oct 07, 2008, 01:05 PM

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I think he was just joking... I know where I live it's not unheard of to go out with "the girls". Also Medical (RN,Dr, EMT etc), police, etc etc. Are all hard professions and sometimes it's hard to go home and talk with your significant other about how you tried everything you could to save someone. They just don't understand... Whereas your co-worker may.. I think in that respect.. causes the "cheating"
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