Guys: Just Curious - Need Your Opinions

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Hello, I'm a female and not in nursing school yet, but just completed my pre-reqs. I'm a little curious about something, and I would like your opinion. In one of my pre-req classes, I overheard a guy tell another guy sitting next to him that he "is going to be tempted after becoming a nurse because of all the chicks." (He's married with a child.) Please don't think I see men getting into the nursing profession for the wrong reasons. I wouldn't mind working with men in nursing, but after hearing this comment, it made me wonder if there are others out there pursuing nursing just so they could have more opportunity for....hmmm...dates. (Sorry, I know that sounds bad, and don't mean to offend anyone!) The thought actually never came to mind until I overheard that, and I'm sure you're nurses because you want to care for people. Again, I'm trying not being judgemental because he's not here to defend himself, but that comment (along with others this person made througout the semester regarding women) really had me wondering if he was wanting to become a nurse for the right reasons. And please don't get me wrong, guys; I think it's great that more men are getting into nursing and I don't see any reason why they shouldn't! :) What do you guys think of my classmate's comment?

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Specializes in Neonatal ICU (Cardiothoracic).

Sounds like a typical comment from a jerk. Gives the rest of us guys a bad name. The vast majority of men in nursing do so for honorable reasons. The fact that men are the minority in nursing does increase the odds of finding a date, but I would guess that like me, most guys leave work at work.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Believe me if you have time to find "dates" at work, your unit manager will come along and decrease staffing - agree this guy's a jerk!

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lol if you have to go to nursing school and all that fun stuff for years to even have the chance for dates......enough said. plus he has a kid and wife? come on. i guarantee you there aren't many people like that out there.

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Specializes in Coronary Rehab Unit.

I agree with the previous posters, just wanting to add that he may have been joking or just talking "shtuff," as some guys seem to feel they have to act/talk like that to be percieved as "one of the guys," if that makes any sense. I've made it a lifelong habit to never date from the workplace, ever - friendships, sure.... relationship partners....nah...I have lots of very good female friends (am often referred to as "one of the girls ;) ), and my wife is very confident in the fact that she's :heartbeatmy one and only:redbeathe.

That male student's statement was kind of tasteless, but could be meaningless as well (hopefully, for his wife's sake)

Believe me if you have time to find "dates" at work, your unit manager will come along and decrease staffing - agree this guy's a jerk!

Haha......truly !!!

- B

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Specializes in Critical Care.

Just curious - how well is this guy doing in the program/pre-req's? I agree, he sounds like a jerk, but some people fall back on the .... dating.... topic when they are in situations that they feel totally out of their element and have no coping skills. It will be interesting to see if he shapes up or washes out...

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Specializes in Telemetry & PCU.

It sounds like the guy is a dog; there are those out there of both genders. I have heard similar statements come from the fairer sex as well. That being said I must relate the following story:

I am in a small private NS and I am 1 of 3 men in my class of 24 and most of us have become fast friends. A few weeks back one of the marketing reps was showing a well endowed potential student around the Nursing Lab. This young lady had on a very short skirt and low cut top, etc. It was really inappropriate attire for the occasion; however, she was HOT! (there is just no other way to put it). Several of my female classmates were talking about her and I said that I thought she was a candidate for advanced placement in our class. The girls naturally got on my case and it was all in fun. I told the story to my wife and she thought it was pretty funny.

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So what if the guy says he will be tempted? That certainly doesn't mean he will give in to the temptation and cheat on his wife or even flirt with it. Nature dictates that we (and all the other animals) are attracted to the opposite sex. Without that attraction no species would feel compelled to reproduce and we would all still be single celled organisms. The ONLY defenses we have against attraction to the opposite sex are denial, willpower, and homosexuality. Just because my wife is beautiful and sexy :loveya:doesn't mean that I don't find lingerie' models attractive.:rolleyes:

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Well, from my limited experience as an RN so far, the male nurses have all been very skilled and professional. When I think back to nursing school I can't recall any male student being like this. I can see how he might have been tempted to look or possibly even act out on it, but I think he was just trying to show off with another male student. Some I think might act out more than usual in an attempt to make it clear concerning their "orientation". Is that the political correct term for it nowadays? If it is, let me know so I can change it. :chuckle I think most are in it to be able to help other and have a rewarding career. I can't imagine one spending over 40,000 just for some "dates". :wink2: Then again, you can always take nursing school online (at last the coursework anyway and not the clinicals). I wouldn't worry though.

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I think he was just joking... I know where I live it's not unheard of to go out with "the girls". Also Medical (RN,Dr, EMT etc), police, etc etc. Are all hard professions and sometimes it's hard to go home and talk with your significant other about how you tried everything you could to save someone. They just don't understand... Whereas your co-worker may.. I think in that respect.. causes the "cheating"

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Since you don't really know the context, his comment could be genuine or a joke. Some people go into a field for the wrong reasons. Nursing's no different. It's also just as possible that he's going into nursing for the right reason and was simply making a joke.

I chose nursing because it's a great career. Great job security, huge selection of types of jobs, lots of room for advancement, get to use science and continue learning on a daily basis. And yes helping people is good too.

When my fiance/girlfriend first asked me why I chose nursing, my reply was: "for the hot chicks" (she's a non-nursing major).

Then she slapped me.

Lol but she understands my sarcasm. I'm sure the conversation could've easily been misinterpreted by an eavesdropper.

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Specializes in Ortho, Neuro, Detox, Tele.

I understand....I don't see my job as helping me pick up women(most of the women I work with are older than me, with kids and husbands)...however, I feel like it helps me relate better with my current girlfriend. I can talk about our relationship with 1 or 2 of my close work friends and get their opinion on how they perceive a issue or a problem that we are having.

I always try to joke around in the station, but on the floor I am serious and friendly. I am considered the "nice guy", and the nurses offer to set me up with friends of theirs....

but it sounds like the guy could be any number of things. but he could just be a jerk.

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