Being Gay and a Male Nursing Student - page 6

I'm aware that the words 'Gay' and 'Nursing' may somehow go hand-and-hand for some, and others may find it comical, but I've found it quite uncomfortable being gay and a male, nursing student simply... Read More

  1. by   Pca_85revived
    I'm not a guy, so I apologize for posting here if that's not ok. Your good coworkers won't care about your sexual orientation, just about how you are to work with and the care you give. I've worked with straight people who were awful to work with and people who were gay and in open poly/BDSM type relationships who were awesome. That said. I've worked with narrow minded managers who rode alternative lifestyle people really hard, as if they had more to prove. Don't ever let someone treat you like that. Regretfully, I was young at the time and didn't stand up for my co-workers/friends. Someone who's name i don't remember once said people treat you how you allow them to.
  2. by   Tacomaboy3
    A gay thread!

    I'm gay, a CNA, and about to start nursing school. Many times, I'm often doing 1:1 care at one of my jobs. I can't tell you how many times little (or big) old ladies tell me how cute I am, that I must have a girlfriend, that girls must be flocking to me, yada yada yada. I mostly take it as a compliment, for sure, but a huge part of me feels uncomfortable disclosing to them that I have a boyfriend. It's hard answering these "outing" questions. It's none of their business, sure, but I feel inauthentic if I don't.

    There have been times where I've felt comfortable enough with a patient to fully answer their question and I out myself - I've had both good and bad reactions. It's difficult: on one hand, I don't want to be disingenuous (I've spent too many years being in the closet, and I don't want to be stuffed back into it); on the other hand, patients have reacted very negatively and have asked for a different aide.

    I think it's very situational. That is, there are going to be circumstances with patients or coworkers in which your sexual orientation will never be discussed. If it ever is, I think I'd encourage anyone to be honest (given that it'd be safe to out yourself).

    I suppose that I, among others, will always figuratively be coming out of the closet for the rest of our lives to the people we meet. It never gets easy.
  3. by   barcode120x
    @ Tacomaboy3
    It's just as you say it, if you feel comfortable telling them your relation, go for it. I personally am strict as I can be in terms of personal life when talking to patients. Don't get me wrong, I'll relate to the patient if we are just socializing, but I always heed caution and stay away from "hot topics" if you know what I mean.
  4. by   NuGuyNurse2b
    I simply say "I keep my personal life personal"
  5. by   MikeMad
    Can I be banned here for homophobic posts?)

    Okay, this issue occurs in many fields, I think, not only nursing. You guys, just do your job well and defend yourself when its neccessary.
    Last edit by Esme12 on Nov 8, '16
  6. by   MrChicagoRN
    Quote from MikeMad
    Can I be banned here for homophobic posts?)

    Only do not touch naturals)
    What the heck does that mean?

    That our brothers and sisters from the LGBT community are "unnatural?"

    I certainly hope not.
  7. by   Esme12
    Quote from MikeMad
    Can I be banned here for homophobic posts?)

    ) a new member I suggest you familiarize yourself with the Terms of Service
    Our first priority is to the members that have come here because of the flame-free atmosphere we provide. There is a zero-tolerance policy here against personal attacks. We will not tolerate anyone insulting other's opinion nor name calling.
    Our call is to be supportive, not divisive. Because of this, discrimination, racial vilification and offensive generalizations targeting people of other races, religions and/or nationalities, or sexual orientation will not be tolerated.
  8. by   GrumpyOldBastard
    I am as straight as an arrow, but I have been a man in nursing a LONG time. It has been my observation that gay men often excel as nursing students and as nurses. I live in Texas (a VERY "RED" state) and I never have had the slightest hint of trouble for any of my numerous gay male nursing students at my clinical site. Gay GNs seem to have no trouble at all competing effectively for GN/RN jobs.

    Good Luck!
  9. by   Union-Jack
    I'm of the thinking whatever you get up to in your private life and in the bedroom is your business, as long as it involves consenting adults. Gay, straight, bi, whatever, I couldn't care less. The only time it becomes as issue in the workplace (IMO) is if someone brings it into the workplace. For example, I would find it equally as off-putting if a female or male nurse was drooling over a male patient, or perhaps discussing their sex-life openly or whatever.

    Makes no odds to me what sexual orientation you are, but just respect the work-boundaries and don't bring your sex life to work. If you want to race home and dress up as an Easter bunny while you have a threesome with a drag-queen and someone in leather boots, that's cool.....I just don't want to hear about it!