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Being Gay and a Male Nursing Student - page 6

I'm aware that the words 'Gay' and 'Nursing' may somehow go hand-and-hand for some, and others may find it comical, but I've found it quite uncomfortable being gay and a male, nursing student simply... Read More

  1. Visit  Pca_85revived profile page
    #65 2
    I'm not a guy, so I apologize for posting here if that's not ok. Your good coworkers won't care about your sexual orientation, just about how you are to work with and the care you give. I've worked with straight people who were awful to work with and people who were gay and in open poly/BDSM type relationships who were awesome. That said. I've worked with narrow minded managers who rode alternative lifestyle people really hard, as if they had more to prove. Don't ever let someone treat you like that. Regretfully, I was young at the time and didn't stand up for my co-workers/friends. Someone who's name i don't remember once said people treat you how you allow them to.
  2. Visit  Tacomaboy3 profile page
    #66 2
    A gay thread!

    I'm gay, a CNA, and about to start nursing school. Many times, I'm often doing 1:1 care at one of my jobs. I can't tell you how many times little (or big) old ladies tell me how cute I am, that I must have a girlfriend, that girls must be flocking to me, yada yada yada. I mostly take it as a compliment, for sure, but a huge part of me feels uncomfortable disclosing to them that I have a boyfriend. It's hard answering these "outing" questions. It's none of their business, sure, but I feel inauthentic if I don't.

    There have been times where I've felt comfortable enough with a patient to fully answer their question and I out myself - I've had both good and bad reactions. It's difficult: on one hand, I don't want to be disingenuous (I've spent too many years being in the closet, and I don't want to be stuffed back into it); on the other hand, patients have reacted very negatively and have asked for a different aide.

    I think it's very situational. That is, there are going to be circumstances with patients or coworkers in which your sexual orientation will never be discussed. If it ever is, I think I'd encourage anyone to be honest (given that it'd be safe to out yourself).

    I suppose that I, among others, will always figuratively be coming out of the closet for the rest of our lives to the people we meet. It never gets easy.
  3. Visit  barcode120x profile page
    #67 0
    @ Tacomaboy3
    It's just as you say it, if you feel comfortable telling them your relation, go for it. I personally am strict as I can be in terms of personal life when talking to patients. Don't get me wrong, I'll relate to the patient if we are just socializing, but I always heed caution and stay away from "hot topics" if you know what I mean.
  4. Visit  NuGuyNurse2b profile page
    #68 1
    I simply say "I keep my personal life personal"

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