Gossipy women

  1. I have women in my class (more than one), who run to the teacher with every wind of gossip. I am a very good student. Recently, private bits of private conversations have been reported to our instructors. I am so frustrated with this. How do I handle this?!? Some of this "conversation" has been made up.
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  3. by   TheCommuter
    I attended school with gossipy female classmates and, unfortunately, have encountered my fair share of gossipy female coworkers.

    How do I handle it? I try to ignore it. People will be less likely to pester you if you don't feed them with any reactions.
  4. by   Suzanneyoulike
    It's so hard. They actually listen to my conversations with other classmates and tell the instructors exactly what we think of thier lectures. I'm scared of having casual conversations in the class. I make As and Bs in the class, but I DO think think teachers have a hard time destinguishing the butt-kissers from the good students.
  5. by   txspadequeenRN
    if i were you i would be keeping my opinions about the class lectures to my self and only discuss nursing/class related material while in class. these other students need to grow up , this is nursing school and not grade school. if your teachers are anything like mine were...they will only take so much of this child like behavior before they strike and release the venom... the last thing you want to do is get caught up in some gossip circle and find yourself sitting in the "principles office"...rumors get out of hand and get added to with every new person that gets a hold of the information...next thing you know you have shot the pope....keep you mind on what you are there for.....
  6. by   nursesaideBen
    Well, I'm glad my class isn't the only one with this problem. There are two girls in my class who do nothing but backstab and cause trouble. All they do is gripe, whine, and complain about how hard the class is, how the instructor doesn't like them, how tough work is, etc etc. I just want to yell "I DON'T CARE!" at them. I know that sounds insensitive but we all have our problems and we don't b*tch about them continuously during class and clinicals. I also hate how they talk about all of us including our instructor who is a wonderful person like a dog and then act all sweet to our faces. They litterally bring down the class with their passive-aggressive comments and attitude during lecture and are very distracting, I try to ignore them but I'm getting close to just telling them to please be quiet during class so we can focus on learning and not on how much they hate nursing. I'm sorry you're going through a similar situation hopefully they won't last long and just keep up the good grades!!! :icon_hug:
  7. by   ChargeNurseAmy74
    [font=franklin gothic medium]well not only do i get the gossips that drive me nuts but also the "know it alls" that has experienced anything & everything in life and have advice on everything>.sheesh! they shoot my nerves. i've learned to keep my mouth shut, heeheeh..

    [font=franklin gothic medium]amy :chuckle
  8. by   BSNtobe2009
    I have learned, the hard way, to never, ever tell my co-workers anything that I wouldn't want posted on my boss's front door or for everyone to see. I trust absolutely NO ONE. There are people that work in every place of business that gossip about other employees, and managers that let them stir up the drama, and people can and DO lose their jobs over gossip.

    The best way I have learned to deal with gossip: Don't give them any ammunition.

    I also stay away from any employee that is considered "trouble" by management or others that are known gossips or anyone that speaks negatively about management, because even though you are not participating, it is viewed as if you share the same viewpoint whether you participate or not.

    It sucks not to be able to go to work, have fun, and talk about work with your co-workers, but there is always someone that will take an innocent comment, twist it around, and then you'll forever be going through your career defending yourself...ever noticed the quiet ones are left alone?
  9. by   tiroka03
    AMEN to that.
  10. by   pagandeva2000
    I stayed to myself all throughout the nursing program, and I stay to myself in the career. People thought that I was stuck up, but I wasn't...I just didn't want to get into the mess that folks create. This will not change once you become a nurse, unfortunately. I don't even tell my co-workers about my second job because they get jealous over that as well. As others have posted, just discuss nursing material and leave no impression of your personal thoughts anywhere else. I had a program director that enjoyed gossip...so, imagine THAT!! She had a student that had her home phone number and would report everything to her, and then, this woman would actually confront the student that told her stole pigeon everything. I am sure that was uncomfortable. It will be over before you know it. Keep up the grades and move on.
  11. by   deaf nurse
    right on sister!!!!!
    Quote from tiroka03
    AMEN to that.
  12. by   CHATSDALE
    thee are people like this in every profession [not all female, may i add] the best thing you can do is walk away when they bring something up or change the subject..if they won't let it go tell them you don't wish to discuss it...use the last one sparingly because they may decide to make up something if they feel embrassed
  13. by   huganurse1203
    Sorry Ladies but I hate to tell you.. it gets worse when your out there in the real world!

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