careerless mom needs advice

  1. hello everyone!

    thank God i found this site coz I really needed words of encouragements at this time... I am 32 years old, married w/ 3 kids and a full-time housewife... I am presently here in Kuwait with my own family, at my age and situation, I am considering taking up BSN next year (June 07) back in Pinas...though there will be sacrifices like leaving my husband behind...I've asked advices from my closest friend and she gave me negative ones. ( she said i'd be too old to start a nursing job).. I haven't worked for 5 years now,my siblings are all professionals, my husband has a great job, I ain't got savings of my own,my friends excels in their own fields... i feel left behind. Going back to school means not having my full attention to my kids, I feel guilty, Yes! But I wanna do something different and something for myself this time (I hope I didn't sound selfish!)...coz I think by doing this it would mean gaining back my confidence...

    please give me advices...
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  3. by   lawrence01
    32 years old isn't old at all. If you like nursing - why not. A lot of medical doctors in the Phil. in their 40's and 50's takes up nursing all the time and they aren't ashame at all. They had classmates in their 20's and 30's and some were their students at one time.

    It's never too late. You're still young.... plus some programs may still credit some of your subjects from your previous course and that may shave off 1-2 years depending on your previous course.

    If you're serious about it I would start ASAP. There are March openings for 2nd coursers. And if you delay too much there is always a chance that the Gov't may make the BSN program a mandatory 4 year program regardless if you are a 2nd coursers or not.
  4. by   rn4ever?
    Age is just a number. Go for what your heart desires. If you want to pursue a career in nursing and sincerely believe that it will make you feel better, then go for it. I understand where you're coming from. There will be people who will be against your decision---but show them how driven and serious you are about your decision. Are you bringing your kids with you to Manila when you study? By proper time management, you'd still be able to be a mom to them and also be a nursing student at the same time. Sometimes, sacrifices are needed to be done but just feel good in the thought that eventually you will reap what you sowed and it will be all worth it. It's good that your husband has a good career and could provide well for the family, but I know that that times are uncertain and it would still feel different if you have your own career and also make your own money---and there's nothing wrong with it. You go girl! Good luck!


    Quote from kRk01
    hello everyone!

    thank God i found this site coz I really needed words of encouragements at this time... I am 32 years old, married w/ 3 kids and a full-time housewife... I am presently here in Kuwait with my own family, at my age and situation, I am considering taking up BSN next year (June 07) back in Pinas...though there will be sacrifices like leaving my husband behind...I've asked advices from my closest friend and she gave me negative ones. ( she said i'd be too old to start a nursing job).. I haven't worked for 5 years now,my siblings are all professionals, my husband has a great job, I ain't got savings of my own,my friends excels in their own fields... i feel left behind. Going back to school means not having my full attention to my kids, I feel guilty, Yes! But I wanna do something different and something for myself this time (I hope I didn't sound selfish!)...coz I think by doing this it would mean gaining back my confidence...

    please give me advices...
  5. by   misty888
    go for it. i was 43 when i took up nursing as a 2nd course. now i am through with ielts and nclex. time flies. maybe you can make some arrangement with your hubby to lessen your guilt feelings bout the kids (all moms are made to drown in guilt). just make sure your heart is in it cause you wont enjoy the nursing work if economics is your pure reason.
  6. by   RNHawaii34
    [quote=krk01;1977508]hello everyone!

    thank god i found this site coz i really needed words of encouragements at this time... i am 32 years old, married w/ 3 kids and a full-time housewife..
    first of all, i want to congratulate you for having a great career: being a mom and a good housewife. i am sure many don't realize that being a mother is a full time job too.. i have no idea how you juggle your responsibility, to me it is really tough.
    i am presently here in kuwait with my own family, at my age and situation, i am considering taking up bsn next year (june 07) back in pinas...though there will be sacrifices like leaving my husband behind...i've asked advices from my closest friend and she gave me negative ones.
    ( she said i'd be too old to start a nursing job) never mind your friend. you are not too old to start studying nursing, it is a wise decision, actually. when i was in nursing school, i have classmates who are engineers, doctors, ( i mean really older doctors), and people who actually worked for more than 20 years with non nursing jobs...and get this, they are all over 40 years old! i was the baby in the class because i was 32 at that time!! and i had so much fun going to school with them because they are all have children, and apo ( grandkids, and they are more responsible, and they are smart people..it makes everything easier for me, than working with younger nursing students ( don't get me wrong, i like studying with young ones too..)
    .. i haven't worked for 5 years now,my siblings are all professionals, my husband has a great job, i ain't got savings of my own,my friends excels in their own fields... i feel left behind. going back to school means not having my full attention to my kids, i feel guilty, yes! but i wanna do something different and something for myself this time (i hope i didn't sound selfish!) its not a bad thing, maybe when you get your nursing degree, they will thank you for that?,coz i think by doing this it would mean gaining back my confidence...
    i am positively sure you have a great confidence in yourself, and you just need a little push.. i think, as long as you have a good supporting family, and money is not an object, then there is no problem. you can start choosing a good schools or university now. if you have a first degree before, then maybe you dont have to study for 4 years in bsn. you have to do a research on that one though. just a word of caution, nursing school is hard, and you need full attention to study.and if you do want to pursue it, you really need to talk to your loveones and tell them you need all the help as much as you can, specially you have two young kids. but i am so excited for you, hopefully you will make a good decision, and we are here to help you with any nursing related questions.
    :holly1: :icon_cool: :snowman1: :holly3:
  7. by   kRk01
    lawrence01, caringnursenj, misty888, rnhawaii34,

    thank you very much!!!

    my flight sched. is on feb.15,'07... i'd be bringing along my kids with me. i've asked for my parents help and they're willing to give it... reading your messages really boost my morale, thank you guys!!!
    i'm really excited to go back to school...god bless you all!

    :santa2: :icon_smile: :holly3: merry christmas happy new year !!!
  8. by   RNHawaii34
    awww shucks, i am all teary eyed now, lol ! well goodluck to you too, and just don't hesitate to ask us anything if you have any questions related to nursing. happy holidays, and goodluck !! :icon_razz:
  9. by   BurstPurse
    Merry Christmas to everyone!


    To Mrs. Krk01, Don't feel sorry about yourself because keeping a family is a huge task. Be proud of what you have at the moment, you have your husband and your 3 kids. Keeping them healthy, physically and morally, that's a great accomplishment. Your husband's savings is also yours, because you are now united and considered as one. Don't compare yourself to your friends as well as your siblings, remember that each individual is unique in their own ways. What's good for you might not be good for others. And try to view your family as a complete poster and not just an individual portrait. Make yourself occupied or busy... have some hobby aside from your hubby.

    You will gain your confidence as soon as you enroll yourself in BSN. You are just 32 and that's still young as compared to some 2nd coursers who are on 40 to 50 age range. Some others are about to retire in the Philippines (51- 55). Some of them are doctors, engineers, soldiers, accountants and even managers. Inside the classroom, you are all of the same level.

    As I've said earlier, you are now a family and you must think and decide as a family. And plan things in advance. Lastly, I'm leaving you some questions to think about. Where are you going to practice your BSN? Kuwait, US, Phils.? If you are going to the US, is your husband ready to give up his good job in Kuwait?
  10. by   msdreamchaser
    hello... i'm quite inspired with your query... it's nice for moms to have a personal goals and growth as well regardless of how dedicated they are to their children and family. don't worry, there's no such thing as being too old to study. it might take some time for you to adjust but however i think your in the right track! welcome to all nurses! god bless!
  11. by   nrswnabee
    Quote from kRk01
    hello everyone!

    thank God i found this site coz I really needed words of encouragements at this time... I am 32 years old, married w/ 3 kids and a full-time housewife... I am presently here in Kuwait with my own family, at my age and situation, I am considering taking up BSN next year (June 07) back in Pinas...though there will be sacrifices like leaving my husband behind...I've asked advices from my closest friend and she gave me negative ones. ( she said i'd be too old to start a nursing job).. I haven't worked for 5 years now,my siblings are all professionals, my husband has a great job, I ain't got savings of my own,my friends excels in their own fields... i feel left behind. Going back to school means not having my full attention to my kids, I feel guilty, Yes! But I wanna do something different and something for myself this time (I hope I didn't sound selfish!)...coz I think by doing this it would mean gaining back my confidence...

    please give me advices...
    first off, i think you're being hard on yourself. being a full-time mom/wife is a 24/7 role and if we really think about it, it's no less of a career on it's own! raising 3 kids and keeping home to a family is a whole LOT of responsibility. how can your husband be a great success without your support? also, remember, you are the one major influence to your children reaching their full potential. that's one meaningful challenge even capturing sales or profits cannot match. so let me give you a pat in the back for all the good job you've done ~:smiletea:

    as to your desire to become a nurse, welcome to the club!!! one advise---don't set out having many grand, cotton-candy sweet expectations about it. many students i've met have all but glorious dreams of what a nurse is only to be bogged down by the "dirty" part of the job mid-semester. the ones who survive are those who LIVE their nursing-student life a day at a time yet SET their sights far ahead (and not dare look back!). of all the careers out there, nursing can possibly be one profession that "takes" more than it "gives" so do keep an open mind. pace yourself, too. if you have to take only a few subjects to test the waters, so be it. go full-blast when you are sure this is right for you.

    at the end of the day, you're the only one who can tell if this is right for you. set your gameplan and like one other poster, i must agree it's best that you involve your husband and kids as you chart your plans. God bless you!
  12. by   kRk01
    Quote from BurstPurse
    Merry Christmas to everyone!


    To Mrs. Krk01, Don't feel sorry about yourself because keeping a family is a huge task. Be proud of what you have at the moment, you have your husband and your 3 kids. Keeping them healthy, physically and morally, that's a great accomplishment. Your husband's savings is also yours, because you are now united and considered as one. Don't compare yourself to your friends as well as your siblings, remember that each individual is unique in their own ways. What's good for you might not be good for others. And try to view your family as a complete poster and not just an individual portrait. Make yourself occupied or busy... have some hobby aside from your hubby.

    You will gain your confidence as soon as you enroll yourself in BSN. You are just 32 and that's still young as compared to some 2nd coursers who are on 40 to 50 age range. Some others are about to retire in the Philippines (51- 55). Some of them are doctors, engineers, soldiers, accountants and even managers. Inside the classroom, you are all of the same level.

    As I've said earlier, you are now a family and you must think and decide as a family. And plan things in advance. Lastly, I'm leaving you some questions to think about. Where are you going to practice your BSN? Kuwait, US, Phils.? If you are going to the US, is your husband ready to give up his good job in Kuwait?

    hi there!

    thanks a lot!!!:icon_hug:

    well, he told me that he'd be waiting for me here back in Kuwait... but at the moment I'm not thinking about where to practice BSN, I'm thinking and setting my mind that I need to work hard to reach my goal... for me and for my family...God Bless!
  13. by   *RubySlippers*
    Hi, don't feel guilty, I am a mom of two and I started RNursing school at 34, I am 35 and graduate in May 2007. Also, the average Nursing student in the US is 36 years old. There are very few students under 30 in my class. My sons are 10 & 11, they are in school now, I stayed home with them while they were smaller, but I did take some pre-reqs on and off, here and there, which might be how you want to start out if your children are smaller. But, I have had the same feelings as you, I wish I would have done this when I was younger, but, I did not, I went to Cosmetologist school then got married at 21 and had my sons by age 25. Now it is my turn. I want to help my sons go to college and set an example for them so they will want to get a education. It is never too late and you will only be helping your children by helping yourself.
  14. by   vicvic
    Go for it and mabuhay ka!

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