THIS Is Why I Love Geriatrics

  1. 4 Just had to share this great story from work today.

    Paul and Sylvia are a married couple living at my assisted-living facility. They've been there several years, and Paul's health has taken a huge nosedive in the past couple of months.........he's severely anemic, requiring blood transfusions every few weeks, and he's just gotten over his fourth bout of pneumonia since the first of the year. Sylvia, of course, knows that his time may be short, and she's not in the best of health herself; in fact, she and I have had some private conversations (not to mention hugs and a couple of good cries) about "later", and how we as a facility will support her and help her get through it.

    Well, this morning a rumor got started that today was their 56th wedding anniversary, a story that was promptly confirmed by the couple, although they "didn't want any fuss made" and appeared to be almost embarrassed when the administrator announced it at lunch. Their sons and daughters had sent them a huge flower arrangement, so at least there was some acknowledgement of the day...........and then a couple of us staff members got to thinking about what we could do to help them celebrate for real. After all, we thought, how many anniversaries do Paul and Sylvia have left?

    So I asked them if they had any plans; they said No, so I asked them where they'd go to eat if they DID have plans. Sylvia promptly mentioned a local place they both enjoyed, and off I went to see what we could do about it. Soon everybody was in on it: the administrator, the lead med aide, the office manager, the other staff.........everybody, that is, but Paul and Sylvia. A dinner was ordered for delivery by the chosen restaurant; somebody dug out some white Christmas lights to decorate with; I sent my hubby and the lead med aide to my house to dig out some of the decorations we used at our silver anniversary party last year.

    Between the lot of us, the anniversary couple ended up with a dinner fit for kings, and a fancy table on the second floor balcony to sit at and be waited on by the administrative staff. There were fresh flowers picked right out of the garden out back; silver candles; roses and confetti arranged on the table; white twinkle lights festooning the balcony; even a festive dessert specially prepared for the celebrants.

    To see the smiles on the faces of those two precious people made every bit of effort worthwhile. Sylvia was crying; Paul was doing everything he could NOT to cry, and they were both so happy and so surprised that they could hardly speak! We told them we wanted to have an anniversary to remember, and that's exactly what they got............they both said even if they lived another 20 years and forgot their own names, they would never forget this night.

    And THAT'S why I love what I do.
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    About VivaLasViejas, ASN, RN

    VivaLasViejas has '17' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'LTC, assisted living, geriatrics, psych'. From 'The Great Northwest'; 56 Years Old; Joined Sep '02; Posts: 25,532; Likes: 38,210.

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  3. Visit  lovingtheunloved profile page
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    Quote from mjlrn97
    Just had to share this great story from work today.

    Paul and Sylvia are a married couple living at my assisted-living facility. They've been there several years, and Paul's health has taken a huge nosedive in the past couple of months.........he's severely anemic, requiring blood transfusions every few weeks, and he's just gotten over his fourth bout of pneumonia since the first of the year. Sylvia, of course, knows that his time may be short, and she's not in the best of health herself; in fact, she and I have had some private conversations (not to mention hugs and a couple of good cries) about "later", and how we as a facility will support her and help her get through it.

    Well, this morning a rumor got started that today was their 56th wedding anniversary, a story that was promptly confirmed by the couple, although they "didn't want any fuss made" and appeared to be almost embarrassed when the administrator announced it at lunch. Their sons and daughters had sent them a huge flower arrangement, so at least there was some acknowledgement of the day...........and then a couple of us staff members got to thinking about what we could do to help them celebrate for real. After all, we thought, how many anniversaries do Paul and Sylvia have left?

    So I asked them if they had any plans; they said No, so I asked them where they'd go to eat if they DID have plans. Sylvia promptly mentioned a local place they both enjoyed, and off I went to see what we could do about it. Soon everybody was in on it: the administrator, the lead med aide, the office manager, the other staff.........everybody, that is, but Paul and Sylvia. A dinner was ordered for delivery by the chosen restaurant; somebody dug out some white Christmas lights to decorate with; I sent my hubby and the lead med aide to my house to dig out some of the decorations we used at our silver anniversary party last year.

    Between the lot of us, the anniversary couple ended up with a dinner fit for kings, and a fancy table on the second floor balcony to sit at and be waited on by the administrative staff. There were fresh flowers picked right out of the garden out back; silver candles; roses and confetti arranged on the table; white twinkle lights festooning the balcony; even a festive dessert specially prepared for the celebrants.

    To see the smiles on the faces of those two precious people made every bit of effort worthwhile. Sylvia was crying; Paul was doing everything he could NOT to cry, and they were both so happy and so surprised that they could hardly speak! We told them we wanted to have an anniversary to remember, and that's exactly what they got............they both said even if they lived another 20 years and forgot their own names, they would never forget this night.

    And THAT'S why I love what I do.
    :yeahthat: Someone asked me today how I could care for "old people who are going to die anyway..." If my printer had ink I'd print this out!
  4. Visit  casi profile page
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    That gave me warm fuzzy feelings. I too like lovingtheunloved have been asked many times, especially by my peers how I could work with old people! Isn't it just depressing working with dying people?

    There is soooo much more too it than that. If you look at these people as just dying your missing out on the best part of you're work.
  5. Visit  suzy253 profile page
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    I love working with the geriatric population as well. Your story gave me goose bumps on my arms. They must have been absolutely thrilled. You sound like a gem and the ppl you work with as well for arranging this special dinner for them. Bless your hearts!
  6. Visit  AmyB profile page
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    That was beautiful. What a wonderful story. I, too, love working with the geriatric population and am surprised by how much I miss them when I'm off.
  7. Visit  JohnBearPA profile page
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    This brought a tear to my eye. I applaud you and your staff for taking such good care of this couple's emotional needs as well as their physical needs. THIS is what nursing should be all about! You're truly inspiring!
  8. Visit  smoo profile page
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    I think this was a very wonderful story............although I'm not for sure d/t the tears in my eyes making it difficult to see the screen

    smoo
  9. Visit  missqueenqann profile page
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    What a great story. Thanks for sharing.
  10. Visit  HannasMom profile page
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    Marla you are a great nurse!
  11. Visit  Angie O'Plasty, RN profile page
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    Marla, what a beautiful story!!

    I'm crying too, but it's the happy kind. God bless you, and all the caregivers like you!
  12. Visit  babynurselsa profile page
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    Marla, you guys rock!!!!

    Some of us were having a conversation the other day about things we had done for patients over the years. One of the docs told about when he was a resident in Chicago how he had driven several miles out of his way to go and find a homeless patients trash bag full of belongings behind a synagogue who had been admitted and was upset because he was afraid all his stuff would be lost.
    I had a family of one of my NICU babies several years ago who I found out the reason we rarely saw them was because they did not have gas money to get to the hospital. A little bird periodically left them a little gift in their baby's bed......plus a new outfit to go home in.
  13. Visit  ktwlpn profile page
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    Quote from mjlrn97
    Just had to share this great story from work today.
    ohhh-you made me cry.....
  14. Visit  rnmi2004 profile page
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    What a beautiful way for the staff to show honor & respect to this couple that has gone through so much together.

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