Hostile Family Members!

  1. Has Anyone Ever Had To Call The Police On A Hostile Family Member In Their Facility!
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    LPN and RN student; from US
    Specialty: long term care, vent/trach,


  3. by   Simplepleasures
    No, but someone actually had to call the police on a DON, in one facility I worked, she was diverting.
  4. by   TheCommuter
    No, not at any facility where I have ever worked.

    But you know what they say: "There's always a first time. . ."
  5. by   calliesue
    Yes, administrator had to call police on resident's significant other.
    Not R P.
    overheard making elopement plans after stopping to clean out res bank account.
    Like " honey, lets go get married after we stop at the bank."
  6. by   Nascar nurse
    Quote from tonicabd
    Has Anyone Ever Had To Call The Police On A Hostile Family Member In Their Facility!

    OK, so why do you ask? There's got to be a good story to this! Do tell.
  7. by   txspadequeenRN
    one time i had a patient dying and he was on hospice. he had children from a previous marriage but had been remarried for about 20 years. this blended family did not blend well together. all the children were grown and were half were fighting over the estate and the other half were fighting over either letting him die or keeping him alive. i walked in the room to see two male sons choking each other over the patients dying body. there was at least 15 people in the room and about that many outside the room ..all of them were about to have a go. i had to call ft worth pd to come take the majority of them to jail and escort the rest of them off the premises. this man ended up dying with no family present ..cause they all were in jail. i have more stories but that is probably the worst case scenario for me...

  8. by   snowfreeze
    Yes once, very drunk and threatening staff. I was supervisor at the time. Spouse of a patient, 3 hours of overtime for all of the paperwork involved. I called the administrator and the DON of course and they agreed on my actions. We had one security person at the time on nights and he wasn't making any progress with this person.
    People can be so weird. My call was more on the end of this person driving obviously drunk. We couldn't talk them into staying and taking a nap in an empty room. That person was stopped by local police driving a couple hundred yards down the road.
  9. by   marjoriemac
    I had to call in cops after a staff member got beaten up in car park (love triangle!) and various times when vandals have targetted homes I have worked in but never fpr residents family or staff - yet!
  10. by   nightmare
    Long time ago we had to have a resident arrested and removed from the building for beating up two staff members. He was never allowed back and subsequently re-homed elsewhere.
  11. by   CapeCodMermaid
    Yes...more than once...for threatening my staff or coming in looking for money for drugs.
  12. by   NrsheartTS
    Quote from Nascar nurse
    OK, so why do you ask? There's got to be a good story to this! Do tell.
    we had a new admission the night before so i went down to meet the patient and give her her AM meds. Well around 11 am while i was with another patient, i observed two family members walk in her room, not even 2 minutes later the patient son walks up to the nurses station and starts screaming and cussing at the whole nursing staff because he did not like the room his mother was in. He was so loud and aggressive that he was scarring all the other residents and their family members. i felt bad because some of the other patients family members were actually getting on the elevator to leave the floor because the were scared. We do not have security and i thought we should of called the police because of the way he was threatning the staff. The DON actually came out of her office and tried to calm the family member down and they went to speak in private so i didnt call the police on him.
  13. by   Ruby Vee
    had a family member for an icu patient that hung out in the room all the time. eventually, he got bored with that, so he'd hang out at the nurse's station. i was amazed how many nurses let him get away with that. they'd be having conversations about another patient, and there would be cecil, hanging on every word. i banned him from the nurse's station but let him hang out in his wife's room. the night nurse did the same thing, and thanked me for having the nerve to stand up to him. i came back to work the next day, and after 24 hours of hanging out in his wife's room, with brief trips out to his truck now and then to replenish the supply of jack daniels in his coffee mug, he decided that "mom is suffering too much. it's time to pull the plug."

    actually, it had been time to pull the plug weeks ago, but he elected not to, and now there wasn't really anything we could withdraw that would result in her immediate demise, which is what he seemed to want. the resident and i explained that to him. he stomped off the unit, off to his truck, and we all assumed he was filling up his coffee mug again. instead, he came back with a 9mm and said, as he brandished it, "this will solve mom's problems."

    he was arrested at 1200, and was back in the hospital visiting by 6:00. although, supposedly his 9mm had been taken away from him. later, the police searched his truck and found several handguns, three rifles and 2 shotguns.

    makes you fell real safe at work!
  14. by   tatgirl
    I am in the midst of dealing with a hostile family member myself. I have a pt who has a trach. Now mind you I work in ltc, so i also have 23 other residents I am responsible for. this particular pt gets most of my attention and time. The daughter comes in at all hours of the night and day. The only nurse she verbally abuses is me. She also says horrible things about me to my staff. My d.o.n is aware of this and told me the other day "{be nice to her and be her friend". <snip> I will not. I dont care about her, my priority is with her mother. I politely told the husband of the pt, that his wife is not my only pt, and that she gets alot of my time and attention. He has no problem with my nursing care, in fact he is pleased with my skills. The daughter is another story. She will come on the floor, and hunt me down, and procede to berate me and scream at me in front of other residents, visitors, and my staff. Suposedly the co I work for, has a harrassment free policy for the employees, but they are not holding up to it. There is a family meeting today so that should be interesting..... The daughter accuses me of not doing her mom'[s trach care, even though I have witnesses (my cna's) that go in the room with me to be a witness. In a 8 hour shift, I am in that womans room at least 10 times. My other residents only see me once or twice a shift.... I am so stressed out because of this.

    Last edit by nightmare on Jan 18, '08 : Reason: infraction of TOS

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