What do you think about negative comments from exp nurses about nursing? - page 6

Does it discourage you? Does it intimidate you or make you not want to do it? Especially for you career changers, if you read other forums on this site it can be discouraging!... Read More

  1. by   kids
    I had never, in 13+ years regretted becoming a nurse.
    Now that my body is wrecked I wish I hadn't but there was no way to predict 16 years ago that I was born with a defective spine that would destroy itself by the time I turned 30.
    My children have told me several times that they wish I hadn't.

    My 13 yo stepson's bio-Mom lives 2000 miles away, is also an RN and chose a career path 180' from mine. He says he wishes she wasn't a nurse.

    My Mom got her RN when I was 6. I remember my childhood as before & after. My softball team went state 3 years in a row, the closest she ever came to seeing me play ball was my picture in the newspaper. I wish she hadn't been a nurse.

    If you are considering nursing and have young children you need to consider more than just the material benefits for them. You can safely figure 8-10 years from the time you start your pre-reqs to establish you career.
    It takes more than a brand new license to get the shifts & positions you want.
    Think about holidays as almost no-one is immune from working them. Sure, a lot of places offer big bonuses and premium shifts to new grads, but I'll bet that fat bonus they are offering it while stepping on the necks of their experience staff.
    If your goal is to travel or work agency keep in mind it will take a few years of experience to safely do those jobs.
    Yes, you can walk out of one job if it sucks and there will be another one waiting, but remember, every time you do you start over at the end of the line for shifts and holidays.
  2. by   babs_rn
    Originally posted by kids-r-fun
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    Yes, you can walk out of one job if it sucks and there will be another one waiting, but remember, every time you do you start over at the end of the line for shifts and holidays.
    And, unfortunately, that is EXACTLY what you have to do in order to keep your salary moving up at any significant rate...get those recruitiing salaries because once they've got you, they'll hire in new grads making more than the nurses they've had there for 10 - 20 yrs!!
  3. by   renerian
    Agent actually you do have to worry about lay offs! I have been laid off 6 times as a nurse. It is not immune to lay offs. I have known lots of nurses who were laid off.

    renerian
  4. by   Gardengal
    Agent,
    There are layoffs from paticular jobs, but many jobs in yhe field. This makes nursing a much more stable profession than many. In no field is there true job security, but in nursing there is professional security. Jobs can disappear because of market place changes , but there are always other jobs. I am a believer in professional security.

    I work with many nurses with small children and teenagers, adult children and pets. The parents with teenagers typically don't like to work Friday night shift, but those with small children find it a good shift. If you work in an area with self scheduling or schedules balanced with numbers of requests you can be there for your children....better than with many other jobs.

    Yes, I get discouraged by nurses comments about the profession, but because it may decrease recruitment which is what we need. I have been a nurse for 22+ years. My husband (51yrs old) used to work warehouse and hospital storeroom, is in nursing school. Our eventual goal is traveling as nurses as we prepare for retirement. How many professions can you do something like that? If I listened to all the negative comments I would not be be pleased about my husband's 2nd career choice. I am pleased.
    Gardengal
  5. by   agent
    Thank you so much from your response.

    My aunt has been a nurse for 30+ years.. she says its hard but its also something you wont regret.
  6. by   mother/babyRN
    As an experienced nurse I have had to bite my tongue in the way I respond to people who think or know they want to be nurses..I tell them it is tough and not something for the faint of heart, but that I respect their drive and desire to do something important...I do, however, ask them what their concept of being a nurse means, and if asked, provide the truths of what actually is vs what is imagined. If you want something badly enough, no one can or should talk you out of it, but my thought is if you can be talked out of something by someone else, it wasn't your true aspiration in the first place. Since the beginning of time people have tried to talk other people out of nursing. We are all still here...
  7. by   Tilleycs
    I'm a little divided on the negative comments. On one hand, I am VERY glad for a realistic picture of what nursing is and isn't. I definitely want the FACTS about what I'm getting myself into. If someone paints a profession as all roses, I wouldn't believe them anyway. It WOULD be nice to have a career that's a better "fit" for me, and that's why I'm interested in learning about nursing.

    If someone came to me asking what it's like in the computer field, I'd try to give them a realistic picture so they can know what to REALLY expect (which is NOT what you hear on the radio commercials for computer classes - "I've got a friend who got her degree and got a job making ninety million dollars a year!" Right. And my grandmother's a werewolf...). It took me years to discover what to expect and what NOT to expect from the computer field.

    Sometimes when I read negative comments, it's hard to distinguish what comes ONLY with nursing, what comes with ANY career, and what comes from life (if that makes sense). I think there's some disillusionment that happens at some point in every person's life, regardless of what they've achieved or what career they've chosen. People can also ADD stress to their lives by making bad choices (getting in debt, drugs/alcohol, bad relationship choices, etc.), and your home life affects EVERYTHING. Sometimes it's hard to sort it out in people's posts.

    The complaining DOES get a little much sometimes. I've worked with engineers who make $50/60K a year who did nothing but complain about the company they CHOSE to work for. I understand that people need to vent sometimes, but for people to continually grind the same axe against their chosen profession...sometimes you wonder what they really want or what would really make them happy (if anything). Again, it may have as much to do with their outside lives as much as work stuff.

    People will always chase the "hot" fields. A few years ago, it was the computer field. My girlfriend is an OR nurse and has been a great resource, but I don't want to be a nurse because she's a nurse. I've thought about it for years, and I'm heading toward it, albeit slowly (I work 40+ hours a week, so I can only take one night course a semester, and I'm getting my prerequisites out of the way right now).
  8. by   MICU RN
    List all the things you want from a career and see if nursing can offer that; in addition, try shadowing as many nurses in the real world as you can. I was also told all the negative stuff and I found plenty of it to be true, for me. I am back in school because I did not feel that bedside nursing offered enough autonomy or income potential. However, I am still in nursing b/c I am pursuing an APN role. However, I know many nurses who enjoy the bedside role or nursing managemnet. So if you really think it is for you go for it.
  9. by   Hellllllo Nurse
    Originally posted by LauraLou
    I am in my mid-30's and am making a career change to nursing. I have done a lot of research into the field and have also heard the negative comments from experienced nurses.

    My theory is to learn what I can from their comments without getting too discouraged. I try to understand what specific circumstances have led them to become bitter about nursing. I want to use that information to guide my own career.

    My observations have been:

    1. Do not work on a Med/Surg floor. Workload is overwhelming and causes burn-out quickly.

    2. Be very careful what hospital you go to work for. You want one with a very good new graduate orientation program lasting 3 months plus. Avoid hospitals where you will be floated your second week and charge nurse your third.

    3. If you have a job that makes you miserable, leave and find a new one. There are too many opportunities for nurses to stay somewhere you hate.

    4. Nursing offers a wide variety of work settings. Take the time to find what area is best for you: ED, ICU, LD, home health, research, insurance company, etc.

    No matter what career you choose, you will have nasty coworkers, unreasonable clients, unpleasable bosses, budget cuts and poor management decisions.

    Listening to the experienced nurses, I know burn-out is a career hazard. I will be careful to watch for signs of it in myself and make changes as needed.

    Good luck everyone!
    I like your perspective, LauraLou. I've been a nurse for ten years, and it IS a tough, tough job. However, I think your observations will help you to be prepared for what it's like out there.

    As a nurse, I've been torn between wanting to encourage future nurses, and warn them about the realities of nursing. I mean, I don't want to discourage anyone from persuing a dream, BUT...Nursing is in a crisis for a reason. No other profession is currently in such a state of turmoil.

    The dissatisfaction that many nurses feel goes far, far deeper than the comments of "every profession has its problems, the grass is always greener," etc.

    Here is a link to my student site, for anyone who wishes to view it.

    http://groups.msn.com/TheStudentNurs...ereadthis.msnw

    Best of luck to all the students!:kiss
    Last edit by Hellllllo Nurse on Sep 11, '03

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