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Has your sex life dwindled since beginning Nursing School. My husband says he is stressed out with work. We have a great relationship, rarely argue, hold hands plenty but no sex. I really think that me studying all the time is the problem, like the lack of time we used to have. Once I am done studying I am totally ready to go but he just wants to go to bed (to sleep). Anytbody else have a similar problem?

I just finished school this past Friday, and we had a lot of sex over the weekend - most certainly to make up for lost time. My husband kept saying, "I missed my wife!" and "It's so great to have my wife back!" We certainly fit it in here and there throughout school, but between him traveling for work every month or so and my crazy schedule - he works 11a-7p, I had to get up by 0615 most mornings - we only spent a few of the same hours sleeping, let alone doing anything else in bed. What we did do on weekends was I made time just about every week for us to go out and do something - drinks, dinner, etc. I usually had Fridays off, so we'd go out Thursday or Friday most weekends. We're not the type to write it into a planner, that just wouldn't work for us. We'd go out, come home, have sex, sleep, wake up, have sex, study. Then that would be about it for the rest of the week. One girl in my accelerated program did manage to get pregnant in the middle of a semester, so some people are finding the time! I think it's an absolutely healthy discussion by the way, and I was feeling a little neglected for 4 semesters too - wasn't just the hubby.

Specializes in Geriatrics, Cardiac, ICU.
Kind of an obnoxious statement. If you are with a man and you are afraid he is going to have sex with another woman if you don't "take care of him" then you are with the wrong man. I kind of feel bad for people who even think like that- they might have pretty unhappy relationships.

If you think Nursing School is rough on your sex life- have a couple kids.

Having kids is no excuse for not having sex.

Thats why they make door locks.....lol (taking into consideration that they are old enough to occupy themselves without burning down the house)

:wink2: :D

Specializes in Case management, occupational health.
Kind of an obnoxious statement. If you are with a man and you are afraid he is going to have sex with another woman if you don't "take care of him" then you are with the wrong man. I kind of feel bad for people who even think like that- they might have pretty unhappy relationships.

I think you have your head in the sand a little. People cheat- a lot! One medical journal I read last semester stated that up to 80% of men and 55% of women cheat during their lifetime.

Specializes in Neonatal ICU (Cardiothoracic).
I think you have your head in the sand a little. People cheat- a lot! One medical journal I read last semester stated that up to 80% of men and 55% of women cheat during their lifetime.

I think a statement like that needs a link.....

Specializes in Tele,CCU,ER.

Not having sex shouldn't make a man cheat on you! If they do, they truly don't care for you. But this is besides the point. motyandproudofit you stated, "We have a great relationship, rarely argue, hold hands plenty but no sex." YOU HAVE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP!!!! Thats great!! He should understand that you are busy studying and from what you write he does. Now regarding the sex, maybe you should talk to him and set up a date! :) GOOD LUCK

Specializes in Future Peds Nurse.
I think you have your head in the sand a little. People cheat- a lot! One medical journal I read last semester stated that up to 80% of men and 55% of women cheat during their lifetime.

That is a terrible statistic to post for two reasons, A.) statistics are so unreliable, and B.) you don't have any link verifying it.

That is the same as me saying: I read in the paper somewhere that the world is flat.

Specializes in Tele,CCU,ER.

I don't believe that only 20 out 100 don't cheat. Where did you get this fact? I really want to know?

Coming from first hand experience, an affair can and will happen if you don't find time for your spouse. About a year into school I found out my spouse was having an emotional affair with a woman in his office,and had been going on for months but I was too busy with school to even notice. He felt that I didn't have time for him as I always had a book in my hand. The past two years since then have been alot of work and tough at times. I have met so many nursing students who entered school married and by the end are either getting a divorce or considering leaving their spouse. Nursing school can put such a strain on your relationship, you can't expect your spouse or significant other to just sit and wait for you. You need to take time for that person just as you are for your studies. It just may save your relationship.

Specializes in Tele,CCU,ER.

I'm sorry to hear about that shm02. I'm glad it didn't happen to me. I went to nursing school for four years and always made time for my boyfriend, even though we didn't live together... I think you have to find a balance between school and personal life. But your significant other should also be there for you when you need them. Let them know how hard school is. Communication is key.

Interesting post, a little scary... but interesting nonetheless.LOL I think i will use my spring break, christmas break, etc to make up for the lost time that my nose will be in a book.

you can't expect your spouse or significant other to just sit and wait for you

One should be able to especially when the sacrifice benefits the couple in the end.

What ever happened to the wedding vow of "for better or for worse?":uhoh21:

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